Most twisted selfish man youd ever meet, MY DAD

I dont even know where to start I need your help with my manipulative dad and terms and definitions or shorter ways to describe what type of person he is so ill start to describe him and its not good. please bare with me it might be long. I will type off of the top of my head as I think im sure I will be forgetting ALOT but its clogging up my mind and making me really depressed I need to type it off as much as I can think of, my sentence structure and grammar is poor but PLEASE bare with me. Support is much needed and Ill answer any questions you have I need help






My dad made life for me, my mom, my brothers and sister miserable for us for as long as we've been with him, hes 50 years old with a suspended license and court dates and tickets like no other. Hes in debt, doesn't pay any bills, the gas bill is past due 2600 and house taxes haven't been payed since 2007. He doesnt believe anything people say, its his way or no way, hes always right and if you disagree with him your an asshole and your stupid and


you went to school for nothing. He thinks hes good at everything and gets furious when you beat him at something. (he doesnt how to do half the shit he does right). I dont know what made him think he was so powerful, he always tells us stories about him back in the day how he escaped Europe and almost died or whatever. Anyway He was forced to sell the house me and my brothers and mom were living with and is only affording to live in the one we are now with payments from the old house. He spent over 250k at the casino in the course of two years. he bought me a car when i was 16 for my birthday than sold his car, gambled the money and took mine back from me.


So I worked 6 hard months and bought my self a nice car for 4500 and only had it for half a year before my dad took it and got it 'stolen' in downtown detroit. I think he stripped it for cash because hes known to do shit like that. Sorry if I go from one subject to another I need to let it all out because its killing me inside. Anyways hes cheated on my mom multiple times with multiple women and always accuses my mom of cheated on him when shes never done anything like that. He spreads nasty rumors about my mom while he does the dirty work and he gets everyone to believe him to! He divorced my mom and even married her sister in a different country and he thinks theres nothing wrong with that. He would trash talk her everyday calling her


all kind of fifthly words when he would get mad over something he didnt like. He talks shit about his kids behind there backs when he wants and than shows them off different times when he wants to make himself look good. My sister moved out got married and is a nurse now and she went through hell with him. Now that shes gone and they dont talk he brags to what friends he has about how shes his daughter. He acts like a dick all the time than hell act all nice when he wants to get us back. That just came to a stop with my mom because he finally kicked her out of the house so she was forced to move to portland with my sister which is good because it was to stressful for her here, she has cancer by the way and was told she wasnt going to make it but she fought it. Reason she got kicked out was because my brought some other bitch to stay in our house while she was there cleaning and


cooking all the time and being cussed out everytime she didnt cook and do something for them. Im sure that bitch my dad brought in convinced him to get rid of her. So now 3 months later the house is a complete mess and upside down and he wants my mom to come back. He calls her daily and tells her how hes changed and that he doesnt bring that bitch around anymore when he does all the time. So I talk to my mom via phone daily and tell her what goes on. So my dad got furious and we got into a big fight almost physical because of this and now im being kicked out. I have to leave by 4 weeks which I dont care because he will regret it and I will have a better life. He doesnt have a car right now or money and always relies on other people


for transportation. He use to have good money though and buy us stuff all the time but that stopped. He also drinks every single day. Hes on probation for 2 years now its really endless im sorry. If your still reading by now thank you so much its really hard on me. I feel like noone will ever see what a twisted selfish excuse of a man he is because other people thinks hes so nice and funny when they first meet him its sickening. Its left me with so much depression its driving me crazy.

 

That's a crazy situation you're in. Hopefully you do have a better life, and now have a prime example of what not to be when you're older. Most people end up like their parents, but you seem pretty adamant that you don't want to be like him. Good luck when you move out, and hope it all goes well for you.

 

I have read your entire post.

This is possibly the craziest yet saddening thing I have ever heard that's about any human being. To be honest, I can't help you at all in the situation you are in. The only way you can get help is if you do something yourself soon. You need to get away from him including your other family. He needs serious help as well. That is not a father in any way with what he is doing to all of you.

I hope you will find a better life after you move out, since you are doing just that. This is extremely hard to understand as...man I mean what kind of person is that? We are here for you if you need someone to talk to. It's actually tough at first to live on your own but the more experience the more easier it will be. Sucks you have to have a a person like that as a father. I surely hope your mom will find someone better if he doesn't ever change.

 

You should just leave now...
Pack your bags and move out, go to a friends or even with your mum and your sister for a while, just until youcan afford your own place.
Cut off all contact with your dad and you'll be better. Just make sure your mum doesn't go back to him.

 

thank you all so much and shoop im looking for a place to stay now because I woke up this morning to some more bullshit thanks for understanding guys :\

 

In my opinion, nobody here is qualified to give advice to your situation. I am not an exception.

I would consult a professional if I were you.

Also, I've read the entire post and I'm sorry for what's going on in your life.
You probably are already doing so, but keep close to your other family members and give them your support.

 

Actually my father is exactly the same. The only difference is that mine doesn't gamble.
I felt way better about things when I moved out.

 

just remember he's a horrible person and you shouldnt be like him.

 

read through the whole thing and your grammar isnt bad at all and your dad basically = my dad aswell, i swear too god i have so many exact same things going on and the same actions he does mine does also....

im 18 and been threatened too be kicked out multiple times, even on my birth day i was almost kicked out because i wanted too have my friend and my girl over and he tripped balls.

basically, he's extremely arrogant in so many heartless, pathetic and just down right ass hole ways, he truthfully cares and treats our 3 dogs better than me and my mom, i have a 2 year old sister, hes already teaching her too cuss and yelling at her like another man when she crys.

he uses his past experiences like getting into so many fights when he was younger, or being an evil child when he was a kid, ( i swear too god, his mom said he was evil since the day he was born, his own MOM) but yeah, he was in vietnam when he was 18; and i wish he died there, anyways, he uses that as leverage against me saying im pathetic, useless and a chicken shit, even when ive broken his nose, hyper extended his arm when he grabbed me by my neck, breaking 6 bones in his fore arm :]

but yes, i get pleasure out of especially mentally hurting him, physical is just temporary, and ive broken my knuckles too many times.

i enjoy thinking of pissing on his death bed and laughing like a fucking retard.
i enjoy thinking of how he was hurt and how he is still hurt now, and on that note theres another thing he does... i have 2 deflated plates in my lower spine from a snowmobile rolling over me, im taller than average and so my legs and joints already feels like i have arthritis in my knees and ankles and knuckles.

anyways, since he was in vietnam and stabbed when he was younger and a complete infidel ass hole prick basically... he now says my pains, which i have too take meds for, are nothing compared too his, even though he can pull a 10 hour day hanging drywall, which ive done multiple 12-16 hour days of drywall with him, too the point of i was having strokes because im diabetic and didnt eat but once a day at most, and im still deprived of food, and forced too do all manual labor around the house and keep it nice n tiddy,

i get no respect from him, he wouldnt piss on me if i was on fire, and if i was 2 inches from saving his miserable life, i would laugh in his face and spark a cig.

i could go on for hours about him and how much hatred i have against him... like im scared too fight people anymore because i have grown a extremely bad anger problem and have a very short temper now, my first fight i completely blacked out and almost killed the kid from kicking him in the face and body, from what my friends said...


i take so much fucking joy in fighting with him because im very well with arguments and words and i dont get caught up, so when i go off on him its straight up face too face spewing hatred.. i fucking love it, i love hurting him in anyway possible, its a fucked up thing i know this for a fact and i hate it but its so satisfying now.

 

Thanks SexayMistahBee ,Shoopadoop and Wazup000 for understanding, Im trying to my hardest not to follow his footsteps and by making this next move I know I will be a better man.

squackinman I feel where your coming from, keep the rage in you and just leave hell regret it. My dad thinks hes so bad ass and invincible because he was locked up multiple times and escaped idk what to get here and blah blah blah, from time to time hell yell at me saying how im not shit and how im just a floor mat compared other people hes dealt with. He tells his same bullshit stories all the time and makes sure its heard and understood and wants people to fear him its ridiculous. A friend of his recently gave him $1200 to try and help get his license fixed even though thats not enough and he blew it all in a couple days at the casino. Its also so goddam annoying how he lies to people and says its our faults and we use him and we never loved him. I sometimes get calls from people asking to change and start respecting my dad more and what I do is wrong. It can get me so incredibly mad. But I know how to stop it and im leaving my house about 3 days from now fuck the four weeks. Another thing is I dont think he wants to kick me out lol hes just saying that because he knows I was going to move in with someone and he wants to use that as an excuse as to why I left. Isnt that some shit.

 

If you'd kill someone because they have a problem, then you're an idiot.

Anyway... Flesh, are you permenantley moving out in 3 days? Or just for a while?

 

Paralysis its not easy :\, I wish I can talk man to man with him but hes not human. He does not listen and completely disagrees . Im going to play it smart and just leave by surprise so I dont get hassled when I leave. I was packing some things today and he went through it all to make sure I didnt take anything of his. Hes also not letting me take anything he bought me in the past 5 years, he saying its all his because he bought it.. All he does is watch netflix all day on my xbox which he wont let me take because he bought one in 06 and thinks he should still have it. I bought two other xboxs since with my money.

 

A friend of mine is letting me stay at there place till I permanently move out of state around thanksgiving. I cant stand staying here any longer he gives me the dumbest shit ever for example, I wake up one morning and boil some water for tea and he says I over filled the pot and it takes more gas to heat it up costing more money, I than eat an apple and he tries to charge me $1.50 for it because I bought some apples at subway the other day for around that much and he said im stupid for that. I try to feed my dog than he completely takes owner ship of him saying not to feed him because he already did and im wasting dog food, (my dogs skinny and you can see his ribcage) He lost weight when my mom left. Next morning I wake up and he asks me angrily if I fed the dog yet when I haven't even had time to get out my bed and go to the bathroom, Just little things like that.

 

Report him to RSPCA or what ever it is in your country, the dog should be cared for properly, it's cruel otherwise...
Also, do you have the receipt for your xbox? If you do just show him that and say the xbox is yours and take it.

 

I will probably give the dog away to someone who cares before I leave and I lost the receipt he knows I bought it but he wants it to replace the one he originally bought for me and my brother on christmas which is stupid and immature. Im going to take it anyways, its like he expects to be owed for the little things he bought us growing up like normal parents buying there kids things. To be honest I wish he never bought us a dam thing.

 

Yeah, be sure to leave a note with yours thoughts about him.
Maybe now that he will be alone, he will have time to look back on his past and regret his wrongdoings.

 

I am so sorry for you dude. It's hard when family is bad. I would recommend staying with very close friends or even grandparents/aunts uncles etc. I fell for you bro.

 

I have neighbors that live above me currently. It's a wife and husband. I feel like he is the same way. They're both in their mid 50's, living in an apartment complex full of college students from the nearby school. They both drink every day. They're both unemployed. He pays no rent. They smoke constantly. He beats her occasionally (only twice that I know of but I'm sure it's not the first time since I've only been here a couple months). All he talks about is how shitty the economy is and how everyone especially the Mexicans are screwing him and everybody over. He's a pathological liar and says his wife's kids are his own just because one's doing Art in New York and the other is in med school in Florida. It makes him look like a supporting parent. He's lazy as hell. They yell all the time about everything. I could go on..

Basically, look at the situation. Realize what the problems are and how these people behave. Then, do your best to not be anything like these people when you're older. You've seen first hand how people like this affect those around them. Try to be an example for them and for everyone else.. And good luck. I know it's hard.

 

Emancipation my Dear Friend.

Life sucks but at this point ur almost old enough to move out legally or u could get Emancipated and move out now.

As for your younger sister/brother's (if u have any? that part wasnt clear) i would talk to the police or a counselor and try to get them out of that house to go live with ur mom/other relatives.

But yeah look on the bright side its almost over and you will never have to talk to ur dad again if u dont want to at 18

 

I'm sorry to hear about what's going on in your life, and hopefully it all gets better! Sounds like the best thing to do, would be to distance yourself from him, and stay close to the rest of your family to comfort each other. And try hard to not be like him, as I know personalities do transfer down generations sometimes, remind yourself that you're better than that, and your future family deserves better! Best wishes, and good luck!