Best Friend -URGENT-

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To be honest if your parents really don't want you to be friends with him anymore, then it will be hard to make them give in. If you really wanted to stay friends with him/see him you could rebel against your parents, but I don't think that would be the best solution. Maybe you could try to make a deal with them. Ask them if you and your friend stop smoking/drinking etc. if they will let you still be friends. I know it would be hard to do that, but if you really want to stay friends maybe it's the only choice. Good luck with whatever happens, and I hope this helps.

 

I'm definetly going to stop smoking, and drink the same way I always have..i've never really been in to that. If I say that to them they're just going to dismiss it; there's no chance whatsoever that that would work.

 

Its your life, not your parents. You can decide who your friends with, what you do, They'll threaten you with loss of items, money, grounded etc, keep through it, they'll eventually give up.

 

Stay with your friend, my parents used to say that to me but I knew they were just being stupid, you and your friend will eventually stop doing stupid shit and you know it. So with that said, it's not worth dropping a friendship for a reason that will come to an end eventually.

 

My family pulls guilt trips...
I'm not losing a friend over this though. I suppose i'll tell them; perhaps he was thinking like me, (I thought it was more of taking money from the birthday boy, not my parents) . But they put it in perspective; and I realized it was stealing. And just to hear what he has to say...i'm perfectly fine with them not liking him. But he changed my life, you may be thinking "for the worse, obviously." but no. it's really complicated and far too much to type...I just really hope this all works out.

See, I don't live with my mom or dad. My mom died when I was young and my dad lives about half an hour away and I only see him occasionally...the two authority figures in my life are my aunt and cousin (cousin is in her 30s). My cousin said "He's not welcome at our house anymore", while my aunt said "You can't talk to him anymore" ...so I don't even know where they stand at the moment.

 

If you live with an aunt/cousin... what are you worried about?

Honestly, you messed up, but it happens. However, they aren't your biological parents, and no matter what they've done for you, the decision to make you stop seeing your friend is not very intelligent at all. You must learn for yourself who is bad to be around, and who isn't.

You also have to consider the fact that you're only as good as the friends you keep. If you have goals in life, and your friend doesn't, he will hold you back from those goals. Not through either of your decisions, but through the rest of the world's eyes. You're judged by the friends you have by almost everyone.

That being said, my advice would be continue to see your friend, and tell your guardians that you've made your decision, that you're sorry that they will no longer allow him around their house, but if that is their wish you will honor it. Follow their rules, but do not allow them to stop you from seeing a friend.

 

What do you mean?

And thank you for giving me a good way to word it "If you don't want him around the house i'll honour that..."

Perfect, thank you.

 

I mean that... while they are still family and you should respect/love them as much as you are capable of doing so... the bond just isn't the same that it would be with an actual parent. So, I'm surprised that you worry about their opinion so much given the relation to them.

And no problem .

 

Well it's been since I was like 8..I used to refer to my aunt as mom...and my dad is surprisingly distant in my life. If they died or abandoned me or something i'd have nowhere else to go...so it's not necessarily valuing they're opinion..they're opinion is law. My aunt also got legal guardianship of me when my mom died so...

 

Bump!
Please give me some more viewpoints guys...the topic is definetly going to resurface Saturday.

 

I would say "If you don't want him in your house I value that but I'm not going to stop talking to him. He's my best friend and I don't want to lose him; he made a mistake but so did I but you shouldn't punish our friendship for that", or something around that lines. I believe talking to them about it it's the best solution, hiding it and doing it on their backs isn't a good option.

 

Yeah i'm done toking until I move out and make my own money, but i'll still drink. It's surprising how easy it is to get away with captain morgan in a bottle of coke or something along those lines.

Whatever dude..i'd become a monk if I could stay friends with this kid.