Looking for some help.

Background info:
Been Dating 10 months.
Was in majority a sexual relationship.
I do care for her.
We have broken up before, hasn't been smooth sailing.
She is more committed than I am.

Story:
We have been dating for 10 months, and recently I have been considering my future more seriously, and as University is approaching I need some advice. We have dated for 10 decent months, on and off, and the reason I am coming here is whether I should end it now. I am going to University, she isn't, she isn't motivated in the same way I am, and has life goals that are not the slightest bit similar to mine. She wants to live together, and get a puppy, whilst I am thinking about moving out, being free and enjoying life while I am young.

I just feel like she has NO life goals, and that worries me. And I do wonder if I would be better off without her.

I go to family/friends but they have never liked her, so getting an honest opinion from them is like trying to get apple juice from an orange.

Post here please, and soon.

 

Man take your chances on the road and what I mean by that is, you to evaluate your life right now for the better of both. She might see life at a diffrent perspective than you right now. Shes thinking about family the fun life raising kids, but she is not seeing the hard work and dedication required to live that kind of life you are. You seem to know that without an education its hard to get somewhere in life.
What you need to do is go ahead on and tell her how you feel im sure she would understand, I mean love is a tough bond she might come to her senses and want to continue school with you just becsuse she loves you that much. You guys have to communicate, if you dont tell her now it will hurt both of you later, youll find yourself saying " mabe if I told her a bit earlier she'd be here with me" and she would be saying " maybe if he would have motivated me a bit more and just guided me I know the right direction we would still be together" and believe me thats then last thing you want. You never wanna feel like you could have done more.

@OP just let her know man, this is what I want so we need to compromise.

 

Its past that, any other advice?

 

How old are you?

I'm married, and have been with my wife for nearly 5 years.

 

Its past that meaning ?

 

17, going to university. Highschool 'romance'.

She has made her choices, and she graduated school with crap results, basically eliminating her from any possible university course.

 

Depends on what you want out of life, if she has no motivation and doesn't go through college/university she will just end up at a dead-end job or being a housewife. There is nothing wrong with either, you just have to be willing to support her and she will likely be very clingy as you are basically the only thing from her ending up back on her parents couch.

If that's not what you are a looking for then you probably should move on. Its a lot easier for me to say it than it is for you to do it, but you probably should. If you honestly don't mind her working a dead-end job/staying at home her life and you care for her then maybe you should trying considering the merits of her goals in life.

 

Annex, that's why I want out? I want a girlfriend who is motivated? Wants to get out, get a job, ect. She is more then content living off me. And tells me that she doesn't need qualifications because she can live off me.

She has no goals? Doing it will be hard because she really is a good person. She is just the handbrake on my life.

 

Those two statements completely contradict each other. A good person doesn't freeload off of you or anyone, you are just young and enjoy the sex. Just tell her that her lack of motivation is completely unappealing, and that if the situation was reversed she would leave you too.



nobody likes a freeloading man, but apparently women have this idea that its alright for them to freeload.

Anyways I'll leave it at that before I go on one of those anger tangents at women's rights movements.

 

Well why do you need advise man seems like your mind is made up do what you have to do. Leave her alone.

 

Thanks man, you have been really helpful. Still looking for other opinions though. I hate freeloaders myself, I think people were given arms, legs and a brain to do something goddammit.

I might add that she's freeloading off choice, she's actually a really smart girl.

 

10 Months is a long time to just give something up @nerfed

 

Yes I know it is man but better now than later. Its just a choice you have to make and be willing to deal with, look at it this way if you can let her go and not look back then its thebright choice, if you let her go and look back you've made a mistake.

 

I am going to meet up with her, and see what that leads.

 

If I were in your position, I, too, would leave her. I don't like people being burdens upon me, and so, if you're ambitious, then you don't want her hindering your progression through the ladder of life.

 

Thanks! Seems like its for the best!

 

You seem ambitious, which is good ; Your GF seems to have no set goals, does not have good education and my advice would be to leave her, she will be a burden to you and your endeavors.

 

I just rode around to her place.

Its over. Thanks guys.

 

Wow dude, you guys are so young.

Things can change so quickly.

I'm 19, married for one year, together with her since sophmore year.

One year ago, I didn't have my own place, I do now, a nice one at that.

Didn't have a job, I do now, I work fulltime, and own my own company, proudly bringing in ~4100/month.

I lost 70 lbs, and got 2 dogs.

All in one year.

If you love her, be with her, status means nothing, one year ago I was and had nothing, now I do, in another year, I might have nothing again.

What you're saying is all relative.

I am highly against "higher Learning", such as college, as you can tell by my i'm sure many grammatical errors and spelling.

Nonetheless, even though I am doing all this, I don't know what I want to do for the rest of my life, and I shouldn't know.

I don't even know where my faith lies in many aspects.

Do what you feel is right, not what will make you most succesful.

 

I can tell you have 'street smarts' She has nothing.