sexual orientation questions

I have been having thoughts for ages of whether i am gay or Bi or just attracted to the same sex. Last night i went to a gay bar while i was on speed i got really loved up and ended up taking my shirt off and dancing with other guys and even hooked up with another guy. I'm just confused whether it was the speed making me let free or my feeling are genuine, today i feel like i have feelings there but im not 100% sure because i couldn't get hard when i got with hooked up with the guy but at the same time it felt good getting up close ect (maybe that was the speed)

Thanks in advance

 

Technically there's no differentiating between males and females apart from the physical; we're all human beings. By nature we're usually attracted to members of the opposite sex, but it's not exactly a bad thing if you're attracted to the same sex. It may even be the case that you're attracted to both.

The other scenario is that subconsciously you see no difference in male and females, and as such you'd be classified as a pansexual.

Drugs do change your outlook on things, but to be honest if you find yourself feeling that way without them then there's really naught wrong with it. Maybe try PM'ing Finn about it.

 

I would have to say you are probably homosexual or bisexual. Try laying off the meth and see if you have the same outlook on your sexual orientation. And then finally, lay off of the meth forever lol.

 

Well getting hard is not the problem its just if you feel something or if you feel uncorfortable with it

 

Damn, seems like you've got to have a serious self evaluation. Maybe talk to someone experienced with difficulties regarding sexuality. Become comfortable with yourself.

Also lay off the speed bro, that shit is horrible for you. Been there done that.

 

Thanks for the input, it was speed not meth

Well i felt fine just a little uncomfortable because it was my first time i guess you could say with a guy

I had a talk to a few of the guys at the club and talked about how scary it is coming out ect. I just need to do some self evaluation to try and sort things out i think.

First time with speed was pretty good fun but it was a once off thing for my birthday



Any more opinions will be great

 

bump it up

 

It was probably the drugs, but if it wasn't there's no issue. Knowing your age would be helpful; if you're fully developed I doubt that you're more gay than straight. Knowing your feelings/ history of (successful) sexual interactions with the opposite sex could also help, but leave it out if you feel uncomfortable. According to extensive research done by a man named Kinsey, people range on a scale from totally gay to totally straight; you might be closer to the straight part but still attracted to members of the same sex.

 

Thanks for the response. I just turned 19 a few weeks ago. Been with a total of 5 girls all of which i have had sex with. I have never really experimented with guys or anything before this time but thoughts have been in my head.

 

Thoughts in your head during teen (developmental) years are normal. I would say by all evidence you are straight and it was probably the drugs.

My 2 cents: Stay clean from now on. If you want to experiment, go for it. Do what feels right physically and socially.

 

I had the same problem, I just did what Finn said I studied pornography and made my decision. I chose straight. Word to the wise speed and booze don't mix well be careful when you combine them. Best of luck!

 

Finn pretty much summed it up. Like he said, watch some porn and see what you're aroused with. However I do believe speed played a part.

 

If it is a serious consideration, just pursue the feelings one day while you're completely sober. There's no clear cut way for us to tell you whether or not you're gay, straight, bi etc so this is really all we can tell you. If you enjoy it without any drugs or mind/mood altering substances in your system, then obviously you can move forward with it.

 

Thanks for the help, don't worry i know what i am doing and never mix