[Guide] Dealing with bullies.

Dealing with bullies:
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It doesn't matter what age you are, you'll always have to deal with bullies in life.
Everyone get's bullied at one time or another and most of the time they don't know how to deal with it.
So know that you're not alone and there are many ways you can solve it, not ALL of them are included in this guide. I will be adding more to this guide as time goes on.
Thanks for reading, and I hope your problems are solved <3



1. For people in school

When you're being pushed around picked on or being annoyed by someone ask them to stop politely once.
If they continue to do it don't let them know that you're being bothered by it and try to ignore it.

If this does not work after a few days/weeks then you can bring it to an adult or someone you trust.
I know that you might be teased about "Snitching" on the bully but it's the right thing to do.
Now a days schools take bullying very seriously, and know how to prevent most of it on school grounds.

I strongly urge you to speak to an adult, but if you do not wish to that's your choice.
What you can do other than that (This is more chaotic)...
You can try playing mind games with them, do some research on this person and ask around to find out about his/her life.
Eventually you'll find the negative things in their life, you must approach them in a very calm manner.
Talk to them about why they do the things they do, while subtley teasing them. This will most likely work if done correctly.

The previous method isn't reccomended .


2. For people at work

If you're being bullied by a co-worker: You can find a way to prove to your boss or whoever deals with hiring and firing people that they're treating you this way.
Then they will most likely get fired.

If you're being bullied by your boss or a manager: you have a few options, the simple way is to quit.
If you're being sexually harassed / treated unfairly you can file a lawsuit against them in most cases.
If you're fired unfairly you can file a lawsuit against them for firing you for no reason.


3. For people at home

If you're being bullied at home by a family member you can

A. Tell a parent or guardian (If it's the other Guardian or a sibling.)
B. Call your local Child help hotline and ask for help.
C. If you're old enough you can move out, or move in with a different relative that's willing.




I hope this guide has helped you, if you have any questions about this feel free to post here and ask or PM me.
I'll respond as soon as I can.


- Lym &#9829;

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first of all the school bullying help is (well i find it to be) extremely dumb you cant just go telling on people your whole life. Is that really a way to grow? People need to find ways to deal with their problems. If someone were to make fun of me I would make fun of them right back, however if they ever tried to put their hands on me we are fighting end of story...but then again i am a big guy 6"4 200 pounds. But I have thought this since I was really small and weak. My friends wouldnt let anything happen to me If they saw me getting into an argument or fight they would rush to my side and depending on the current situation help or break it up. Telling an adult in school is the worst thing you can do. I have seen it happen and it only makes things worse and you look like a "wimp or "bitch". Dont get me wrong I would never hit someone in the workplace but if someone was putting their hands on me I wont let it happen. I guess i feel this way because my parents raised me with that thinking about telling a teacher and after a while i realized it was dumb, especially while other peoples parents said "If someone puts their hands on you hit them back." If it is a group of guys that gang up on you go down fighting rather than giving up odds are people will see how unfair it is and jump in, but the way I see it as long as your comfortable with what you need to do and you have good friends you would be fine. My friends are like my family and they say they would take a bullet for me and I would for them, they are like my brothers.

 

Very dead-on guidelines, but all it really takes is the right sense of mind to stand up and put and end to it.

 

Only read first 2 sentences as I can't read a wall of words.
You do realize reacting in the way they want you to react isn't the way to fix it.
They want you to get mad, and that's why they're doing it. To make you look bad.

Beating the shit out of someone isn't dealing with your own problems, it only creates more problems for you.
In school the only way for you to deal with it, without dealing with other bull shit is to get help from someone.
Kids aren't meant to deal with that type of shit, especially younger ones.

In high school, you should still do the same thing. Only fight them if it's in self defense.. Never actually start the fight.

Still not done the guide, just decided to add it like that for now.

 

I found that, when you're being bullied, what you need is friends. Your friends can support you, and most of the times, the people who "take the mick" out of you are often disliked and so if you have friends they will generally scare the bully off by verbally abusing them. Eventually, they'll get too scared to openly confront you.

If they try to e-bully you, over Facebook, for example, what I used to do is post the chat logs on their wall. In minutes, many people would see and they stopped preeeetty abruptly.

I don't find going to your "elders" works, as this doesn't help your "rep", and can often make you the butt of jokes about some things such, and jibes to you can actually be more hurtful, in my opinion.

 

or if you are big enough, retaliate (school bullying). violence, in some cases, is in fact the answer.

 

Violence is a dumb way to solve things.
Violence only creates more violence.

 

oh ok i guess for younger kids its all right but in highschool up its not about getting mad its about defending yourself. If you dont defend yourself the first time they will come back I have seen it happen and i have had to stand up for people, my friends etc

exactly^

 

As I said before, only fight in self defense.
If they aren't physically doing anything don't physically do anything against them.

 

I completely disagree. Violence is never the answer, unless your life is in danger you should just walk away and report the assault to the person in proper authority to deal with the situation. Just because someone for example punches you in the back, it doesn't mean you return the favor. [This is if they're at school of course]

If you're in a public area alone and someone was physically harming you, then yes if it was last resort protect yourself. Doubt you'd make it out though or win the battle because most people who get into these predicaments are usually smaller and weaker then the attacker.

 

agreed

 

Your advice for school is no good, if you do that your labelled for the rest of your school life. Stand up to the bully in most cases they'll respect you for it, if they try to physically hurt you for standing up to them, it doesn't matter if you get knocked down. Get back up and continue your case, continue this until the bully stops or your in to much pain to continue. You might get a beating but you'll be respected throughout your school life.

 

This guide is wrong? I for one, have NEVER been bullied simply because im aggressive, and people know that with me, they better back the fuck up, before they get smacked the fuck up.

 

thats the way i think

 

Thanks for the guide, hope this will help people

 

That's what self defense means.

Who cares what you're labelled by bullies?
Regular kids won't give a shit. Why would you want to be respected by a bully. That's just dumb.

Good for you, not everyone is aggressive, nor can everyone BE aggressive.
Violence is stupid, unless in self defense

I hope so to.

 

Very well-written guide. My younger brother suffered from sever bullying when he was in school. I remember him coming home with mud all over his uniform, not from sport or anything, but just straight up bullying. I really wish he could have read something like this back then. Strong support for anti-bullying.

 

Thanks for posting

 

I did method 2 to one person once. I was back in USA and he was a prick to every one, not just a select few. I didn't go find information about him but instead I got him suspended and was also able to get his girlfriend to leave him. Once he came back he was a lot more quiet and wasn't nearly annoying as he used to be.

 

Big man, we're all very proud of you.

How is Lym a pussy just because she doesn't support violence. Your clearly just a belligerent ape who would attempt to pick a fight with anyone, enjoy your life.