A Drama that is confusing

My sister and I are teens; 2 years apart. I feel I need to let this out.


To sum it up, my sister had been doing bad stuff behind everyone's back recently. She was cursing tremendously, talking about boys and love, and using social media, despite the strong discouragements from my parents. When I first witnessed my sister cursing in person, it was about 3 months ago. From that day, I spoke no words to her, and ignored her until now. During those months, the anger inside of me built up, after investigating her messages, social media, and diary entries that contained much taboo that my family did not promote. But the story did not end here.

While investigating, I picked up the words "depression" and "cutting". It was no secret that she was trying to kill herself. When I found out, I was in pure shock. The exposure of a teen girl talking about killing herself when she is so young...I was mindblown. It seemed like a dream, that someone in my family would be doing such a thing.

I was much confused. Should I confront her about the bad things she has been doing, or about her cutting? This question was on my mind, and I simply could not think of what to do. That is until today..

I decided I had to do something now or never. Before she got home from school, I decided to research about my problem. Perhaps punishment for her actions, would stop her from doing those things again. Google helped me decide to do something to her that would traumatize her and prevent further misdeed.

It may seem a little wrong, but I decided to wait until my sister was changing, and then rush in, confront her, and then spank her on her naked behind. What I thought was that the experience of being nude in front of someone, and being hit by a person of a different gender, would traumatize her a little, and prevent further mishap. I got everything ready, and then she came home.

I pretended to be cleaning up, waiting for her to change so I could bust in. After a long 10 minutes I barged in, with my sister wearing a tank-top, and an underwear. I told her I needed to talk, but she kept yelling for me to get out. She finally grabbed a towel, and I got her to sit down. We talked for the next thirty minutes, mostly me confronting her about knowing the trouble she was doing. After I thought nothing was to come out of it, as she was being ignorant and was so embarrassed by being semi-nude, that she wasn't paying attention, I decided to bring up the cutting deed. I was kind of surprised about what happened next.

She started to cry, as soon as the sentence ended. I asked her why, what, how, when, who, and she replied through her tears. She showed me 4 clean cuts on her wrists, that I never saw before. She pleaded that those were her only cuts, but I did not believe that. I checked her whole body, other than her underwear area, and her chest area, which I tried to check as I had heard girls do it there a lot, but she would not budge. She wouldn't stop crying, so I did something I had never done before. I hugged her and kissed her numerous times. It felt so weird, that now I cannot describe it. When she was calm, we ended the talk with me giving the talk about "how would Mom and Dad feel if you died", credits go to cheesy T.V. shows. She cried once again, and I found myself caressing her again. The weird experience ended there.

I am confused if I did the right thing now. I am currently wiping my lips every few seconds, as the whole brotherly love thing- I'm not a fan of. Should I have spanked her and embarrassed her instead? Were my actions too much? Should I have done anything differently?
Did I not make myself clear on her misdeeds?

Please do share your opinions. I need guidance on what to do next. I made myself clear to her that I would not let anyone know about her, as long as she kept her nose clear from now on. If she didn't, I hinted that I would do the thing I had initially planned. Am I right?

 

That is extremely weird how you think spanking is the right punishment. Maybe you need to seek some help for yourself because it is not the way you should be approaching things.

 

How old are you exactly? I'm not incredibly confident this is real. Anyway.

First off, your parents are not some all-knowing individuals. They are parents, you do not have to agree with them, but respect is needed as long as you live with them. If parents don't like cursing, great, don't curse in front of them. Think for yourself. Ignoring someone because they cursed is incredibly childish. Grow up, people will say what they want. There is nothing wrong with using social media and once you are age 13 you can create an account. It is actually illegal (in the U.S. at least) for your parents to take that account from you. You own it, not them.

You have NO right to be angry because of your sister cursing. Congrats, you don't agree with it? Ask her not to curse in front of you. Reading someone's personal diary is wrong. You should not have done it and should not do it again. It's their personal thoughts/feelings/whatever and it is none of your business.

Your whole method of "traumatizing" her is 100% sexual harassment. There is something wrong if that's what you think is an appropriate measure to bring up issues with someone and perhaps you should talk to a guidance counselor or someone you can share your thoughts with at school. That is not how you approach someone about them doing something. You bring it up and talk to them about it.

You are completely out of line to try and check all over her body. Again, stay in your damn lane. Bringing it up is one thing, getting in her personal space, whole different story; furthermore, while you can show you care, she is under no obligation to do what you say. If it truly becomes a problem, you should ask her to seek help (ex: guidance counselor, parents if she trusts them, and so forth.)

No, you did not do the right thing. Bringing up something you're worried about is not a problem. Ask to talk to them and tell them what you're feeling. Approaching someone with the intention of spanking them in an attempt to "traumatize" or "embarrass" them is wrong. Seriously, don't do that, ever again. Seriously, go talk to a guidance counselor or something and explain your method of teaching a lesson.

 

These two things exactly. Who in the right mind would think it's a good idea to barge in on their sister while she is naked? Did you get that from some incest anime or something? You are the one who needs help.

 

I really hope this is trolling because if you decide to take charge and spank your sister as if you were a parent, you need to seek help yourself. That is not a way to act, even if you are her brother.

 

Maybe you should share your problem with someone that can help you firsthand