Girl Problems

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Well, here I go. School started up again, about a week ago, and I've noticed this girl around the campus (high school). I don't believe in that "love at first sight" crap, but just something about her makes her stand out from those other girls. I haven't talked to her before, but I'm already falling for her. I would like to find out more about her, because I'm not the kind of person who would only date people for their looks; what's in the inside is what counts, in my opinion. I've never been in a relationship before and I'm 15 years old. Many of you may say that "love" doesn't, truly, exist at such a young age, but everyone has emotions. I can't stand this anymore, for some reason I'm becoming extremely depressed. Maybe because I have no one to talk to, about these kind of things or maybe because I'm never going to be able to be in any, good, relationship. Regardless, I want to build a strong friendship with her, that can hopefully lead to an actual relationship. The problem is that I'm not sure how I can introduce myself to her and how I can try to lead up to a strong relationship, in the future. I believe that if someone dates someone for their looks, the relationship won't last very long, but if someone is dating someone because they make them laugh, happy, have a great personality, and are great company, the relationship can and will last a very long time. I would appreciate any help or advice you guys can give me. I would also appreciate it if you didn't judge me for any reason, whether it's because I'm too pathetic to be able to have the guts to talk to her or for any other reason. Thank you for understanding my situation.

 

I would have to say just go for it just talk to her you have nothing to lose. As you want try to get to know her and not know what is just on the outside. Maybe take interest in what she does and get to know her. Although you try to get to know her try to not get friend zoned if you do want to ask her to be your girl friend. I hope this helps just remember if you do ask her out rejection is quick. Also your age isn't that bad for not having a girlfriend I am sixteen and got a girlfriend a few months ago. I hope this help you.

 

What do you mean try not to get friend zoned?

 

Sorry about that I should have been more clear I meant as in try not to be stuck as her friend if you don't want to be. If you get stuck as just her friend and you want her to be your girl friend it could be difficult for you.

 

Well, how would I make sure that I don't get stuck as just a friend, if I'm interested in taking the relationship further.

 

From my understanding I would try to get to know her and when you know enough about her like what type person he is etc. Then ask try not to waitto long or you will most likely be stuck in the friend zone but ask too soon and you might be thought as a creeper. Just use your own judgement and I hope it works out. I hope you get more advice before you decide on what to do as. I am putting this in my perspective as what I would do.

 

Thanks for the help dude; I hope I can get more advice, as well.

 

No problem I hope everything goes well good luck.

 

Do something to catch her attention. Are you in any classes with her?

 

Unfortunately, no, but I am getting a schedule change, so hopefully I can get into one of her classes. =|

 

If you do, just surprise her, do something that's noticeable. When I'm trying to get a girl to notice me I turn on the bad boy thing and get all witty and charming.

 

I still want to be kind and not rude, and not a cocky ass.

 

I was giving an example, not telling you the method to use.

 

My bad. =|

 

No worries. Like I said, just impress her somehow, gain her attention. Then try to keep it.

 

Any ideas on how to gain her attention outside of class, and wouldn't it be better if I just introduced myself to her instead?

 

Are you good at talking to girls?

 

Just approach her, I know it's hard in theory, but once you overcome that fear of 'rejection' and the like, you have nothing to lose.

Ask a random question like "Hey! (moment of silence) I was wondering if you could help me.. (pause) it's my cousins birthday next week and I don't know what to get her.. could you help me?"

Something like that, taking away the attention from you and focusing it on something constructive that allows you to smoothly weave your way in. Even if it's a small conversation, at least she recognises you now. It doesn't have to be straight away that you get the opportunity to hang out, etc. There will be plenty of opportunities. The first step is to make an appearance so that she will be able to say "hey, stranger!" or "hey, how's the gift for your niece going?"

You don't want to come out as a 'weirdo', so take your time with it.

 

Yes, start making you better know for her. Then ask out for a talk, for a walk. Be yourself.

 

Any of your friends know her? or someone close to her? if they do get them to introduce you to her, if not then make the direct approch by just being yourself. And as far as the friend zone thing goes, a girl tends to keep you in that zone when you rush things. Dont rush into a full on relationship just randomly trust me thats a mistake that will end many relationships. As for meeting, just say something that is you. Dont go on trying to be someone else.