my life.. Have your say.

Hey all this is about me, and who i am.

if you where me, which direction would you go?

Im 19 years of age,
started playing soccer when i was 5,
had a standout season when i was 10, when i was placed in our rep side for under 14's at the age of 10. Had a bright future, continued playing.. played 6 days a week. Was about to jet off to england, before i was going to get expelled at school - mum kept me from going.
Came upto the final two years at school , decided to quit playing for school.. gave up a dream. Is it too late?

My mum , most say is a milf (i hate the word, when there describing my mum), has dated various famous people.. she had a problem with drugs, and may still have that problem. she hasn't told me.. but i know her dealer.. everyone in the family lies to me.. i can't handle it anymore. What do i do?

To make things more interesting, my girlfriends a ex-drug addict as-well.. We constantly fight, but we've been in love for quiet some time. i virtually live at hers, and when im not around i fear shes cheating/doing drugs. Trust is a big issue. She never puts out anymore, it used to be me always in control. What should i do here?

 

Hmm, im also 19. And let me think.
Ask her honestly if shes still doing drugs or not. Its natural for a guy to get squeamish when their girlfriends are not with them. But a healthy relationship would be to let them go where they need to be. If she loves you, i'm 100% sure she inst doing any of the things you think shes doing. Its just a little "phobia".

Next, no you can still pursue that dream. Dont ever give up, people will notice your skills if you start playing with local teams etc.

Ultimately, here's what i would do. Go on to try and keep trying to make my life better and not sulk about the past. Keep doing the right things and i know it would unfold for me. I mean your going through a difficult time man, its not as easy as it sounds, but try and move yourself up the ladder in society whether its volunteering or going back to school.(if ur in the US)

 

Everyone you love does drugs, welcome to my life. But i'd say just go back to soccer and forget everything else. Why'd you stop playing anyway?

 

I gave up soccer as well this past year. Id say dont give it up if you have talent. I regret giving it up and hopefully i can still regain my talents.

Id say move away and start a new life, im planning on doing it myself.
And also be grateful you have friends/family as i dont have either.

 

i've asked her on many occasions, she says no. shes just abit different at times, and knowing how my mum was, i think shes still taking.

I dont know if i want to pursue that dream, here in australia, i was ready to join the youth league - which is connected to the a-league.. but the only place i was going was north to NQF. i dont want to leave my home state, my friends and my family..

I dont sulk about the past, but its hard, people lie, and they lie alot. it brings you down. I think about my girlfriend and how amazing she is.. i've dated alot of good looking girls (one was in the FHM magazine, front cover too).. i can say i do love her.. but is it enough?

For school, so i could complete it.

its been two years since i've kicked a ball almost. im sorry to hear about your situation.

 

In life, your going to have to leave your family friends etc one of these days. you wont see them as much as your going to be used to. Its a big step in life.

And if you love her, then trust her. Love without trust will just end up in fighting a lot.

Next, complete school as first priority. Period. Your going to need it.

 

Chase your dream.
It's never too late and for the drug issues with people around you, try to forget about them and find a way to earn some trust with your mother and ex-girlfriend.

Best of luck.

 

Your Avatar is a soccer player, looks like it is your dream.

 

Tell her to ask for help/doctor, she might not even enjoy taking drugs, but she might be addicted to hit, and she might have massive withdrawal symptoms which may make her sick.

 

Try to explain her what honesty means to you and why it is so important that she doesn't lie to you. Explain her how you feel because you aren't sure whether she's on drugs or not, and that you're afraid because you care about her.