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[razorwire97]

I'll make this short and easy. I am 14 so don't ask questions like that. There is this girl that I like and she is almost 14 going into 8th grade. I recently found out she has had sex multiple times with an ex of the same age. I have almost everything except sex and this thought of her having it makes me almost sick. I can't look at her the same and all conversation seems to drift toward the topic. Why do I feel this way? I do like her and she likes me, but has a boyfriend she didn't tell me about :/

 

[tomahawk297]

I'll be honest here. I was your age a couple years ago and believe me, Don't bother with outrageously horny hormonal young teenage whores. Unless your looking for some careless sex which is all i talked to girls for when i was 14 to, i know it's wrong and nowadays it seems if your 13 or older you've had sex already. But at that age, if they've had sex with multiple guys already and she was talking to you and hadn't told you about her boyfriend, don't look for a relationship in her. She'll cheat on you. But in a positive ending, hey, you could always just hookup with her. She sounds easy enough.

 

[oxodium]

From the information you've given us to go out, she doesn't sound very loyal. And her pants seem far to easy to gain access too.

I'd stay away from her, unless you are trully madly in love with her. Can't say it's likely to find ' the one ' at 14.

 

[FaceFalling]

I wouldn't go for it as she seems to be a whore.

 

[tofuhamster]

You feel this way, because I guess you just aren't use to hearing this stuff about people you care about.

I'd stop liking her, she seems easy and I wouldn't trust her in a relationship.

 

[Rina M]

To be honest, the way your username says razorwire97, the 97 might have already given away how old you are, I'd assume you are born in the year 1997, which makes sense now that you have told us you're 14. Be more careful about choosing usernames next time.

Back on topic, I've had a similar experience once, but nothing about sex. It was about this girl, and there's rumors going around saying she's a cunt, but I didn't give a fuck about it. One day, she talked to me, and I talked to her like I would with strangers, and eventually our relationship grew, and it seems to me she isn't the way rumors had talked about her, and it seems to me she was just a plain nice pretty girl and probably rumors were spread to try to drag her down.

However, it wasn't a happy ending. Just a month ago, I found out that things were not in place, some things just don't seem reasonable and she seems to be hiding lots of thing, eventually she told me she smoked, (and wow this is at 14, I was two years older than her) so I began to have my doubts. Soon, I realized that the rumors became to true to actually believe her, so I questioned her, that night, she cried, I didn't actually hear her cry but I was on MSN questioning her, but I could probably feel the atmosphere, and she told me she was heartbroken and all that. After that, we didn't talk.

It's the holidays now, and I finally came to a conclusion, she might just be a whore, or a cunt, or might not, or maybe I have thought too much, but it's all over now.

 

[Sillymonkey]

This is going to sound horrible coming from a girl, but...

Just hit it and quit it. From the way you make her sound (in that short post), she won't mind you not sticking around.

 

[MohtasaUnique]

Working with kids a lot, I get a unique insight to a lot of things as I monitor them to make sure they're behaving. One thing pertains to this, and that's the fact that people your age either want attention or avoid attention because of their various social unsurities. A way some get their fix of attention or praise which they crave is to mention key topics constantly. I think this is why your conversations invariably drift toward her sexual experiences.

I'd say she's very interested in you and is therefore compelled to try and impress you, and she'd think that you are impressed by her "maturity".

This is just a guess and it would be easier to get a read in person rather than indirectly from thousands of miles away, but if that's the case, your best bet is to let her know that's not something you're drawn to. You never know, she might even be blowing it widely out of proportion and making up a lot of it to get your attention. You won't know unless you talk to her straight, no pretenses. Easier said than done though, I suppose

 

[CheeseyChicken]

Sounds like she gets around a bit no offence lol, so i wouldn't go there wouldn't wanna be picking up any diseases especially at that age lol

 

[razorwire97]

Thanks guys! You were all actually really helpful and sillymonkey your post made me lol

 

[SexayMistahBee]

Does it make you sick because you're jealous, or mad at yourself that you were not her first?

 

[Lym]

I don't know why you're asking about this. She's a slut and she has a boyfriend.
Stay away from that unless you want to be cheated on.

You can learn easy by listening to me. Or learn the hard way.
Trust me when I say this.

If a girl has a boyfriend and she likes other boys. She's going to cheat.
If she cheats, she's going to cheat on you.