Soo, my gf of almost 4 years.

Well honestly I agree with a few points from different people.

Girls like to have attention, so letting her know your still there for her from TIME to TIME is always a plus. Don't over do it though.

I also agree you should enjoy the time apart because there's no guarantee she will come back to you. Your still young, I do believe you could love her truly but you can't make someone love you; they have to decide that for themselves.

Defiantly don't mop on it, you have to live your life still. Embrace it and if she's who you really want then hope she comes back but live like even if she doesn't you'll make it; because you'll have to.

Point is don't give up hope but keep going on, it will get better as long as you believe it, and be the best person you can be with or without her.

Hope it helps man!

 

I'm sorry to hear about your girl troubles man. You sound like a very mature kid for your age. I have been where you are dude and I know how much it sucks. One thing that stood out to me in your post is when you talked about your relationship, how "she means everything" to you, how you guys have been together since you were 11 years old, and how you claim to "love her more than you love yourself".

Having such a serious relationship at such a young age can be a huge problem man, I know from experience. I'm sure whatever you have with her is wonderful and incredibly special, but at that age you are just so young and so inexperienced in life that it is very hard to maintain a deep relationship. I mean at 15 years old, how well do you guys really know yourselves? You probably just began puberty a few years ago and you are basically smack-dab in the middle of adolescence. You have tons of growing to do as a person, and many many years of important learning that you still need to do.

I'm sure your girlfriend loves you very much, but maybe she is starting to feel like she needs to find her own identity. It is very possible that after so many years together, she is beginning to feel a bit like she is losing herself. Instead of being "her", it is more like "her and you". Maybe she just needs some space to explore some things on her own, and come to a better understanding of herself before she is ready to fully share that identity with another person. I could be wrong, but take it from my experience that falling in love and having a very serious relationship at such a young age can be tough. You are already so lost and confused as it is!

Either way man, I hope everything works out for you guys. Don't give up! Just try to give her that space she needs for the time being, and take advantage of this opportunity to try and explore and learn more about yourself. But if you truly love her, make sure she knows that and that you will always be there for her. If you need to talk about anything man, just send me a PM and I would be more than happy to chat

 

If you wan't her back fast, dont talk to her. She will come back to you in about a week. She will want the need of you, and end up chasing you. It's a big mind game. I'm in one myself, currently losing, but i know what i should have done to prevent all of this. I HIGHLY recommend you listen to me. She does like you very much. You were the biggest part of her life for 4 years, she wouldn't throw that away for anything. Give her the space, and she will be back in a week. I'm saying this from experience. My GF broke up with me because she couldn't handle her life, then 2 weeks later she was ready to come back to a relationship. Been better ever since. Trust me on this one when i say don't talk to her for at least a week. It may kill you inside, but know that she is only feeling the same way you do.

 

Absense makes the heart grow fonder. If you love eachother you'll get back together.

 

Very true, I have talked to my Dad about this before.
That, you shouldn't date one girl too long (if you're under 28ish) because you need to learn to communicate with other people. You need to learn other girls, whatnot.
I'm sorry to hear that man, but start talking to other girls now.

 

In your situation there's really nothing you can do besides wait it out. She probably lost interest in you because you coddled her to much. You need to treat girls like shit because, for some reason that I do not understand, if you don't they'll get bored and move on.

IMO go and get with another girl and watch her come running right back to you.

 

I don't understand why people keep saying you didn't/don't love her. You very much so could have been in love. It's a personal feeling, and no one can tell you if you did or didn't. If you had a feeling for her that you couldn't explain and would do absolutely anything for her, then in my opinion, you loved her. If you haven't already, just sit down with her and talk about it face to face. She obviously has something going on that's building this "wall" between you. Just find out what's up, and talk with her straight. If she doesn't want to talk, then leave it be. You don't want to ruin the friendship you have (I'm assuming you're still talking to her). Keep us posted though, it really sucks to see someone struggling with personal life, especially with relationships. If this doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world. Go explore, hang out with friends, be free. It's no fun to still be attached to something that's gone, because you'll feel like you're tied into a relationship that you're really not, and therefore you don't get to do the things and "average" teenager should be able to.

And, I have no idea what the fuck this guy is shootin' up.. He must be fucking autistic or something.. -_- Treat girls like shit? You've got to be kidding me. I hope you were joking, then again, if you're joking over a serious thread, fuck you.. I hope you decide to treat a girl bad someday and her older/bigger brother beats the shit out of you. Treat girls with respect, or tie a rope around your neck, hang it from the ceiling, stand on a chair, and jump.

 

Ask her to be your booty call.

 

I think she may wants to try to date with other guys.
Give her all the time she needs (but not to much ofc) then try to get her back, tell her how much you love and appreciate her, don't tell it to us.

 

Give her some time. That's all.

 

In this situation you need to make her feel like shes lost.

I understand your loved up and have been together a while, but you're 15.. At the end of the day, in the next 15 years you're going to see all the action everyone else does. So take that as a bonus to the situation.

You want to be with her, she clearly wants to be with you. But you're easy, and not a challenge. You phoning her 100 times after her telling you that is only making her believe she needs rid of you more.

What I would do is ;

Not contact her
Keep conversation brief if you do communicate
Make sure shes aware you're loving the break
Talk with other girls, Don't fuck them but just be around girls more.

She will only be overshadowed with regret if she's sat thinking she's made a mistake and you're having the time of your life. I can almost gauntness if you take the "cuntish" attitude towards her, she'l come back. If you beg, act easy. You've got no chance.

Also don't make it easier for her to get back with you, make her work for it. Don't want her thinking she can get away with doing this anytime she pleases.

Best of luck my friend, If you consider my response unacceptable the I apologize, but best of luck anyway.

 

People are dumb that say, "you don't know what love is." but just give her space. She'll realize what she did wrong.

BEST ADVICE: DO NOT go to her friends. You might want too, seems like a good idea, but don't do it.

 

This is exactly it. There's a saying that goes something along the lines of, "if you let her go and she comes back, she'll be yours forever."

Just give it time mate, it'll all work out for the best.

Edit: Another thing to consider is: do not smuther her. I mean this in the sense that if she's wanting her own space, it might just be because you two have been around each other so much and haven't really had any time a part. No matter how much you get along with someone, you will get sick of them eventually if you're around them 24/7. Use this time a part to hangout with some of your bro's who you haven't really done much with lately. And after it's been a week, give her a call, if she doesn't answer- leave her a cute voice mail that'll make her smile.