Are relationships and looking for love a waste of time?

Anyway, i had a question basically i feel like i'm wasting my time with relationships and trying too look for love. My studies have been kinda of suffering because im either texting the girl or just distracted from my studies. I just don't want too go through the feelings anymore and being hurt with a break up. So would it be wise too not seek a relationship or just focus on my education till im older? Also how do you guys multitask with school and studies. I feel having a girlfriend takes up alot of time already.

 

I wouldn't suggest spending a good majority of your time SEEKING a relationship, but I'd definitely suggest talking to people you'd like to be involved with! i've been in the same situation, and I even feel my social life/relationships with people picked up when I stopped obsessing over it!

 

I'd personally say focus on your studies if having a girlfriend ha that effect on your grades. You can get a girlfriend whenever you want, grades or more important at this stage I your life.

If you do get one though simply plan hen you're goin to study, if your girlfriend asks if you'd like to go somewhere say no I'm studying. If she bitches about it then she doesn't understand the importance to you and she doesn't deserve to be your girlfriend. She should respect other peoples needs, not just her own. The occasional miss of studying is ok, just try not to miss all of them.

 

Just live your life and love will find you. Dont look for love and dont sit there waiting on it. Also just be yourself and live your life honest. When you find a girl that you think is "the one" dont fall head over heels, just be natural about it, falling head over heels usually messes things up.
Soz for giving you a whole list of donts

 

This made my night. My situation is quite similar to Neonflux's.

Thanks man, you've really changed the way i'll live my life.

 

Honestly when you're not looking for love it will hit you.

I went a year without a gf and I randomly found the girl that I may marry one day. But yes texting does getting annoying, I always shut my phone off and make it known when studying.

 

Let them come to you. Try smarting up a bit and doing your hair I have and I am now alot more succesfull with women when I was say 16 although I did alright back then. Concentrate on your studys first and let the girls come to you .

 

I think that you should not spend all your time "looking" for a relationship, as the desperation will probably only lead you into bad ones anyways. Just wait, focus on your life & on other things that are important to you and let it happen naturally. These kinds of things seem to happen when you least it expect it.. you will meet somebody somewhere, find that you get along really well and have alot of things in common, and then next thing you know you have a longterm gf who you are madly in love with

 

no prob, glad i could help.

also zerkerfist has a good point too

 

This thread is really helpful, thanks people.

 

This was my attitude when I started dating my current girlfriend. I didn't try too hard and let everything go naturally. Best decision I have made to date.

To OP:Everything said has been good advice. Your school should come first and whoever you talk to or date should understand that. Don't go looking. Let it be natural. I firmly believe there is someone for everyone. It just takes longer for some people to find each other.