Complex Situation!

Recently i've been chatting to my mates ex. They broke up, and the way it happened was unforeseen. He is really upset about it, and so is she, but she had to, to make herself feel "safe" not that he was harming her or anything.

So back to the start. I've been talking to her quite a bit, and i've actually found that I like her a lot, but I don't know if I would ask her out. Thing is she's not REALLY my type, but she has the personality of a girl I would date, and I am not 100% sure if my friendship would last if it happened, or if she would say yes. i don't want to risk my friendship with her, but I also don't want to NOT say anything. We hardly talk in person, because I'm not at school, and she is quite busy but yeah. What do the sythe users recommend I do. I'm so confused.

 

NO. Bros over hoes. C'mon.

 

1st, talk to your mate and ask if it is ok for you to date her...
2nd, ask her out on a date? simple? get to kno her more ect ect

and when moment feels right tell her, but dont tell her straight away like on 1st date.

and there you have it.

 

Don't ask her out. If she says no you will no longer have a friend or that girl to talk to.

 

First, you got to make sure that you REALLY want to go out with her. Then you got to ask your mate if there's no hard feelings about just going on a date with her. After a few dates, it'll ultimately decide if you really want to commit to a relationship, and if you really want to then ask her to be your girlfriend.

 

Get rid of the mate to get the girl.

Your male friend isn't gonna suck your dick or get you off, less you're into that sorta thing.

I did the same thing, this one friend of mine really liked this girl and what not, but so did I. He was my best friend at the time, but to be friends with her I had to stop being friends with him. So I chose her .

If a friend can't forgive you for thinking with you penis, it's not a true friend .

 

Horrible. Bros before hoes. A bro will be your swingman to get you more hoes. If you lose the bro, you lose the potential hoes in your future. You'd have to be pretty retarded to purposely not be friends with your best friend anymore just to attempt to get laid. Deacon how does it make sense to you that a real friend would let you immediately date his ex to get his dick sucked? And if he didn't want you to get your dick sucked by his ex, he is all of a sudden not a real friend? Are you that selfish..

 

Bros before hoes.....Dont backstab your friend just for a girl...thats being disrespectful. Anyways he can prob get you another girl anyways...besides its bad to immeaditly go out with a girl after she has just broken up with someone.

 

I'd suggest asking your friend if it's okay to go out with her. If he says yes, go for it. If he says no, then I'd personally step away. There's plenty of other girls in the world.

 

The 'Bros Before Hoes' code is so old and riddled with holes it's not even funny. Not to mention, who calls a girl a hoe? That's just annoying.

It's not selfish to want to get laid, and to want to do your friend's ex? Everyone thinks about whether or not it'd be good, especially if your friend talks about it all the time.

Friends are over rated anyways, I'd prefer to have subjects over friends =|

 

Ask your mate wht he would think about you dating his girl. Don't listen to the bro's before hoes thing, because you'd expect your bro's to understand.

 

It sounds like you don't have any friends, or at least real friends. I'd hate to be friends with someone as selfish as you, because despite what you think, having sex with your friends' ex right after they broke up is extremely selfish. Anyone this desperate for sex is probably a virgin? ..

"Bros before hoes" is not an old statement at all.. are you just talking out of your ass (no offense)? And a girl really is a ho if she sleeps with someone right after breaking up with her boyfriend. Ho, slut.. whatever you want to call it. So you'd rather sleep with a slut than have a good friend?

 

Nah this is disrespectful. This completely violates law between you and ya dude.
This is the type of shit that gets you killed. If i was your friends friend, and i even noticed some crazy shit like this. I'd definitly F*ck you up. Be a man, find someone else, leave what was be.

 

You have to define what a friend means to you. Because for example a friend to me means a person who I'd trust anything with (literally anything). If you feel the word 'friend' has a strong meaning to you, you definetly shouldn't ask her out

 

You might as well just take the chance. I wouldn't jump straight into a relationship with her, but wait until things settle out a bit. If it turns out that your mate ends up getting jealous, and tries to get her back, then he's simply not your mate. He had his chance, he fucked up. Nuff said.

 

what confuses me here is you say she's not REALLY your type, but she's the sort of girl you would go out with, in my opinion nothing good will come out of this if you start dating, it doesn't seems as though u REALLY like her, you also say you won't see her alot, you should let it go mate, i don't know alot about the situation but i don't think it'd be a good relationship

hope i helped mate, gl with it

 

As I said before, your friend isn't going to satisfy your basic hormonal needs, and if he is, then why are you pursuing an ex when you can get it from him?

It's not selfish to want sex, it's not wrong to want to do your friends' ex girlfriend, it's completely natural, and only fuckhead faggots think it's wrong. If my best friend decided to sleep with one of my exs', I'd probably give them a few pointers, and wish em luck. If it didn't work out for me, maybe it'll work out for them.

What kind of friend would I be if I denied a simple pleasure?

Plus, the concept is very nigger, and I'm not a unsophisticated black man. I'm an understanding, intelligent white man, and have no need for such idiotic philosophies.

There is no law between 'you and ya dude', there's no code, there's no requirement, etc. If you killed someone for dating your ex, aren't you breaking the bros before hoes code as well? . I think it's rather moronic for you to accept one thing, and not accept the other.

It's your ex, get the fuck over it. If you want, just ask your friend not to talk about her or bring her around, problem settled.

Exactly.

 

Dating your mates ex.. that's bang out of order mate. She'l prolly say yes to get back at him too..

I'd personally want to break your jaw if i was your mate.

 

Thanks for the feedback everybody. I wasn't posting this to "get with his ex, and sleep with her, then break it off" but I do understand your points. The thing is, I have been told IF we were to date then it would be "on the rebound" so I was told that I should just go on a few friendly dates with her. Eg. Take her out for lunch, just to see. But I guess I will wait it out and see. The way I see it, he fucked up, he treated her like shit, and whether not he can admit it, he needs to understand that he is in a relationship with a new girl now. I wouldn't go behind his back, i'd discuss it with him first, but i'd surely not go there if he told me not too. I'm a respectful guy when it comes to my best friend, but if he wishes me not too, I would never go there.

 

I personally think it depends on the circumstance. If he did treat her like shit, which you are stating, then sure. Its his fault.

But if he at least tried to do everything right by her, and really cared about her, then i'd never suggest dating her before asking your friend if its okay for you to do so. Even then, i wouldn't ask any time soon, i'd wait an appropriate amount of time.