Girl Problem

[tribbis]

Okay so here is my issue i got going...

Okay so i like this girl and according to multiple other people she likes me too. So i try to start hitting it off and it seems like everything is going good but it turns out she likes one of my long time "acquaintances"(We have kinda been friends but never really were the hangout kinda friends.). But I find out that they like each other and we all work at the same place so its kinda difficult to get alone time. So we were at a party (well a get together with friends at work) and you know he start rubbing her and everything and it makes me feel so uncomfortable. So these past few days i have been trying to find out if they actually do like each other and the guy says he enjoys hanging out with her and he has feeling for her but he is not head over heels but hes having fun, he also said that since he found out i liked her he was going to try even harder to get with her. So once i heard that it encouraged me to try harder with the girl and i ask her to if she wanted to see a movie with me, she said yes so i figured "hey, maybe i do have a chance". Well she texts me today that shes excited for the movie but then she mentions she wants a bunch of people to go, I explained to her that i would like it to be just me and her and as the texting conversation went on, she says she likes our friendship but she doesn't have feelings for me. That was a real Summer killer... The guy is a player and has had a history of hitting it and quitting it. She is not the kinda girl who is gonna give it up really easy if you get what i mean.

Basically idk if you guys heard this before and am wondering if you guys continued trying to pursue or is it all over? If so what happened if you did pursue it.

Thanks guys

 

[Pockets]

You have been "friend-zoned"
She is not interested in your romantically for what could be a wide variety of reasons. It is almost certainly not worth it to continue your efforts.

If you have more details or would like to talk more about this or other problems, feel free to PM me (I don't know the odds of me stumbling back on this thread).

 

[Dimethyl]

As of right now, you're in the friend zone and it will probably stay that way. If you really want to keep trying, then your best option would be to just continue the relationship as friends. Make it seem like you no longer have any interest in her. Things with her and your friend will most likely pass over soon and your relationship with her will only get better. You never know what can happen.

 

[Jeff]

You have a very good friend there.

If you have feelings for her that badly, pursue them.

If not and you think you'll be able to find someone else, then leave it but still hang out occasionally if wanted.

 

[Fayded]

Alright. Everyone else has decent advice, but I feel I might be able to help.

You have to really step back and look at it how you need to see it and not how you want to. Do you really think you have a chance with her socially and if you do, then you should go for it by all means. Friend-Zoned means literally NOTHING. I've went out with a few girls that have been LONG-TIME friends, yet it just seemed like it was the right thing to do. In the end it didn't work out, but that was because of reasons between us and they had nothing to do with the friendship. You have to think about this;
If you ask her out and she says no, rejection is just a 10 second thing and it's better to know she didn't like you than to always stay wondering.
In saying that, I don't think you'll get rejected, I'm just saying you cant always think about it like its the worst thing in the world. Good luck and let me know if it works out.
-Fayded.

 

[Blank]

Bruv, if she doesn't want you then she's not worth your time. You're gonna waste time if anything personally speaking. It's hard to not do so, but ignore them two. She'll realise what he does if he is a player and regret it herself, if you still want her then you could just always say that you knew he was going to do it ect. But it seems like you can't do anything, when someone likes someone, there's only so much you can do.

 

[Simple]

It's hard to compete with a player; that's why he's called a player. :\

It sounds like you're in the friends zone. Time to start looking for another girl.

 

[xsrafikx]

Best way to get a girl like that is to go after another girl, and make her jealous. Put all your attention to someone else. It will take time if it works but I know it is the only thing you can do.


Basically you are moving on but still keeping her as a plan B if she changes her mind when she sees you with another girl.

 

[DMR]

It just basically shows that she wants to be just friends with you. If you keep trying to flirt with her, she might start ignoring you and I am pretty sure you wouldn't want that.