This Special Girl | Being Shy | What do i do to earn her |

Hey guys, my names Jon, 13 years old, North Carolina.
Im having a serious problem with girls, i was born kinda shy, just the way i naturally was my dad wasn't shy and neither was my mom, theres this one girl who just got out of a relationship about 1-2weeks ago, i've liked her for a while now and sometimes i just get nervous when i talk to her, i really just get in a blur i don't know what to say, i start something by saying Hey!/Whatsup but then i can't think of what to say, i have a feeling that she thinks im just just pathetic or something cause everyday i see her on facebook i'll say Hey whatsup she'll reply saying Heyy!! Nothing much you? And then we just start from there.. Im a Jock/"asshole" at points but i have a somewhat sensitive side. I don't know how to get her attention, when im with my typical Friends/Friends that are girls i joke around alot i'll be like Hey babe whatsup and get touchie and funny and stuff. But from putting myself in her feet i think that she think im probley a loser or something at school, i don't know whats going on, i don't know if im just not her type, maybe shes into diffrent type of guys? I do like her but i don't really know what to do.. Jumping to a diffrent topic, being shy.. On the bus alot of girls sit with me, and im not gonna lie but like super hot girls with huge donks and stuff (surprising for 8th grade) and its kinda hard for me to make eye to eye contact, i do it on certain days once im with someone i use to but when i get up close to a girl (bus seat) it's kinda weird for me to make eye-contact, i know that possibly in the future this will change because i'll get taller/bigger, wiser and popular, etc etc. I want to stop this habbit, i need to get over it im starting to realize im a guy god damn it and im not gonna tolerate being a little pussy infront of girls, and i especially don't want girls to think im gay because i don't act exactly normal around them, now i've had girlfriends and stuff it's not that i've never experienced what if feels like it's just i guess i hang around guys so much that i've forgotten that feeling, now im not saying im bi-curious or "BI" period, i just Skate alot, play lacrosse, and wrestle, so i don't really have time to be with to many girls, other then every once and a while Skype, "ooVoo", or school. I don't want to make this longer then it already is and my parents are almost home with my food so im just gonna wrap it up here, please help me out, i feel like an idiot reaching out to a website that sells runescape/w.o.w accounts and stuff but hopefully there will be a non-troll/faggot that acually understands me, Thanks alot


-Jon (age 13, North Carolina)

 

Just be yourself man. If this girl is special and isn't shy when talking to you, then you have no reason to be shy around her. From what you explained, it definitely seems like she's at least somewhat interested in you. Ask her to hang out once (doesn't have to be just you and her, maybe also your or her friends). The more you are around someone and learn more about them, the less uncomfortable/nervous you will feel around them. It's easier to ask questions about her, and then build off from that. Most girls just like talking about themselves, or just talking in general once you break that ice.

 

Thanks alot, People like you make me feel like im actually something in this world, i'm gonna try my best, a matter a fact i have webcam with her in about 2hrs, wish me luck man.

 

As for the OP. I'm 21, and throughout the years I've managed to evaluate myself when I communicate with new people, especially girls. Their is one key word that you need to remember ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS, when talking to ANY girl (yes your mom too). CONFIDENCE. Girls are naturally attracted to confident guys, and confident/reassuring situations. You need to have the mindset that you are the best at picking up girls, all girls will like you, and every girl wants you (even if it's not true yet). When you believe in yourself, and put out a confident-type energy, girls will always want to talk to you more, and be around you. Your confident attitude will naturally make this girl want you, and essentially make her believe anything you say (for advanced users only ). With that being said; eye contact is also very important. Eye contact brings out the confidence in you. Another suggestion is always think 1-2 lines ahead of what you just told the girl. Think of how she will reply to what you said, think how she is thinking, and you will be fine. Thinking ahead of yourself will also help prevent awkward situations.

These are only small tips. The most important part is on you.

Remember, always be CONFIDENT.

Feel free to PM if you have any questions.

 

I didn't read it all yet, but just by reading it so far, the fact that she replies with "Heyy" in text instead of "Hey" means that she may be interested in you, it's simple girl talk.

 

I apologise on behalf of the idiots posting, they know who they are.

If I were you I wouldn't worry one bit. You're still very young and you should have a lot more girlfriends to come (basing that on the fact you're a jock).
Even though you're worried about your facebook conversations don't be, it's a lot easier to talk over the computer, as you a have time to think about what you're going to say, just ask her questions such as "what you up to?", "how are you?" etc.. that will get her talking and she could mention something that will start off a conversation.

In school or on the bus, don't be afraid to make eye contact, making eye contact is a sign of liking someone, yes you make eye contact with friends when you talk but it's just different with girls you haven't really spoken to yet.

 

Brothers is spot on. Be confident with yourself and just go for it. I missed out on a lot of potential relationships because I didn't just go for it.

Now I don't care and just go for it.

Talk to her, flirt, ask her out. Don't think too much about it, just do it.

 

Well, as you said you've had girlfriends and knwo what it all feels like, i would say, what you had before, was infatuation. ( if whats happening with you know is legit and ur not faking about stuff) You gotta be a man! if you respect her, and love her. (nothing pervert) then id say, just go for it! dont fucking care what others may think if she says no, dont think about what her friends would think of u. like blindkilla said above, JUST DO IT man.. trust me, it only happens once, and if u miss it, dont ever expect it to return. This is YOUR time, YOUR Moment. scratch your balls, say you're a man. and lose ur mind. Stand up TAll and go for the kill. One thing i can GUARANTEE you: If you actually be the man and just go all out on her, shes gonna be impressed by this very thing, if nothing else. and thats whats gonna confuse her about you. if she presently thinks youre a loser, after doing this, she wouldnt be like oh wow ur so macho or whateves.. but she'll but confused about you. blank. you would then know what to do and when. to make her like you. This would atleast give you a proper foolproof shot at her at the least.

Hope this helps jon