Misadventures of my life.

Okay, so heres the situation. My life feels terrible at the moment. I'm 16 going to school in New Zealand and a big LoL player. But the biggest problem is I hate school, I hate it so much. It's not the teachers or the friends its the way I look. I'm not ugly but nor am I a good looker and the thing is I cant get over the fact I'm not the best looking bloke out there. I hate school because of looks. School is based on looks, the popularity and everything else in that genre. So the past 3 days I have been "Sick" and stayed home to avoid going to school. I'm at a breaking point right now, and today I skipped school to stay home because I didn't want to go to school and be miserable. I have done this many times before and gotten caught. The school has rang my parents and now they are trying to contact me, I'm sitting at home with my mobile constantly ringing not knowing what to do. I hate how I look and i'm just ashamed to go to school looking the way I do, I have no confidence whatsoever. I don't know what to do right now. Excuse my grammar I have written this in about 2 minutes in a rush my dad will be home at 3 and I will be expecting the worse. Help.

 

There's no easy solution from your point of view. People suck, and people will judge you no matter who you are, make assumptions, have opinions.. you'll experience it all throughout your life.

The only advice I can give is that you maybe try to preoccupy yourself with something different. Maybe try to gain satisfaction from playing a sport and building muscle/fitness, it can make you feel a lot better about yourself.

Most of all, remember that those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind

 

I believe this is much more of an outlook problem. People who "judge" based on looks are essentially picking a target by testing your emotional security and fortitude. I personally haven't given two shits about what someone thinks about how I look (not that I don't take care of myself, but in general) since I was probably like 12/13 because that is something that for the most part is out of your control.

Getting upset about things you have little or no control over is a very bad habit to form because there is many many things in life that you will have no control over and you will just drive yourself to misery if you keep sweating things that don't matter. By not caring of other people's negative opinions about you, you will start to build lots of self confidence which will help you in many aspects of life. I understand from 3rd person experience that its difficult to not really care about what others think when something like that is engrained in your mind, but I hear that as you age it gets easier.

Your best action is to try to coach yourself into that belief at this age so that you get ahead of the highschool curve of self loathing and end up ahead.

 

Just remember you only have one life, and highschool is such a small period of time in your life don't let it get to you keep your head high and get through the rest of it. 2 more years is nothing compared to the rest of your life.