About my girlfriend

Hey everyone! I need your option on something... or advice!

First let me introduce myself! My name is NTF. I got my name from the Naruto cartoon, sexy show! I am 17 years old college student (Happy I am a guide now because roman noodles are getting crazy). I am a nerd in real life. I specialize in computers mathematical base, the whole nine yards. Because of this I have few friends in real life.

However, I look nothing like like a nerd lol.. Anyways on to the problem!

About 2 years ago I met the perfect girl, a girl of my dreams. Her personification was the thing that got me hooked to her. I fell in love with her. We started dating and we became lovers. I am a romantic guy and I treat her like the world. ..

Sadly.. I've been hiding a secret from her and from myself. I am attracted to her.. But I'm not physically attracted to her.. I mean she is very beautiful and "hot" but she's not my type.. of... person.

What I'm trying to say is.. I'm not really attracted females.. Don't get me wrong, I love my girlfriend a lot and is the reason I can't keep this from her for long.

How would I be able to tell her this without her being too upset?
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So, you're gay?

 

Yeah, that's the first thing that got in my head as well. Are you trying to say that you're gay?

 

@Deacon

I find 50% of females to be unattractive and around 100% of guys to be unattractive. Bottom line is, you don't have to be attracted to the opposite sex to be straight. it's not always about the looks, when I'm in a relationship theres a huge chance I don't find her attractive, but honestly that's not gonna stop me from loving her. If your relationship is strictly based on looks, then you're obviously to young to understand what real love is.

@Nine Tailed Fox

Your girlfriend will understand, even if she doesn't oh well theres plenty of fish in the sea. Make sure you're sensitive and try not to make her obvious flaws, more obvious. Worst thing you can do is bluntly approach her after sex, and say "Um.. I find your fat rather repulsive and to me, nothing about you is sexy although I still think you're a very beautiful girl?." Something like that will just confuse her, and make you look more like a stupid douche. Girl's think highly of their appearance and to tell them that you're not attracted to them will just set in their head that they're no good, and they will either starve them selves or become heavily depressed. So like I said be as sensitive as you can when you're telling her. If worst comes to worst, pull the "I'm bi" card, and maybe she'll dump you with some pride left in her. Try to remember its, not always about you; and your feelings, she has a mind of her own, and maybe she thinks you're a possible homosexual with a small dick? Has she ever spoken to you about your own looks, or flaws?

 

umm...that's quite a strange feeling.Maybe u'll be ok some day

 

Go watch alot of lesbian porn, maybe that will help you into finding females attractive If its that big of a deal, or just tell her your gay and she will obviously understad.

 

if shes beautiful then why arent u attracted 2 her physcially?

 

Might want to rephrase your question...sounds like you're conflicted with something but reading what you said isn't making much sense to me.

 

English is not good. k ben aangetrokken tot mannen. Ik hou niet van vrouwen.

 

If you're attracted to men, than why are you dating women? Are you scared of rejection, or afraid of what people might do after wards?

 

I believe these are signs of being Asexual.

 

WoW... I'm not even going to flame you. Asexual means that you either have no sex organs or that you can reproduce with yourself.

OT: Sounds like you're really serious with her, but I would tell her before she wants to "move a step forward" in the relationship. Tell her you're not physically attracted to her and you really want to stay friends. As long as you're not breaking up with her for another girl or a BS excuse, I don't think she'll be too overwhelmed.

 

I'm not sure if you mean to say your homosexual or you just don't find this one girl attractive, however if she truly is of your dreams I don't see the problem. She wouldn't be of your dreams if there wasn't something there. A lot is more important than looks, however the relationship is condemed to failure if there is no physical attraction.

 

I'm gathering from this that you're bisexual?

 

He just sounds sexually confused. Maybe, go see a therapist and explain your thoughts to someone.