I Broke Up With My Fiancee, Did i do the right thing?

Two days ago, Yes very recently i broke up with my fiancee.
We've been together for almost 3 years. I truly adore the women but recently things have been changing. She seems like a different person and i couldn't take it anymore. The constant arguing, the deceit, she doesn't bother to visit me anymore.

I seriously fell in love with this women the first time i laid eyes on her. I Wanted to grow old together and it seems kind of wimpy to admit but i really hurts so bad and im crying while typing this and i cant really stop myself no matter how hard i try.

I Just want to know. Did i do the right thing? because i dont think i did. it really fucking hurts. not like a physical pain but a soul shattering pain....

Just some background if needed:

I Met her at work almost 3 years ago, first time we spoke i asked her out on a date and she said yes. We went to go see a movie and eat and at the end of the date we had like a movie moment.... She was walking away after we said bye to each other and i pulled her back towards me and grabbed her by the face and kissed her goodbye. a few weeks later i admitted that i fell in love with her and i never want to let her go. she started crying and said the same.

On our one year anniversary i took her on a vacation and it was amazing.....
Everything was good until the last 3 months where things went downhill. She constantly accused me of cheating. I caught her in so many lies that the trust wasn't there anymore. and theres so much more to explain but the more i type the more i want to hide under my bed for weeks.

 

What ever how you feel was the best choice.
If you broke up over aruging then that's kinda stupid, every relationship will involve some disagreements.

 

Sorry to be Negative Nancy Ron Regean but this is a Gaming fourm most people are underage and not married. you should consult a family member or friend about personal issues we can not make the descion for you .. thanks have a good day.

 

this may be a gaming forum but it's full of intelligent human beings and actually the majority of active members are not underage. i've seen more intelligent posts on these forums then i've seen anywhere else.

and this is the general\offtopic section.

and it wasn't just the arguing =\

 

Follow your heart if you dont feel commited to the relationship leave dont be stuck in an unhealthy relationship where all you guys do is fight because your going to regret it for the rest of your lives. Sit her down and tell her how you feel and see how she reacts or consult a counsler and discuss your problems. Im postive she is going to shift the blame on you like you were the one not giving her enough attention or other issues and if she does that she is most likely guilty. She is clearly not commited to the relationship or bond you both have and is taking it for granted do not let her make you think that all the troubles she is causing is okay because it is not and alot of people will agree. Tell her you need time apart to think and by the end of that time you feel that you truly love her and accept all her flaws than take her back but if you feel that you have enough move on and find someone else that will love and respect you as a human being.



But what do i know? im only 14

 

I think you made the right choice, if you're no longer happy when you're with her, there will always be someone else.

My gf split up with her fiance about a year ago and we've been together for 10 months, we're happy.

 

I don't think you did. If you really love her then try and sort things out. Your probably just going through a rough patch. Try and sort things out, quickly.

 

Did you try to fix things between you two?

 

quite a few times actually

 

Then if she isnt putting her part in then you made the right choice. Move on with your life and hopefully she will later regret it.

 

Stop thinking about what she is doing and think about what you're doing. There has to be some reason for her to be treating you like this, even if you don't think you're doing anything wrong. Remember, after break-ups, it's always the man's fault.

 

There is some things you just have to deal with, like you said you have been together 3 years? and its been great for 3 years? up until 3 months? what you want a fucking fairy tale dude?

Shit like that is very very common for the human species, I would be surprised if they ever was a couple who didn't fight, have a row, or break up within the period of 3 YEARS.

Marriage ain't like you see it on TV also, you probably done the right thing since you clearly can't handle that side of marriage.

 

There is some things you just have to deal with, like you said you have been together 3 years? and its been great for 3 years? up until 3 months? what you want a fucking fairy tale dude?

Shit like that is very very common for the human species, I would be surprised if they ever was a couple who didn't fight, have a row, or break up within the period of 3 YEARS.

Marriage ain't like you see it on TV also, you probably done the right thing since you clearly can't handle that side of marriage.

 

There is some things you just have to deal with, like you said you have been together 3 years? and its been great for 3 years? up until 3 months? what you want a fucking fairy tale dude?

Shit like that is very very common for the human species, I would be surprised if they ever was a couple who didn't fight, have a row, or break up within the period of 3 YEARS.

Marriage ain't like you see it on TV also, you probably done the right thing since you clearly can't handle that side of marriage.

 

sorry bro thats how it is with chicks, especially if she looks good, they have so many more options than us guys do.

 

Mate, I can assure you if things are meant to be then yous will get back together. I think you made the right choice, things would have only gotten worse. Hopefully yous will overcome this situation and get back together and learn from the mistakes. Best wishes to you my friend.

 

Can I just add, trust is a key part of any relationship.

 

that was unbelievably profound finn... even though you probably googled it either way it helped a lot thanks.

 

You've obviously never done Ex But for the most part, Finn is right. Only you know if you made the right choice. Time will tell and hopefully you feel like you did the right thing.

 

`Basically what i said above the 5 paraggraphs basically summed up what everyone is posting...