I'm lonley

I'm in high school, 10th grade to be exact and now, for over a year, I havent had anyone to call my friend at school. I'm the kind of guy who eats lunch alone and sits alone all the time. I've been an introvert since I was a kid but I somehow managed to have a social life till 8th grade. My teachers dont like me as in 3rd grade, I discovered porn and went around telling everyone about it. All teachers think I'm a pervert and dislike me, most of the girls at school think the same and stay away from me. I'm fairly good at studies (I'm asian and in the top 5 of my class) but that doesnt change my teachers opinions :/

This girl told me that I walk like a duck and sound like a frog :/ How do I change that?

Would getting a girlfriend from school help? I mean, I've had several from my neighborhood and through mutual friends but none from school.

How else could I try to change my reputation? I cannot change my school for 8-10 months so please dont suggest that.

 

Aha I smell similaritys to where i've been and partially still am.

I was just like you, I've never made or even wanted friends.
Truth speaking I don't believe in making friends or having friends, they always bail on you if you're in shit anyways.

One thing you should learn is this:
Everybody watches porn, everybody wanks, but barely anybody talks about it.
Thats still some kind of social unaccepted thing.. just do not talk about porn with people you don't know very well or aren't friends with

Now, for me personally I do not have friends but i'm pretty popular at college. The thing is to stand back a bit and observe things, find some guys where you'd like to fit with and casually glide into it.
TIP: humor, humor is a key to getting accepted, always works for me

Be yourself, but leave the porn talk behind and the socially awkward things too. And a girlfriend? meh, you shall find one at someday, just as I did.

Goodluck mate

 

The porn thing only spoilt my rep. I dont really take about porn anymore

I will try being humorous too.

I thought getting a girl from school might change my rep but meh.

 

Try meeting some new people, but don't come off as clingy or weird.

 

About every guy in school goes tough the Porn

Try making friends with people blend in with you and you feel good with

 

Dude, I know exactly where you're coming from. Send me a pm and we can talk on skype, sup I can understand your situation better.

 

I think that is harsh that your discovery of porn in the 3rd grade is still affecting your social life in the 10th =/

Perhaps you should try to start by making some friends that have similar interests and tastes as you? You say that you are introverted and a quieter person, maybe it would help to try and approach some people of similar nature who you have something in common with? As you become more comfortable around people and in social situations, you can expand your friendships and branch out to new social crowds or different types of people.

And keep the porn talk turned down a notch. Watching porn is completely normal, especially when you are quite young and you are just beginning to bud sexually. It is a curiosity thing, and I remember watching it myself quite frequently when I was much younger. But a lot of people find it awkward or gross to talk about, and it is one of those things that is probably best kept to yourself and not discussed unless you are hanging out with your close guy friends.

 

If it makes you feel better, you arent alone in being alone.

 

I'll give it another shot

I dont know anybody who blends in with me :/

Alright

I really suck at making friends Any tips?
About the porn part, sure

Actually it doesnt :/

 

Go to gym. There is cool guys who like to help and motivate others... They gonna see you are weak, and they gonna help to get stronger.. Then you feel like you really have friends, who wont let you go.

 

I know how you feel. Being a social outcast for a long period of time can be pretty lonesome.
But yeah as mentioned above, I reckon you should join the gym.
Not saying that cause you might be small/skinny but because getting involved in a gym really opens your horizons and makes you look at things in a more brighter way.

Getting active will get you more attention out there.
School kids may end up asking you for advice in the gym and then you're reputation will slowly spread + more friends + girls

 

Never thought of this actually :/ My dad has all weights and stuff at home so I never considered joining a gym. It would make working out kinda like a social activity I do work out and I'm fairly strong for my build. I'm 5"6', 68kg and have 11% body fat. I'll go get a gym membership right away

Yup, I'm joining a gym today. Thanks for the advice

 

You should try and find people who seem lonely and talk to them, you would be helping someone else as well as yourself then, you'll both have each other that way

 

Easier said than done.
I'll tell you though, I used to be the most awkward, introverted person you will ever meet in your life but I forced myself into becoming an extremely social person. I found things and ways to define myself around others and made sure that I was the friendliest and most talkative person out there. I have so many close relationships now and thogh I still get on the lonely side for other reasons, life is good right now. Just try to take initiative! I have faith in you.

 

I'll try, thanks

Could you elaborate? Would help me a lot as the gym idea is not working -.-

 

Get in there Show em who's boss!

 

What do you mean the gym idea is not working? Have you tried and you say it hasn't helped your situation? If so, give it time. You only got in the gym a few days ago, stay there for a few months and try to get big and go for abs. Girls love abs/muscular guys and it'll have them come talk to you, trust me. Just keep at it!

 

I tried

The gym near my place has only 40-45 year olds who come there 2-3 times a month to use a treadmill :/ There's not a single person whom I can talk with.

 

Its not just about making friends at the gym but also getting that body that girls love. They'll come running for you then and guys won't fuck with you. Everything will get better.

 

Sounds like a plan. Once I get visible pecs, abs and obliques, would it be cocky to put a pic of me, topless on FB as my profile pic maybe?