Date your friends ex? Please post opinions...

Alright so my best friend of 7 years dated this girl like in the 7th grade. (we are sophomores now), now i kinda like her but the problem is:
1. friends ex
2. He started hitting on her a couple of weeks ago...

Alright so i've been talking to her ect and all that and she tells me she will not go back out with him, and she really likes me. So i've talked to my friend about it (bro code...) And he said just wait a few weeks to let the feelings pass.

Now, what the question is is he just saying that to not seem like a pussy, or is he hiding his feelings? I know it's wrong to date your friends ex, but it was 3 or so years ago..

Please help, i need to know if i should date her and possibly get punched in the face, or just stay friends.

 

I personally wouldn't. Your friend clearly isn't okay with you dating her, and you only "kinda like her".....in a few weeks you could be into another girl, who knows. Just let your feelings pass by tbh, better than losing your best friend.

 

At your age a friend is more worth then this girl...
Friendship Will last longer then this relationship.

 

I wouldn't.

 

let it go, it's highschool, she'll be with another guy in 2 months. and you be left without a girl or a friend.

plenty of fish in the lunchroom. just sayin.

 

Don't do it...my friend did this same shit to me...Dick move

 

Wow he dated her in middle school, 3 years is plenty of time to get over someone. Just keep talking to her but don't get put in the friendzone

 

Depends on what kind of a friend he is. If you and him are really tight, I think it's better to just back off her. If he was the kind of douchy friend, and you and the girl really do like each other, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go for her. You should also consider how he treated her. If he was a good boyfriend, then, again, I'd back off. But if he wasn't, then you should go for her. She deserves better (assuming you'll be a good boyfriend )

 

Try hooking your friend up with some other girl.
Then I'd say you can date your friend's ex .

 

if you do it you're a lil bitch that cant get pussy, there are so many chicks stop being a little girl

 

My best friend of three years dated my ex from freshman year 4 years ago after I met up again with her at community college. If it's of any consolation; I didn't mind much, but one thing that annoyed me is when he'd talk shit about her when they got into fights.

If you like this chick, go for it, but stay aloof about your relationship. Don't lavish extensive detail on how awesome it is, nor bitch about her faults. It will all be fine as long as you're not annoying about it imo

 

It's honestly circumstantial.

Some friendship groups wouldn't care. Others would take enormous offence. Given that your you've been best friends with him for 7 years. I'd say even if you did date her, he wouldn't mind much, and would get over it within days. Conversely, since he's your best friend, you should really heed his opinion.

Personally, I'd just stick with the 'bro code'. It's not like your friend has banned you from dating her, he's just asking for you to wait it out.

 

What he said. It's not worth fucking your friend over for a girl you aren't completely interested in meeting/having a relationship with.

 

Talk to your friend about it, and respect his wishes.

In highschool, friendships > relationships.

Good luck and don't worry, plenty of fish in the sea.

 

I don't recommend you dating her.
Like Lym said above, plenty of girls to pick out

 

Don't risk friendship for a female, bad move dude. It'd only last for a little while, then you'd be left without a friend (possibly) and the girl would be moving on, It's what they do, feed you lies and shit for a while to get your attention, then prey on some other guy.

 

I would. Nothing does matter if you love her and she loves you.

 

Tbh, I wouldn't just out of to preserve your relationship with your friend.

 

I would. My friends are jackasses. Uhm, I would date my girlfriends friend too. He should realize that it didn't work out with him so why would it be a big deal?

 

Let me try to sum up what some people tried to say here.

It might be "okay" in the short term. you might lose a friend, but dating her will be great as you both like each other.

But in the long term, it's not so great. You've lost a friend, and you'll probably break up with the girl. You'll have lost your friend of 7 years over a single bitch.