What should I do now?

Basically, Been with this girl for a long time now. We are insane about each other, Obsessed, Can't go an hour without talking to each other. Pretty good couple. We love each other alot but, Recently I found out she smokes about a pack of marlboro cigarettes every two days. I find smoking extremely disgusting . Once I found out I felt like I lost all interest in her and any sexual appeal.

Now I'm asking, Should I try and go on and tell her how I feel? Or just dump this and move on? I know it seems like a simple question to most, But I just can't make an answer to this.

 

You love her a lot, and are "Obsessed" with her, but didn't know she smokes? I would suggest spending more time with her, then trying to see if you can deal with the smoking. If you can't, tell her, and see what happens.

I am still so confused on how you have been with her for so long, obsessed, and didn't know she smoked.

 

Thats what I been thinking, But I'm assuming she does it when I'm not around. We spend alot of time together but not 24/7. The times I'm not with her we talk on the phone, text, etc.

 

you speak all the time yet you never knew she smoked? the first thing you normally find out about people is if they smoke or not if you go out with them to parties, clubbing, dinner.. etc and being obsessed or addicted to anything is always bad. breaking up with someone because they smoke is fucking stupid, just talk to her about it.

 

Sounded like you really loved her in the begining of the paragraph. Being ina relationship you face many ups and downs and as a couple you should face them together. Be straight forward and tell her to stop and try to help her quit slowly.

 

I agree. Try and help her quit. Its nothing to fall 'out of love' over. More people in the world smoke than people who dont lol, but i agree its a nasty habit. Make little signs to her, if shes ever smoking around u just joke around and be like damnnnn that stinks, how the hell do u smoke those cancer sticks? lol, it might open up conversation for her to quit. The usual response would be "I know i know, its a bad habit ive been trying to quit for a while but i cant".. then u can throw something in like "Well i want u to live a long healthy life so i can help you quit"... then be serious about it and help her quit. In the end she will love u more for it too lol

 

She might get offended, but it's worth saying you don't like it to her.
If she carries on, deal with it and try and do what you can to get her to quit, if she quits, then you're all good.

 

I don't understand why people are so disgusted by smoking, its just as bad for you as eating fast food everyday and yet people who do that are perfectly fine. I don't care if you don't like smoking or whatever but to go from completely obsessed about someone to be disgusted because of 1 vice is completely insane.

Approach her about it in a civilized manor and tell her that you don't like that she smokes and ask her if she is willing to quit if you help her.

Its not so much the chemical addicition that is difficult to quit because you get a headache for about 3 days, its more the psychological addiciton. When I had quit for a while I found that I was a lot more high strung and was more likely to get pissed off.

 

Trying not to stray too off topic but the smell of cigarettes plus people just flat out stink and they have yellow teeth and there are all sorts of things that are far worse than eating fast food everyday..

Op: honestly any of these answers is your best bet.. I say you tell her and help her quit.. if she doesn't want to quit tell her you really can't stand it, but you'll bear with it.. that might be sort of a reverse pyschological method to get her to quit

 

Don't just straight out dump her. Talk to her, she might be willing to try and stop or even reduce her smoking. But at the end of the day, if you love her as much as you say you do, then surely 1 negative trait wont put you off? You say smoking causes yellow teeth and that it makes people stink, but that's only in extreme cases. You obviously couldn't tell she smoked til you found out so she obviously isn't showing any signs.

tl;dr talk to her before you dump her, she might stop for you.

 

1. have her read my guide (hehe)
2. if she cares for you more than she cares for her cigarettes, she'll at least try to quit