I fall, and there's noone to catch me.

Before I begin, I want to give a big thanks to whoever actually answers.

Basically, two-three years ago I fell "in love" with the "girl of my dreams", and we basically dated for two years (my biggest relationship) and after the first year went by, I didn't know that she started to do things with other guys, then a month after our one year anniversary, she cheated on me (dated a few other guys). I didn't find out until a month or so before our two year anniversary. When I found out, I was devastated. For about 4 months, I went into a deep depression. I wouldn't talk to anyone, or do anything. I then found her ex-bestfriend. We started flirting, hanging out, then eventually we dated. It was a year relationship, I felt like I was in love with her as well, but I feel like I wasn't. It's a hard judgement. Regardless of that, during our relationship my ex (the one that cheated on me) started talking to me 9 months into the relationship. I was shocked, and of course started talking back. Anyways, we started flirting, etc. and then about 3 months later Katlyn and I broke up. My ex and I (the one that cheated on me, Danielle) started talking a lot, and then she got in a relationship WHILE she was flirting with me, and I was then again torn to pieces.

Currently, Danielle texted me/added me on Facebook last night, and I OF COURSE accepted it, then I talked with one of my bestfriend and realized all she was going to do is hurt me again. She knows i'd do anything for her back, and I feel just so hopeless. Now, i'm known as a "player" in some sort, but apparently a lot of girls "like me". Anyways, whenever I fall in love for a girl, I feel like my heart is getting broken to pieces. I've been cheated on five times throughout my lifetime, and I feel like I'm not good enough for anyone.

I'm now unofficially in a relationship, with a girl I really like, but apparently I lead girls on which is one of my problems. I feel like I do that, because i'm desperate to love again. I need that feeling, it's crazy. As well, I had an amazing day today, because I was hanging out with some girls that I haven't seen in over a year (no feelings, nothing) and she just like brought my day down, but trying to make me feel jealous by saying "oh ya i'm gonna go pick up my boys now" like, wtf lol.

Anyways, I feel like I just fall so hard, and yet there's noone to catch me. What should I do?

 

Since no one was here to reply, and you took the longest time posting up you owe an answer.

You and I both know what to do is to stop talking to Danielle. You're probably still young hopefully, and you shouldn't let a relationship like that bring you down for the next girl that starts to have feelings for you. Don't Date if you're not ready nobody is going to rush you okay? Try not to take it so hard, because millions of people go through the same thing and they're okay.

& what to do: Step #1. Delete Danielle off of Facebook
#2 Go make things right with the other girl
#3 Talk to the unofficial girlfriend
#4 Reply here and let us know how it goes. .
Just Remember:
" When you're young everything feels like the end of the world, the sun still rises and sets. It's up to you to move on and be ready for the next Sun Rise".

 

Yeah, I have deleted her off Facebook - but no matter what when she comes back, with a text/message, I always crawl my way to her.

As for the steps:

#1 - Done.
#2 - We're bestfriends'ish.
#3 - I do talk to her, but her jealousy gets the best of her and makes my day go down. So basically, I tell her I'm sorry and everything becomes awkward, and then she just ignores me basically, so I'm basically hopeless..

 

Maybe telling her whats sorry isn't best.
Tell her: " I don't think there is a need to be jealous, you're the one i like, and i appreciate you more then her. You haven't put me through hell, and you've been there for me. I'd take you over her any day. - Don't lie if you don't mean that.

 

Thanks for the help btw.

Also, I do basically tell her that everytime she's like "jealousy is my ugliest trait", and I'm like, "there's no reason for you to be jealous, if you're the one I want.", or something around that.

I guess she just tries to make me feel bad?

"cause there is millions of girls that wants you and you rather have than me.. and im worthless and nothingg! i dont dont deserve a great guy like you!:/" was the last thing she said. >_>

 

tell her this then :

Okay don't ever think less of yourself, you're beautiful no matter what. and are you just saying that because you're having second thoughts? I'm trying to get her out of my life. I'm asking if you'd help me?

 

Just texted her that. Thanks man. I'll let you know how it goes.

 

Goodluck ^__^

 

Stop crawling back to her. She doesn't even deserve to be a friend for what she did to you. Would a "friend" hurt you like that?

 

I'm sort of in another position. I've cheated on my current girlfriend twice. :s. I love her to pieces. But I don't think before I act. But the thing is. My girlfriend broke up with me 9 - 15 times when she left for Canada. I was shattered. I had no one close to me. I have no real friends I can tell anything to. I envy people who do. But the thing is, it's always tough having your heart broken. I just hope that once you figure out how to get yourself back up on your feet, you'll know that sometimes, sometimes it's better to be single.