Bullied or something else?

Well name calling, teasing, etc I tolerated for 8 months straight. Then a few close friends found out and went to the people and told them to stop then they came up to me and asked if I bullied them and I was like no then word got round to the whole year. Then the deputy head has decided to take action in a few days and if they all figure out it has something to do with me? What do I do?

 

Do you actually feel like they are bullying you?
Or did you just say no because you were confronted?

 

Tell the truth. If they were kidding around, then maybe you should take a pill and/or stand up for your damn self, but there's no reason to lie. If they were assholes, tell people that they were assholes, but you might lose any repuation that you have. Decisions suck sometimes.

 

Yeh I do feel like they are bullying me and I said no because I was confronted.

They were assholes, like really assholes & the reputation thing really is annoying me. People like close friends say stand up for yourself but when they say something, everyone laughs but when I say something back to defend myself, no one laugh? Its more like a asslicking thing but I've never had a fight in my life before, so if it results to that then I wouldn't know what to do

 

The ones who asslick the bullys and giggle at everything they say and quiet at any retaliation are the ones that piss me off the most.

One thing I'll never stand for is being bullied myself, and I'll stick up for anyone against anyone if i feel i need to. I'm no rock solid MMA fighter, but i really don't give a shit if I get a beating if what I'm standing up for is right.

It's really hard to put across to you what to do so I'll just tell you what I'd do.

I'd tell the deputy head nobody's been bullying me it's just stupid rumors. One you're now not a grass, They will continue again once the cloud has disappeared. But i would come at them in a really aggressive manner to anything they say i would class as bullying me. Go over the top and make whoever is doing it literally shit himself. Get really angry and overact the whole thing, yeah he may turn around and fight you. But I'd be pouring all my sweets into the Jar of him not. Most likely he'll try and get out of the situation and wont do it again because anyone that is confronted with anger when they don't expect it. Especially a bully, will retreat.

This is basically what i'd do in your shoes, but ultimately it's down to you.

EDIT:

There was a bully in my year at school, I got on with him but he was a bellend to be fair.

One time in German he was taking the piss out of one lad who was a homosexual, he walked over to his desk and knocked all his books off and muttered "faggot".. And I couldn't of been more proud of what the lad turned around and done ( No teacher present ) he stood up, took away the bullys legs. Mounted him in a full guard armed with a compass lmao.. Put it to the bullys throat n said really calmly " Even look or speak to me again, and I'll cut your fucking throat out " Stood up and sat back down. Silence was in the room and the bully 'surprisingly' didn't retaliate, sat back down and shut the fuck up.

 

If that is the case then let the teacher do what ever he/she is planning.
If they continue bullying you then go back to that same teacher and he/she will be even more pissed and give them a larger punishment and possibly chuck them out of school. They may call you a snitch are whatever but they will realise that bullying you is causing them problems, so they will stop.

Bullies often do stop once you stick up for yourself, but you need to do something they really aren't expecting that will shock them. A lot of people say this is what they would do, but often don't.

You also shouldn't have said no yo your bullies. When I was in school I got bullied and I held in my anger for a long time and unleashed it one day on my bully, he stopped bullying after that day and I spoke to him a few after and he said sorry, he also said he didn't even realise he was bullying me, he thought he was just joking around. Now believe it or not we are best friends.

True story^

What I am trying to say with that story is, your bullies may think the exact same way as mine did, they may not even realise they were bullying you, but now you have said no you have pretty much gave them the thumbs up for bullying you.

 

I hate this the most. Absolutely loathe it. Can't stand it one bit.

I agree, standing up for yourself in a bullying situation makes you stronger. IRL bullies prey on people they feel are weaker because they're lacking in something. Cyber bullies can do things just for the hell of it, but IRL bullies will harass people to make themselves feel better. So standing up for yourself makes you stronger.

Now that's not how I would go about it. You say it as if he should go confront him and go absolutely batshit insane. Although I can't say that there's many other options.

I know around here, bullying is a problem because it goes like this:

• Bully harasses kid
• Kid tells teacher/someone
• Bully gets in trouble
• Bully harasses other kid EVEN MORE

or

• Bully harasses kid
• Kid beats the shit out of bully
• Bully brings friend to beat the shit out of kid
• Vicious cycle

Basically, bullies get almost free access. It's only until the bully gets fucking creamed and then told if he does anything he'll go to Juvi or something when they stop.

It's really sad.

But noobyfrooby, I really hope everything gets resolved. I suggest that if you really want to get them to stop, confront them if they do it again, but tell the deputy head that they were harassing you if you really feel that they could be able to stop this.

 

@ Jiglo

I understand some people can't take defeat, resulting in them getting you back one way or another.

I was basically just pointing out what I would do. But my main interest would be to scare him off, over fighting. But if a fight did occur, Nobody says you're going to win as the victim. But what bully wants to fight you every time he decides to bully you, none.

 

Oh no, I totally understand. I thought you meant that he should try to pick a fight. Scaring a bully by asserting yourself definitely works better, especially as someone who has been bullied before. When you tell them to fuck off and act really strong, they get confused. Especially if they're snide people who make fun of you rather than physically harass you.

 

Stand up for yourself, there is nothing better then someone standing up for themselves.

If you lose friends over something like this then fuck them, no reason to keep people in your life who bully you.

 

Everything's been said, what the people above said are right.
But there's one thing that they left out.

If you can't stand up for yourself, you can easily get anger management problems, where your anger explodes even for the smallest reasons.

So yeah, learn to stand up for yourself, even if it means that you'll get hurt in the process.

Gotta learn to fall before you run, aye?