I'm 18 and I haven't had relationship with girl.

Yep, I don't know how to explain all that, I'm not afraid of them or something, just when I date them we just become good friends and thats it, I don't know how should I do the 'next' step in the friendship/relationship. I just want to know, am I retarded or something that I can't do that? :huh:

EDIT: Sht, should be in Personal support section, if any mod could move, would be awesome.

 

What exactly do you mean when you say, 'when I date them we just become good friends and thats it'.

Does that mean you date her, and she says I just want to be friends.
Or she doesn't think it's a date and therefore the relationship halts at friendship status?

 

She doesn't say anything, we just become good friends naturally, we hang out with friends together, we chat alot, talk via phone, etc. But we never go further. And its not about one girl im talking about, Ive had few examples before too.

 

I think thats your problem.

You shouldn't expect the girl to say anything, you've got to be the instigator if you like.

After a date that you feel has gone successful, organize another one relatively soon. You sure she hasn't misconstrued it something other than a date?

 

I usually have one or two dates before I start going with people out in clubs, partys, etc. Im talking the like invite people there. Ehh, I usually think that should come in naturally for both of us :huh:

 

When you are dating them, the first step is telling them you like them. From there, there are infinity of possibilities.

If you want to talk, you know where to find me

 

Go for a little kiss (before they're at just friend stage) perhaps on the first date just a peck, that shows them you want to be in a relationship, then just progress from there.

 

Mate, it's not strange at all. Rather, you should be making a move, or asking her how she feels. She might be completely oblivious to the fact that you like her!!

 

Thank you all for suggestions and help. Im feeling so moron-like at the moment posting that all Was kind of obvious that I should do something about it. Thanks all ^_^

 

Haha, that's what we're here for. No such thing as a stupid question, right?

Sometimes things can be confusing until they're approached by another person.

 

Just keep hanging out with each other and youll have enough courage to tell her how you feel, everything should fall into place from there. (Thats of course if she feels the same way about you)

 

Major fuck up number 1 is you'll open yourself up to one of them about another girl. They will get the idea that you're only friends and probably that will be all.

Do not open yourself up 'Girl-wise' to them.
Make them fall for you, ask to hangout; pay for there movies then go for a walk on the beach, cuddle and then try to sneak in a kiss?

MSN in signature if you ever want more help mate.

 

Give hints and see if she reciprocates.

You need to know if she's interested and then go further from there and get closer. Eventually you'll start liking her and hopefully she'll like you too!

 

My advice is girls love to talk about themselves.. a few subtle (non stalker style) complements usually get them blushing and get them to open up either about their hair, dress, car, job anything.. Also its an unwritten law that the men has to make the moves.

GIRLFRIEND EFFECT - Another thing is girls want what they cant have, i remember when i was 15 i was having troubles with the chicks, and then soon as i got a girlfriend they were like flys to shit. They also liked that i wasnt a sleeze and some of them even respected that their attempts to get me to cheat on my girlfriend were turned down... But that being said as soon as you have that kind of thing going make sure you remember those opportunities for when that girlfriend falls through.

MY EXP - After my first girlfriend was gone, it honestly just seems to happen an become second nature to approuch girls, know how to make them laugh an have a fun time, but im speaking from experience and im not love guru, but i can tell you now that it isnt all smooth sailing and i have cockblocked myself and my friends a few times either by my actions, or getting to wasted an doing other things, or just simply saying the wrong things. Its all a learning curb seems you just started a bit later then the rest.

LOOK FRESH ALWAYS - Basic hygiene is a must, brush your teeth, do your hair but make it look like you put NO EFFORT into it, never where sneakers/running shoes with jeans, where shirts that fit you properly. Dont wear fake watches and jewelry its chat. Always look fresh like you just came outta the shower, have a smell get a good calone (i wear mostly CK black , CK one, Sean Paul Unforgivable).

Trust me, just grow some balls an man up, you cant be passive (im not talking about raping) but you have to have the body language that implys you know what your doing in bed and out of it, even if you havent been with a chick never tell her that, just play the game an pretend you know your shit. A few white lies wont kill them, and im sure they are also pulling a few white lies. (NO I DO NOT IN ANYWAY MEAN TO LIE COMPLETELY ABOUT BEING A SUPER PIMP THIS WILL GET YOUR NO-WHERE) i tell you what else is a killer, slowly touching behind their ears, an continueing on to the back of their necks not rough an that just like a lite few strokes.

FREIND ZONE- If you find yourself constantly in the friend zone you got to start looking like a catch, either by bettering your job, looks, style or just have a THING about yourself. If you are out with that chick you want and she is farming for guys in the club, you do the same an act like your uneffected by it, and when you both end up with no-one at the end of the night that right there is a perfect example of a GREAT TIME TO STRIKE

Hope this helps dude, good luck.

 

This is really not something to be worried about at all. There's a theory saying you learn just as much from what you don't know as what you do know. Here's an example. You go to university earlier you won't learn things from the same perspective as if you gained some life knowledge first.

There's nothing wrong with waiting to have a relationship, eventually it will come. Eventually when it happens you'll start to learn about how to have a relationship and it will become a piece of cake.

Cheers.

 

i think its pretty simple. i think YOU might just be interpreting your relationship status with them as friends, when in fact they could like you and are just waiting for you to make a move...

 

Thanks for all that, but I don't mean I never was with girls before and you starting with all hygiene sht bro I was just asking if thats strange that I really haven't had a TRUE girlfriend, I hang out with them alot and shit, but there wasn't one I wanted like to go into deeper feelings, I don't start talking about love as love I believe comes in only once or two times in life, but Im talking something about feeling when you starting to think about family and about those things Thanks for your time writting all that tho. ^_^

 

Flirt is all I can say, considering you're friends with them but hint around first beat around the bush get them to start flirting with you if anything. Should lead to a good relationship if done right, considering you already got the "Good Friendship" to base your relationship maybe just lacks the sexual side of things? I'm not saying it's all about sex and such but if you know, call her cute and stuff, if she likes you and you tell her stuff she doesn't hear from anyone else; it'll be different. But do it right don't be the anouying guy that just cracks onto girls, be different they'll love you for it.

 

Be kind to her, make her smile, do things for her like bring her home, text her alot etc -> if you get lucky she will understand your message.

 

One thing a girl loves is confidence, and if you don't have tons, you usually get stuck in the friend category because your too shy to make a move. Ask yourself, "What is the worst that could happen"? It is completely normal to try for a kiss, don't be shy,

If this doesn't apply, disregard it, there just isn't tons of info to go off of and I am basing this as usually why someone would be friends with someone who he may want more than friends.

If it is just because you honestly haven't found a girl you liked more than friends, than just keep doing what you are doing, nothing wrong with that. The biggest thing is to think about yourself and what you want, try not to worry about what other people your age are doing or what stages they are at.