I'm 19 year old, and my boyfriend is a 14year old kid.

I agree with this, just keep it on the hella DL.

EDIT: Change of thoughts. As someone else said - wait 'till hes of age, then you guys decide if you still have feelings for each other.

 

You should be arrested that is a child and you're an adult. I don't care what anyone else here says, you're disgusting and you need to end this relationship and stay away from children. Does his parents know? If you really have feelings for each other which I find is disturbing you will still have these feelings in 4 or 5 years so call it quits and wait it out.

 

Lol I'm an Indian, Indians certainly don't condone this type of thing. They don't consent to children being in a relationship with an adult. And to the OP I'd suggest you get this thread locked, before you get any more obnoxious comments -,-. Although I can see where they are coming from I certainly wouldn't want my 14 year old child seeing a 19 year old if I had one.

 

Age of consent in Asia is 13 and varies in jurisdictions.

In India, the age of consent is 18, however, it is not set by state or federal law. They increased the age from once 15 to 18 (without it being official). Although they did increase the age limit, by law, the age of consent is still 15.

 

Who knows when their birthdays are? She can be 20 next month and he could have just had his 14th birthday. Like I said before this is just gross and I don't care how old he behaves he's not 22 he's only 14 and she should know better. She's a pedophile and if I knew who she was in real life I'd report her to the police.

 

Different places have different cultural mentalities. You are obviously from somewhere which is opposed to it, which is fine, but I don't think you are qualified to judge others unless they are from a similar place to you. Cultural differences CAN and DO matter, regardless of your opinion.



Personally I think it's fine for you guys to be in a relationship as long as you don't fall prey to the temptation of sleeping with him before he's legally allowed to do so. Good luck, and don't let the foul words and opinions of others influence your life decisions

 

If it were accepted culturally where you live, then you wouldn't be so ashamed and embarrassed and it wouldn't bother you at all. This is taboo! I feel sorry for children who are manipulated into relationships with adults like this, you know child abuse is wrong right? Just because a child develops unnatural feelings for you doesn't mean you have to accept his wishes that's why you're the adult, you're suppose to make the right choices and tell him no!

This honestly made me want to vomit.... Seriously? Giving into temptation and having intercourse with a minor? What has this world come to... THERE SHOULDN'T EVER EVEN BE TEMPTATION WHAT THE HELL....!

You're lying weaboo by telling others you're not having sex with him! Not to long ago you made this thread. http://www.sythe.org/personal-support/1608806-no-strings-attached-sex-got-out-hands.html

Read both threads and come back to this one, it all matches up and its the same guy that she's talking about. She's had sex with him, not once but many times.

 

Lol you really don't know anything do you? By law the age of consent could be 15, but it's morally wrong and disgusting. You'd probably be frowned upon or shunned. Indians don't like the pre-marriage sex idea and they marry around early 20's late 20's depends really.

 

Aslong as you do nothing bad/illegeal with/to him (til he is of legal age in your country), screw what others think and if you are concerned on what other people think, just keep it private as long as you can. or say that he's 16 etc.

 

You're comparing morals with law, yet I'm the uneducated one.

You can defend your heritage all you want, i doubt you were born nor have lived there in the past 10 years which excuses you for your ignorance.

I decided to indulge your boastful nonsense with some research. In fact, many arranged marriages happen between 14-16.

I also took the liberty of joining some Indian chat rooms and getting some information about the situation (so i don't come off similar to you, making claims without living the life) which they too said this type of thing is not out of the ordinary (you're welcome to do the same: irc.netsplit.de).

Although it may be frowned upon in America, it is perfectly acceptable (from the research I've done) in many other parts of the world.

 

Lol, I'm ignorant? You're refusing to believe fact, and are acting like an arrogant moron. Many arranged marriages don't happen between 14-16, it used to happen in the past. I'm sure if the kids parents knew they'd be quite upset. I actually have lived in india for two years, so don't give me the bullshit I didn't live the life. You didn't live the life, I actually did. And Yes indian chat rooms are the most reliable sources of info on the planet.

 

The only factual statements made have been from my own research, you're giving nothing but personal opinion. I do suggest you do some research about your "own" heritage and traditions as for someone whom claims to be an India resident, you know nothing about their customs.

I'm not claiming the situation is moral (to my standards) nor acceptable. However, i do understand other cultures and traditions do things different than the us and can have a bias free judgement towards that person.

Also, i won't dissect the other humorous and nonsensical statements you've attempted to "debate" as this is beginning to stray off course. However, i must add - claiming arranged marriages no longer exist was quite entertaining to read.

If you wish to learn anything else about your "own" culture, do pm me. I won't reply here any further unless someone has an immediate question.

@op - hopefully some of this will simmer negative thoughts you may encounter.

 

No, that was some other guy. He was the one who I met in my friend's birthday party last month, I thought I mentioned that already before in that topic. Whereas this kid is my friend's younger brother, who I met this year of Chinese New Year. I'm not stupid that I would sleep with a kid. I know what my limitations are. If I think about even having intercourse with him, it's disgusting enough already for me. So please, before you speak anything, do read carefully.

And to all the people in this thread, his parents DO knows that we are in a relationship and they are completely fine with it. We hang out all the time, and we act more like "friends" rather than a couple. Even my friend ( his sister ) knows that we are dating. We did not do anything physical and I told him straight away that I don't want to do it until he's of 18yrs. Even some of my very close friends knows it. What I'm bothered about is the mouth of the people here, they spread it like wildfire.

I have tried multiple times to tell him that this relation won't work, the age gap is just too big. He's a minor, I'm an adult. But he assures me that he will make it work. Reading all those negative comments really do hurt me really bad, but I guess that's reality eh?

 

You actually are pretty damn ignorant. I wish schools taught kids like you more about cultures other than your own and life skills -.-


@OP: I can sympathise with you to a certain extent, but if you wanted reassuring words and useful advice then Sythe is not a good place to post this.

 

Lol? I never claimed arranged marriages no longer exist, infact most of the marriages are arranged marriages. And I love how most of your statements are from your "Research", you'd have to look in person to fit that information in your thick head. I love your arrogance and how you're trying to come on top of the arguement with your invalaid statements. But, you don't know shit about Indian culture other then the "research" you did over the internet. Just ask the OP what culture is like in India. You no nothing, so unless your gonna give some helpful advice to the OP rather then making the thread about yourself, don't post. And also at Jay Zee, I find it funny you probably didn't even bother reading his posts.

 

He's still a kid, a young kid. Keep it at good friends, which you pretty much already are, until he's 16 at least. Then it'll be a bit more morally acceptable.

 

It's weird cause it's a strange situation. Don't do anything sexual until its legal and shit. Even though it's kind of sad you should try to get him to move on.

 

Hey, I feel uneasy with what I read, and I do feel that it is definitely weird.

But if you love him and he "loves" you as he says, then stay close but stay away from anything sexual until he is legal.

As for the people on streets, there is not much you can do, people are gonna judge as long as there is something out of the norm.

I would suggest staying in close contact and waiting till a later date as suggested by other people

 

It doesn't matter but tbh, it's a bit of weird. You should keep it as a secret until he reaches 18 years old and then let everybody know if they care. My dad is already turning 69 yrs old in February and my mum just turned 55 this month. Age doesn't matter as long as you guys love each other.

 

Age doesn't matter anymore once both participants are both legally consensual adults. It's even worse that the thread title is "my boyfriend is a 14yr old kid" just shows that even she knows he's a kid still but yet she still doesn't care. I'd be okay with this if she was 16 or 17 but c'mon, she's almost 20 and he could still eat free on Wednesdays at Apple Bees.