The right time?

When do you reckon it would be the right time to ask her to be yours? she recently gotten out of a relationship on 20th so it's still fresh. I know of a fact that she doesn't like him.

The girl i'm seeing she likes me, we have hooked up at the clubs ( yes we were both sober ) we talked later night from time to time. When i first met her, I've met her and the parents which is a big deal for her.
We flirt, when i brush my hand on her cheek she tends to kiss my hand, but yeah it feels like we're together but yeah i just want to take it slow.

so what's your view on this?

 

20th of October? So she recently broke up with some other guy and since then you've hooked up? If that's the case then she is obviously into you and you should do it right away.

 

Correct, but that was once though - i've only started seeing her 3 weeks ago a few days each week. I don't want to rush anything, you know what i mean?

 

No need to rush, just let things happen and if she's truly into you and over that guy you'd have nothing to worry about. Gives you a better chance of lasting together.

 

She is also diagnosed with bipolar depression and she doesn't want me being with her. (relationship wise)

has anyone dated someone who has bipolar depression?

 

So you tried and that is what she told you? Yes I have, it's fucking horrible. If she was serious about that, I'd let her be. You can still flirt, but I wouldn't make it serious.

 

It sounded all cool until here.....yeah this is one big ass red flag. it's cool that she's open about it and straight up told you that she doesn't think a relationship with her would work, sounds like she ain't totally insane.

........still, I'd be wise and avoid it. I dated a chick for a month who was bipolar, and man whatta fucken nightmare that was. She had moodswings that coulda knocked out mike tyson. The whole relationshop ends up bein' more emotional stress for the both of you than anything else..... try finding a girl who isn't far gone on the mental spectrum.

but If you're really sure about this girl tho, n you can live with her and her condition, i'd say this is about the right time to ask her out. gotta realize that you have to pull the trigger quick. if she's hella interested in you and you been gettin feisty together, then damn sure she wants in with ya. can't wait too long or she'll think you aint interested and find someone else. the window of opportunity with girls is only open for so long and this is why most dudes get friendzoned.

 

^ Don't listen lol... Someone having a mental health issue shouldn't make you run the other direction. It's really not that bad. I've a few and I'm in a happy relationship that's mostly drama and emotion free. The problem is created when people don't know how to deal with it and take it personally, for example, if she tells you she wants space let her have it and be accepting when she's done and comes back. Everyone, whether they're mentally unwell or not, has things you may not want to have to live with - but that shouldn't put you off, there's no such thing as a 'perfect' partner.

Anyways, to answer your question - if she said she doesn't want you to be with her you should ask why, probably. If it's because of her issues then assure her that you'll take it slowly and prove that you can handle it.

 

Whenever you feel like it'll be the right time honestly. We can't feel what your feeling so do what you feel like doing.

 

She's a pretty understanding person, she had a terrible past obviously and became who she is today.

keep them coming thanks guys!

 

All im sayin is she warned him that she's bipolar and shouldn't date her, so im just giving the guy a heads up that he should take that notion of advice seriously. obviously no one is perfect and everyone has their issues, and im just saying that dealing with bipolar people can be tough and i hope he knows what he is getting into, and that from my personal experience it's more ideal to have a relationship with a chick who more.... emotionally stable for lack of better words. im solely looking out for the well being of this guy.