Not Really That Big Of A Deal

Well this is really nothing compared too some of the other people's problems but it's something I don't really like talking to real life friends about....

Every weekend I go to usually 2 parties (one on friday and one on saturday) and get drunk, too drunk, and the next day I remember pieces, the day after not so much, and by the next week I can't remember a thing. It doesn't seem like I drink that much, sometimes I don't even drink that much but it still happens.

It seems like every time I get drunk I do the most retarded things. Usually it's trying to get any action possible in sight. But I do other stupid stuff, one time I got so drunk (a big group of us) and I opened a car door with someone in it in a church parking. I received a Facebook message the next day from the owner of the church, and I could not recall even doing that. Either way it seems like after every weekend I do something fucked up, and get negative feedback from my friends and classmates.

I just want to know how to deal with that negative feedback. Also, I want to know why I don't remember things anymore. This is messing up my memory, I'm doing worse in school and I'm getting unwanted publicity around school for doing these fucked up things. Any feedback would be appreciated.

 

Well, first thing is that you should cut back on the parties. Maybe only go to one of the two parties on the weekend. Cut back the drinking. If you cut back on the drinking, you shouldn't be getting trashed, and do the stupid stuff, and you'll most likely remember the night you had.

As for the handling the negative feedback, it's hard to take negative feedback. My advise to you is to take the feedback they give you, and learn from it. If they make fun of you, for example, for getting piss ass drunk and running around naked, maybe don't get that drunk next time. Learn from your mistakes, and take the feedback, and try to improve yourself using that.

 

I meant one party on friday and one on saturday.

I think it's the atmosphere really, I just always think I can handle more than I can. I tried cutting back, the odd time I just got normal drunk, but then I would just mess it up the next weekend.

 

Until you are able to get the moderation in control you should just abstain from drinking. You are still able to have fun at parties without drinking.

 

I'm not going to sit here and be a hypocrite, advising you to stop drinking completely. Because, I drink as well. I just handle my alcohol better than others. My friend & I both had half of a gallon of Vodka, I left completely fine. I got a call from a guardian of his, I ended up having to come back, stop him from choking on his own vomit, and give the bitch a sponge bath.

The last thing you want to do is be one of those people when you drink too much, and someone says you're good, and you throw a fit. That is when you know you are an alcoholic. Also, "not remembering stuff", that is a sign that you've had too much to drink because it is considered a "black out", although, you can remember it the next morning, and next week comes, you forget all the details? Yeah, that's called a black out buddy.

Everyone gets negative feedback at least once while drinking...If you're an aggressive person/a debby downer, honestly think about your options about drinking.

It could be the alcohol you are drinking. Cheap malt liquors (211, Four Loko, tall cans, MD 20 20, ect.) has actually been proven to make you more aggressive, almost like a rabid dog.

Again, negative feedback...If you want to continue drinking, and doing aggressive things/blacking out...Then you've got to prepare yourself for the negative feedback. As for handling it, just don't give a shit. See it from another persons eyes, what if you saw someone who was drunk & being aggressive? You wouldn't like it either. I don't know how old you are, but if you're in the "testing" stage of being a teenager, I'd advise you to learn your limits.

I learned my limits when I was about 14-15, drank WAY too much alcohol because I had adults (who had been drinking for years)who every time they drank a beer, or took a shot, I was also given one as well.

>Learn your limits
>Don't drink if you don't want criticism

 

Cut down the drinking bro, maybe its fun to get a hangover once a while but you do it every week is a very big risk.

 

This was really helpful, I usually try to keep up with my friends but I'm much shorter and weigh less. However when I drink I usually drink expensive alcohol (normal stuff) like molson canadian.

I'll probably stop, but I never get hungover, or like not normally (maybe once or twice). I'll try my best to cut down. It's just schoolwork is really stressful and it's nice to just chill I guess

 

It's very easily done and Ive done some stupid shit myself. Usually it's just being able to not follow the crowd and realising you dont have to drink yourself under the table to enjoy a party. Parties are a good time sober as well. Find something that chills you out that doesnt involve drinking so often; go work out til you're shattered or something.

The negative feedback wont get any less if you continue to get hammered like that, and the last thing you want is to do something you really regret and end up in serious trouble. Safety is key.

 

I appreciate the compliment. Yeah, keeping up with friends that weigh more/more height or that are more experienced/older can always be a real bitch. Well, it's expensive for a reason! More money = more percentage usually. Next time you drink, just try this out...Be more dominant, don't try to be competitive or try to not feel like if you don't drink you won't "be on there level". Just drink how you want to drink, and see how the night ends. Sounds like you know your limits, but you just don't want people to think you're not cool or a pussy. But like I said, one thing about drinking, just don't give a shit. That's what the alcohol is for man! Lol

Good luck to you

 

Okay last night I went to another party and I remember bits and pieces of it but all my friends said I acted completely fine and the parts I remember I was acting completely fine. I drank a lot less then I usually drink but I still don't remember that much.. If someone said remember this I would remember but I can't remember that much on my own. However towards the end of the night (while I was leaving) I can't remember much at all. I hadn't drank in around an hour and it only kicked in then.

I think it might be how we usually show up earlier. Also, whenever I go someone always wants to play pong with me or games like flippy cup which require you to chug your drink. I think this might be why?

 

That's awesome man, you drank a lot less than you usually do? I'm proud of you for that, and you should be proud of yourself too. Now, as for the blacking out...You're still having too much to drink man! It's great to have fun in the moment when you're drinking, but you wake up...And all those memories are gone unless someone reminds you? Shit. Well, I can say the same for myself, I used to have troubles remembering what went down, but I had a good friend. We would run through the nights events based on what we both remembered...If you don't plan on cutting back anymore, just back track. Like when you have a dream, you go for what you remember first, and back track it. You'd be surprised at what you can remember.

Anyhow, for showing up early...Everyone loves to party man, but like I said you have NO obligation to drink more than you want to. It's all up to you.

I know it doesn't mean much coming from me because I am a person on the internet, but fucking kudos to you dude on cutting back.

I'm not saying be a debby downer, but possibly show up a little later, or grab a beer, and when people ask if you're up for pong, just say you're not feeling up to it, and you've got a beer already. If people give you shit, just laugh it off. If they're your mates, they'll understand.

 

Thanks haha I'll probably go to another one tonight, from now on I'm just gonna bring a lot little then I usually bring. We'll see how that turns out

 

good , take care of yourslef YOLO