Soo, my gf of almost 4 years.

i'm 15, please don't instantly think "woahh, a serious gf at 11..". I began dating this girl almost 4 years ago.. We used to talk alot, and it just kind've happened.. We've been together ever since and I've grown to love her more than I love myself really.. She's everything to me, some of you guys may know the feeling, when you just know it's the right person and you never want it to stop.. She's kind, we have alot in common, we can tolerate eachother at the worst of times and I love her to pieces (I'm gonna stop with all this lovey-dovey stuff now..)

Recently - and by that I mean the last 2 or 3 weeks she's been acting different. I was away on vacation all last week and called her EVERY day. (Spent about 40 euros on phone credit..) I knew she was acting differently.. Idk how, but she was just having mood swings. I came back on Sunday (last Sunday) and I knew something was wrong, I asked her about it.. She said everything was ok.. And no matter how weird she acted, and I asked her again, she just wouldn't own up to something being wrong.

Tonight, I was talking to her on msn. She came on really late and after abit of talking she told me she doesn't want a boyfriend atm.. She tells me how apparently SHE doesn't make ME happy (which I don't get, i told her she does whenever she actually tries which she hasn't recently..) She starts telling me how I'm the one but she needs a break and time to herself.. And now she's just ignoring me on msn and not picking up my calls.

If it makes a difference also, which it probably does, she's recently started hanging around with a new group of people.. (they're nicee, I mean, nothing against them.)

Idk why she's broke us up now.. I've done so much for her, she knows I'd do anything for her. I love her so fucking much and if she wants a break that's ok but i'm worried about what could happen in the meantime, maybe her love will fade or something.. idk.. I just feel really sad and depressed atm and need some advice.. Thanks guys.

 

Banned the douche from this forum.

On topic:
There isn't anything you can do now to change her feelings. Just give her space and time, and maybe she will realize she made a mistake by taking time off. You guys are both young, so she might want to experiment a little before totally committing to you forever.

 

Thanks and thanks, Giddy.. <3..
I know that's probably the case but how do I get over knowing she may be with other guys.. it's the girl i love, i know it ;/

 

You're far too premature to even begin to understand love as a concept, but if you love the girl then give her space and time to think, putting more pressure on her will only drive her further away.

You both need to experiment, and live your teens whilst you can, you only get them once. It'd be a lot better to take this break for however long, then re-kindle things when you've both pushed a load off your chest.

 

I've been in similar situations, and overall the whole situation sucks. What I do now is just accept the fact that she might not come back, and enjoy life now. Hook-up with meaningless girls, hang with friends, party etc. You might have really deep feelings for this girl, but trust me, you're still young and have lots more to experience.

 

She's obviously been thinking about it for a while, or she may have cheated on you and the guilt is breaking up the 'love' between you two.

I put 'love' because I can promise you that you two were never really in love. Just move on and apply the experiences you've learned in the relationship to the next girl, and so on.

From what I can tell, you guys had a good 4 years but it's time to move on.

 

i fully understand what love is.. i'm mature for my age I guess.. i just know when it feels right and it does..

 

In all honesty, you probably don't actually love her, you only have the illusion that you love her.

Almost all people don't find love the first 25 years of their life. Especially not as young as you are.
She obviously wants to try different experiences to find out if you are the right one. Which is perfectly fine, and you should do the same.

Love as a word has been totally thrown away as something special.
People say I love you when what they really mean is, I really like you and I'm really interested.

I can almost promise you that you don't know what love is.

When she says she isn't making you happy, that means she doesn't feel her best. She wants to be more. She wants time to herself so she can do that.

Give her some god damned room if you don't want to destroy the relationship all together, nothing worse than a boyfriend who doesn't understand what wanting to be left alone is. She asked nicely now leave her alone for abit.

She even says that you're the one. Annoying the hell out of her will NOT fix that.

& no, the above few sentences does NOT mean not to talk to her, it means to tell her you love her everyday and if she wants to talk she'll talk to YOU.

About her hanging out with new people, you shouldn't be all that worried.

& by the way, I'm not trying to sound harsh above, it's just the honest truth.
PM me if you need anything, i'm always here to talk to. Along with multiple other people on sythe.

 

No offense to giddy and the other duche,but if you've been with her for four years, you definetly love her, or she has nice tits. Both is also good!

If you love her, tell her that. Tell her that she is your everything and you need her. From your post, I can tell that's true. Words can help or hurt, so depending on her response, know that you are starting on VERY THIN ice. So just go slow and ease her in.

#1, yes she may cry
#2, she DOES love you
#3, if there is hope, there is a will, if there is a will, there is a way, i theres a way, there can be love <3

 

Give it some time. Eventually she'll realize she made a mistake and want you back.

 

I was in the same situation a while back when I was about your age. My girl just needed a break, and if she says she loves you like mine did, she will come back. Now; everyday I wake up to my girl. We broke it off for about 3 months, and after that we went out again, and continued from where we left off, and it's been great these last 6-7 years with her. And PS: She does live with me now, and we most likely will be getting married but that is for the future.

OT: Don't worry at all, just let her have her space, just don't annoy here all the time otherwise she will begin to think twice about you.

 

@Lym, I'm not a stupid child. I've found it early or w/e but I know it's right and I've known it for years. When it feels right, no matter what age you are you'll know it. The way I get butterflies in my stomach everytime I'm with her and it doesn't stop, infact it gets worse the more i'm with her and i love that. The fact that at this very moment without a doubt i'd die for her. That's love, you don't need any petty lines to explain it, no matter what age you are the feelings you get you never want to stop. Thanks for your reply though, much appreciated.

@No Rage Quiting, rofl that made me smile thanks.

@ClazzD, I know that's the safest bet but I don't know how to deal with the fact the girl I love, I've given everything to for 4 years.. She may be with another guy. I know it's something that she'll get over but idk if I will.. Thanks for your reply, mate.

@Halo3NLG50s, sounds like a nice outcome haha.. Happy for you, goodluck in the future I think the general verdict is to let her have her space.. I know alot is going on with her right now making her upset but she just doesn't tell me so I can help like I have countless times before.. Thanks for your post,

 

Hi guys,
Had a nice talk with her today I better now.. She knows how I feel, I know how she feels.. We're not back together really, but I'll see how things go. The last thing I wanna do is push her into getting back together if she doesn't want to.

Thanks for your replies guys, kinda stopped me from going out and doing something stupid without thinking. I owe it to this community thanks again lads

 

This. He knows what he's talking about. You need to explore. I can't even explain this because it's exactly what you need to hear.

 

The problem with relationships THAT young is its smack bang in the middle of pubity(for both of you), feelings were going to change sooner or later.

You: yes..thanks for that, what do I do now?
Answer: Prove your love to her. I know you think you have already, but you need to do something really noticable to respark the feelings!

 

Sorry champ but I'm going to say it. You are both young and immature, it's nothing personal but that's just how it is. You will both move on because you are only 15. oh and fyi, she probably got her period. You are both going through puberty and are going to change quite a bit. Dw you will have plenty more gfs in your life

 

OHH Kay lets put this all together. Personal experience here. except it wasn't 4 years it was 2 months. lol but i know my shit.

Ok she broke up with me. it killed me. i died for 8 months. <-- dont let that be you. it sucks. not worth it really. it may seem like it at the time but its not. She has made up her mind. and there is only 2 things you can do.

Number 1, Fight for it.

yeah, stick by her tell her how much she means to you, it can go 2 ways.

She gets pissed off and annoyed and she never talks to you again. personally i think that would suck.

OR

She realizes you do care for her and she comes running back to you and jumps in your arms and says that you are the best man in the whole world and was stupid for leaving you. <-- i can pretty much guarantee that will NEVER happen.

Number 2, Give her space. <---- i believe this to be the best option.

Let her go off and do what she wants. but be there fore her WHENEVER she needs it. Be that best friend. You can still love her but as a friend.

I chose Number 2. Yeah it sucks seeing her with other guys. some you may not like how they treat her. but be there for her! Be her best friend and it will all be well. i am just glad she is still part of my life.

Who knows she might be the right person for you and get back together but that wont happen if you smother her in all the i miss you i want you back crap.

Do with this what you will.

Edit: It has been over a year and a half since she broke up with me. and i can honestly say she is my best friend and i dont want that to change.

 

I know it has been said before, but I would like to stress that you NEED to get out there. I dated a girl for a few years, after breaking up and getting back together, I thought I could not be happy without her. As everyone who has been in the same situation knows, as soon as I started talking to different girls and found ones I found attractive, I realized how much I disliked my relationship. I am not saying that being single is better, that is a personal preference. I am just saying that you need to mingle and get out there. It's the only way to start the recovery process.

 

To all the peple who say were to young to understand love i say GO FUCK YOURSELF. You arnt helping. I love a girl to death and im only 16 weve been bffs for 3 years and we always try to visit eachother eve though we ive 3 hours away with a plane. I swear im going to marry her one day so FUCK OFF if you think love can only be developed when your old.

Dont you people realize how many marriages start off in high school? Dont be so ignorant and actually help this guy out. She broke up with you but its never to late you need some time and ask some of her friends why she did it i know girl who broke up with me because i did things like pat her on the butt she didnt say anything about it but thats why she broke up.

 

I'll revert back to my first post. And ask for you to re-read it, and not be in denial.

If you can't come to terms with general happenings between males and females, as we were put here to breed, you'll just be sitting there re-thinking and evaluating the obvious...she wants to go fuck other guys and experiment, as all teens do.

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