Lonely :( Need advice.

Ok, so here is how my story goes. Im lonely as hell at school and lets just say its very depressing.

I talk with this girl (no i dont like her) and we just kinda talk when shes in my classes but i want like a Friend thats a guy, NO im not gay either, i just want to be able to talk about sex or about sports or games or something, i cant talk to a girl about this because i dont want to offend them. I recently had a girl friend but i broke up with her after a 2 year relationship, and i was never afraid or shy around her which is another trait i have, after i get to know someone and talk with them for awhile im not shy around them, but i guess im very worried about people being judgmental against me when i first meet people.

I also dont know what to talk about if i do talk with people, like when im around my family or something i just bring random things up but i cant seem to do that around people.

My problems:

-In high school

-Been home schooled a total of 4 years i think, left after 3rd grade, went back to school around 6th grade. left again half way through 9th grade.

-Was seriously popular in 3rd grade (i know hard to believe right? but i was)
made a best friend in 6th grade but i moved to a new school and haven't seen him since and i live in another state.

-Shy but i still talk here and there.

-I have a tenacity to get my work done before others aka work alone in group projects.


Please give me some advice people, what should i do? I find it hard to talk to people and i dont crack jokes to random people, i get shy when people ask me to sit with them at lunch or something like that, i try to say yes and i do sometimes but its awkward sitting with them. I have no clue how to deal with this.

I sit alone at lunch even though i want to sit next to people and socialize but i just cant, i cant ever straight up ask out a girl i have to text or something else besides face to face.

Im lonely and im getting more and more depressed each day that goes by, iv dealt with this for a long time now and i just cant do it anymore i hate school more and more each day that goes by even though im doing good in school. This issue has been like this since i first was put back in school, but i never had this before i was home schooled.

 

I was in the same position as you in high school, and that's why I came on Sythe.

Do you have a Skype? We could talk there if you want, or join the irc:

www.striked.org
#Sythe

 

i have skype but i think i forgot the user name and pass, ill look for it unless you have msn

Another problem is the fact that i have like a problem with speaking on channels because yet again im judgmental about how i sound :/

 

Go in as a different nick then

Go in and don't be afraid to show people who you are man.

And of course I have MSN: PM me for it

 

Believe me, i do, i think exactly about this EVERYDAY, and i get excited about this and im ready to show them who i really am but when i arrive at school, BOOM i go straight back to how i was.

 

Well what I do is just go home for lunch when I have school, since school is 5 mins away from my house when I take the bus.

And I just go on the computer

But since your stuck at school, just start trying to be confident and talk to alot of people.

Start watching alot of T.V shows so you have a topic that everyone can relate to.

 

Honestly, something that let me do that in the past was being more "crazy", doing more stuff that school offers, joining teams etc.

And just talk about things you've done, things you like, thing you want to do

 

Unfortunately you're going to have to come out of your shy comfort zone and start doing things you don't feel comfortable doing.
You'll have to get chatting to people or nothing will happen.

 

Well i cant do that, my school is retarded. We have 23 mins for lunch but lunch for everyone is spread across 5 lunches. And its not exactly easy to just be confident and talk to people.

Like i said above, trust me i would really like to do this but its not just that simple to just talk to people.

yet again, this isnt just something i can randomy just do, iv tried all these but i get confident one morning before i go to school, then when i arrive at school im like wtf am i doing?

I dont see how this helped?

 

It is not easy, but you need to start somewhere. There is no guide for this, it's just life.

 

yup, just wish it was easier.

 

I know you said you've tried, but just force yourself to do it, otherwise it's never going to happen.

 

Well, we will see what happens Monday :/. From my point of view, i look around and see the kids at my school and it seems like every kid has a friend already, and its like if i talk to them well talk for a bit but then they will eventually just go back to that friend.

 

This trick always works....

When you're in class, from time to time look around the class as if you're bored and if you see someone looking at you too, just give them a "Whats up?" signal with your head or eyebrows or something then slowly as you continue, people will see that you're friendly, and during free time in class, new conversations will spark up and you'll be involved and shit will lead on....you'll continue gathering more friends.

 

I'd really like to talk to you. It's not apparent from my avatar, but I'm a guy. A rather normal guy, quite popular these days, with an amazing girlfriend- and I have quite a few friends of both genders. But, when I was in 3rd grade, I was cool too- then I was homeschooled, and my life was sorta hell. My parents put me on a diet, because they believed I had allergies that made me act up and such. When I came back in sixth grade, I was very socially awkward, and people figured I was gay. I didn't know much of anything about social situations, and I was a great deal smarter than everyone else- and still am. But, towards highschool, things looked up.. ANYWAY, add my skype, please: Devinlinn

Edit: Don't bother feeling bad about your voice. I couldn't care less- you'll find being a nice guy could just be your ticket to love, happiness, and success. ADD ME!

 

ok, just give me a bit to find my skype user name

 

will do. Just went to a Chinese restaurant and my fortune from the cookie was

"You are Sociable and Entertaining." lol weird eh?

 

trolololol, lololol, lolol lol, trololo. :3 Hrmm, I think his 'sup idea is funny X D it might come off as creepy. Do what floats your boat.

 

well, i dont exactly have anything that floats my boat atm, so i guess im gonna try this unless someone has a better idea.