Breakup, I need help, please, urgently... :/

You can't expect her to continue giving you chances if you keep flirting/thinking about other girls.

 

I know... It's just :/... I dunno... we're working things out and stuff and we might have to have a long distance relationship, sadly.

 

pking your actually a noob.

seriously hit up some x rated material and use your own hand if its that bad, no girl deserves to get cheated on.. let alone cheated on 3 times.

 

Even addictions fade. You can only quit if ure willing to, you say you love her, then get her back, without your dick penetrating more vaginas

 

As much as I deserved that weak insult, I'm here for actual advice, not people to bash me.

 

I didn't read what anyone else posted but your claiming that you loved her and stuff but then you went and talked to other girls and tried to sleep with other girls ? Call me crazy but I really don't think you loved her if you love someone you would do everything for them and never do anything to hurt them ..Honestly you should just move on because after the second time around I doubt she will take you back sorry ..

 

She is taking me back, but it's even more complicated than before... Now that she left to move, she says I can move with her. Problem is, I'm 16 and have no real reason to leave home. She did when she moved in with me... I want to be with her, and it's either moving in with her and her mom, or long distance... Not to mention her crazy ex lives there (he stalks her.. and did some other things, that I'm not going to mention here)...

Also, if you're going to say she should get a restraining order against him, she can't. She went for it twice. Once because he was harassing her, and once when he assault her (in public too... Apparently 2 witnesses isn't good enough proof).

 

Have you tried getting help for the sex addiction?

That might be a factor that plays in your depression.

As for the girl, I know it sounds ridiculous, but do you think you and her would spend the rest of your lives together? I'm not saying you didn't love her, but things change, you're 16 and have a whole life ahead of you. You still want to sleep around with women, which most guys do at that age, so I don't think you are ready for a committed relationship to be honest with you.

You may not be able to forget her, but think of the good times you had. Don't you want to her to be happy? If this didn't work out then at least be able to tell her that you wish her the best of luck in the future in whatever she does.

Keep in touch with her if you want, but it's only going to make things worse. Find a new girl, fall in love with her, get help for your sex addiction and just enjoy what you have now, you never know... A lot of things can happen between now and say 5 years from now. Maybe you'll run into her again in the future.

If you need someone to talk to about your depression, PM me and I'll be glad to talk to you over MSN, as I have had some experiences with it aswell.

Hope all goes well man, best of luck and keep your head up high

 

Well man go with your heart really dude you can't let anyone come between you guys if you really love her you just honestly have to say fuck her past and just aim for the future man . She moved in with you because she trust that you love her man. Its honestly something you have to do on your own you just have to do with what you feel ...

 

Thanks man... This means a lot. But now she just texted me that her best friend is in love with her :/ she is supposed to visit him this summer too...I always knew he liked her, a lot... And it worried me that she was going, since she was going essentially to party with him and he refused to ever let me go :/... The sex addiction part, it might just be hormones, but I've honestly been like this since I was around 10-11... Which I think is sorta young. I don't want to let her go... But I tried, for her own good, but she wouldn't let me... she's insanely in love with me and I couldn't leave her :/. Also, yeah, things change fast, I know that... I know if we broke up, I'd never be the same, though (I've had experiences like this, and they've really fucked me up)...
I'll probably PM you when I have time, thanks, man.

@50 Posts - Yeah, I'm going to try and stay with her :/ it won't be easy though... I have to really prove myself..

 

Try and be happy for her man, you may not like this guy but as long as she is happy that's all that matters. Try to stay in touch with her though as to have her keep you updated on how she is treating him. Make sure he isn't treating her bad.

It's hard to forget man and it takes a while but it does pass, I will guarantee you it myself. Took me about 8 months to forget a girl and am glad I did. Don't give up though, just make sure she is happy, with you or not.

Keep in touch man.

 

Man, I know how you feel that her bestfriend texted her and stuff. I really liked this girl and I sort of asked her out, and she said she didn't want a relationship at that moment. A few days later, I saw her facebook relationship status change and she was with one of my friends. They flirted a lot, but I didn't think it'd come down to this.

As Gohan said, try to stay in touch. Being the best of friends is the only thing you can do better at. Make sure she is happy and help her with any problems.

If you ever need anything, PM me man. I can help as I've been through several different occasions of this incident.

Take care for now. :b

 

Well, she's staying with me... But yeah... I feel so bad for her :/ Whenever someone looks at me now, I feel as if their eyes are piercing down into my soul, stabbing my heart and judging me. I feel like they know what happened...
I'll PM you my msn, ;]

 

*sigh* Great, now she goes to a party and she's high and drunk with a whole bunch of college guys :/...

 

Stop thinking with your penis like Tiger. Your just not ready for a serious relationship.

 

wasn't ment to be a insult. its true. you have an addiction - i have a gambling addiction my gf has a drug addiction. we can all change. HELP YOURSELF. PROVE TO YOURSELF, then prove to her.

 

She moved to back to the town she was in before and her ex knows she's there now... he's going to pursue her, harass her.. Even more, but I really don't want to get into that.. Her mom and her keep getting into fights over stupid shit and she's telling her to move to her fathers (approx 2.5k miles away from me)... I really don't know what to do :/...

 

Just literally beg her to take you back, if your claiming you ''loved eachother'' then im 100% sure she feels the same way and still has major feelings for you, therefore you should show her you've changed and would love a second chance.

again literally beg, man trust me it works , if you dont do it now, shes going to move on and then your going to regret it big time mate ;P.

Good luck bro.

 

If you loved her, you would honestly hold back from sex. Just like if you really wanted to quit cigarettes, you wouldn't have any more.

You need to think about whether you truly love your girlfriend, or whether you just want a friendly fuckbuddy.

 

Hi and I'm sorry to hear about your situation. While I don't have the answer, I hope this simple analogy will help. A family member had passed it down to me quite some time ago when I had broken up with someone as well. We all have break ups. Don't worry about the lack of items, just take care of yourself for now. The analogy is that when you meet someone you are blue and they are red. Once together you become purple. After time you become soo used to and accustomed to being purple that that becomes nearly all that you know. However, once you have broken up, it is a hard transition to make for you to become blue again. So just work on getting yourself blue once more, and try to move on from being purple. I assure you that she too is trying to become red again. I hope that helps a little...