Love at first sight

well basically, i failed my first year of college, therefore i have to do lessons with the new students coming into the college (1 year younger than me), however, i went into my first lesson of personal finance and i noticed quite a few of retakes were in the class and ive known them for a year so i didnt feel awkward being with younger students. i was talking to a friend of mine then i look up and i see her, it mustve been a moment of lovestruck as i cudnt stop looking at her, ever since that first glance i cant stop thinkin about her. and a problem with me is that im shy around girls. so its been nearly 2 months and still havent managed to pluck up the courage to say hello or hey. i think about her all day.
on the last day of term i was walking to my local bustop and i see her and her mates waiting for the bus. as i walked past to reach the other end of the bus shelter (didnt want to stand next to them), as i was walking past them all of them were just looking and giggling at me :/ when i finally reached the other end of the shelter the girl (im crushing on) and her mate walk past me and then back to her mates, im not an expert of the female arts so i was wondering if any female sythe-ers can help me to understand the situation and what to do with my lack of confidence
much appreciated

 

Try to spark a conversation. Approach her one day and get to know her, like you would any other friend. Make conversation, and ask some questions. I mean if you never approach her, and don't get to know her, wouldn't you regret it if she so happens to be with someone else later? Knowing that just maybe you could be with her, if you just would of approached her. I'm sure the idea of just trying to talk to her, would some how seem a lot easier and better if she does start dating someone.

 

Just be yourself . I'm 15 years old and I know at such an age it seems young to REALLY be in love and serious with a relationship . But my girlfriend and I are so happy together , when I first met her I was always shy . Then I thought to myself one day that I either had to step up and do something about it otherwise if I didn't then she'd end up with someone else . Just be real with her , start off as friends , make her laugh , try to be funny and relaxed around her . Girls love it when guys feel relaxed around them , it makes them feel appreciated . After a while of just being friends , tell her how you feel about her . Be real with her , try to make her understand . But before you do all of this , try and find out if she's with anyone . If you still want to with her even if she is , try to talk to her about her current relationship . Be there for her when she needs to talk , girls love when a guy listens and helps them with things like this . If things are going bad in her relationship being there for her will make her eventually fall for you . At some point you'll be with her if you do all of this , trust me . Just don't give up , you can never succeed unless you keep trying . Hope I helped !

 

i know how to maintain a conversation and stay friends with her, but my real problem is becoming her friend in the first place, were in the same lesson but i never have the courage to say anything to her

 

Just try to like maybe get her attention by doing something . Try to get her to come to you and say something if that's the case . Maybe ask her for something during class that you don't really need such as a pen , then spark the conversation after that .

 

Cliché, I know..but, here's a way you could possibly spark a conversation.

Ask her simply for the time, then compliment her, whether it be her eyes, jaw line, anything really except from the obvious stand outs that could land you in the shit. After, continue the conversation, then ask her what she's doing after college (Maybe walk her home) Start subtle, then lead onto the bigger, better, possible options.

 

A PENNN !! y didnt i think of that, stupid me. (good idea, not being sarcastic)

well she knows i got a blackberry coz i keep flashing it infront of her :L its going to be a bit wierd if i ask for the time when she can see the shape of my blackberry on my trousers :L

 

Hey , I'm glad to help . And just remember , asking her for this you can easily spark the conversation by complimenting her on her looks . But don't call her cute or sexy , that isn't something girls want to hear as a first approach . Call her either beautiful or gorgeous . Try to single out something about her such as her eyes or her smile or anything along the lines of her appearance . I'm telling you , doing this will definitely cause things to continue from there . After that try and find out her interests , what she wants to do later on in life , basic information about her . Then later on you can move onto things such as the type of guys she's into , more of the personal things . But most importantly , ALWAYS feel free to post anything you need help with , this forum is specifically made for helping others . Goodluck !

 

thanks for the help (Y) my final lesson with her for the week is tommorow so i shall try your advice and ill let u know how it went