Homosexuality a choice?

No they're not. Straight is the default for human life through genetics. Without reproduction we would not be here hence evolution. I agree your mind may be altered through possible environments and the like, but sexuality isnt a choice you make.

 

Saying that you were born gay, is like saying you were born male inside a females body which is extremely bizarre and not everyone is going to agree with you. I just think it happens, people like different things at different times. I use to like dogs and cats, now I can't stand the site of any animal.

Your mind, and way of thinking ages with you and you're always changing and creating new goals in life. This is of course just my opinion, someone no matter what will always have a disagreement.

 

Lol, assuming attraction and reproduction share the same means of conducting a sexual decision is ignorant at best. Please don't use the logic:
Humans know they need to reproduce to survive, humans must be straight to reproduce= A person understands they need to reproduce to survive, therefor he/she must be straight.

It is flawed.

Reproduction is a physical and survival trait, based off of evolution and our understanding that without this we would die out. Homosexuals even understand this. Saying this causes straight to be humans default is ridiculous, since reproduction as I said is built into humans as a physical liability, not emotional (where the subject of attraction lies).

Sexuality is based on attraction and your own innate desires. It is a choice you make unconsciously based on how you react to your own feelings, surroundings, and many other variables.

Please don't twist my words by saying your mind can be "altered" it is not altered, it is how it always was and will be. The choice of sexuality is "influenced" by all these variables.
You can change your sexuality, but you must actually change and choose to be gay/straight/bi/bestiality/etc completely. So it is possible but since this unconscious decision was made without forcing it before, it would have to be made unconsciously as well, meaning your brain must actually change its attraction from females to males.

 

We don't need to have sex to carry on evolution, that's why there are sperm banks and surrogacy. Sex is merely for self enjoyment.

 

From everything I've heard, I don't believe it is. I've had several gay friends in my life, and from observing them it doesn't appear to be.

 

How so? How would you differentiate them being born with it or then making it as an unconscious choice at an early age? What obvious trait do you see that makes this viewable to you and not others on this thread?

I don't mean to badger but I'm just looking for your insight.

 

For example, one of my friends says he keeps his homosexuality from his parents because he believes his dad is so anti-gay that he would kick him out of his home. Now, so much of what we are is influenced by our parents. If this is the kind of environment he grew up in, how could it have possibly influenced a subconscious choice to be gay?

 

I reckon you won't get answers from someone other than gay people themselves, you'll need to survey them and how they knew.

 

If you're honestly gay and not just acting flamboyant for attention, I don't think you have a choice in who you're attracted to. I think the fact that we aren't all cavemen anymore has led some people away from the whole "fuck to keep the species as a whole alive" attitude, and made them experiment more.

 

Is an unconscious choice at an early age even truly considered a choice?

 

No, you can't choose who you're attracted to. I can't "choose" to like men if I'm not attracted to them.

 

Imo there are two points people get confused with, the first is that gay means that you are sexually attracted to someone of the same sex. The second is that just because you are able to choose to go out and sleep with someone of the same sex, you cannot necessarily choose to be sexually attracted to them.

 

Agree with you there Niini but I still think you need someone who is attracted to the same sex to answer the questions properly.

 

How did decades of families acting prim and proper give rise to rock n' roll? Sometimes conditions will give rise to opposite results.
Yes it is true we are influenced by our parents but does that mean were only influenced one way? Ofcourse not, anyone who thinks so is ridiculous.

Yes, its actually one of the purest choices we can make because it's only truly influenced by basic environment, and our initial surroundings.

 

I'm guessing your a muslim like me.

It's something your born with, as a muslim, even if your attracted to the same sex, you still have to marry the opposite gender.

 

No it's not. The same way guys are attracted to girls, girls are attracted to guys, and girls are attracted to girls. And the reason why some guys like tall girls, some like short. Some girl's like tan guys, some girl's like jock's, others like the smart types. It's just part of who you are.

 

Yeah also I like to add this in to everything I've said already. Just because you're straight doesn't mean you'll be attracted to every girl you see. There might be a transvestite who looks like the girl of your dreams, regardless of him being male you'll be attracted to him/her.

 

I thought this before, but I'm adding
Things could have happened in your life that influenced your sexuality in some way, I don't believe you're born with it, I believe your life goes along and you get the feelings at some point, such as you have a best friend that's a girl, and eventually develop feelings, things always happen for some reason, so whatever it is, it happens. It's not a choice , your feelings can't be chosen =/

 

Ok. But there's a difference in being gay and just not being attracted to someone. A transvestite may give off attractive feminine characteristics, which is why I would be attracted to her. Just because she has a penis doesn't mean I'm gay (unless you "interact" with the penis).

 

Honestly, Homosexuality is, while influenced by the environment, Not a choice people directly make. While people can consciously choose to be gay, I seriously doubt that anyone who does that has their heart into it (or their penis, for that matter).