-Bro Code-

Okay, so this is my problem , i got this girl that i started talking to like a few weeks ago , we have already had sex and went all the way and pretty much done everything and are looking to get together,

BUTTT the problem is its my best bro's babys mama , idk wat to do i kno he will be mad if i date this girl but it really like her , any ideas?

 

just be straight up with your friend, hopefully he'll understand

 

ehh yah i kno but he tells me he still loves her and stuff all the time and he has a baby with her , ha its crazy but i think im just goin to keep talkin to her then maybe date her

 

Sounds like you just fucked yourself out of a best friend. That's hammered man.. Theres spose to be certain boundarys, unless agreed that she is a huss bag and fair game.

You broke bro code, the least you could do is not lie to him.

 

i mean im sure he will understand will just probley take time , but ya i kno i screwed up ;/ but idk wat else ta do .

 

I'm sure if he found out he would hate you... You took things too far. You should have told him earlier.

 

ya i prob should have ...

 

Shes got a kid? only ask because you said "babys mama"
If he shares a kid with her, its going to be abit harder for him to understand you.

 

ya she has a kid with my best friend ... and ya exactly i hope he understands im sure he will eventually

 

You've already proved yourself a bad friend by sleeping with her even after he told you he still loves her, so just get with her. Hopefully your friend beats your ass for being a douchebag. Hope I helped!

 

lol he wouldnt be able ta beat my ass , but thanks ha

 

What you have done is really bad, and it shows that you've not only broken "bro code" but you're a complete ass hole with no morals.

 

It's not like getting with her will make what you did any worse; you've already slept with her, I don't think you can really do anything else more disrespectful towards your friend.

So if anything, I think if you like her you should just date her, to be honest. You've already pretty much lost your friend in the long run.

 

ya true, well thanks for helping guys other then the asshole number 4 guy ha

 

Okay. As everyone said, you made a mistake. But the best thing now to do is be straight up with your friend. Tell him what happened, and see how he reacts. If he takes it well, tell him what you want to do. If he takes it poorly, wait a little while longer and talk to him about it again

 

People keep talking about you making a mistake though?
I dont see the harm in dating her, unless he hasnt moved on from her it shouldn't be an issue.

I did the same thing with my best mate but I was sort of dating her while they were dating... so that turned out pretty bad when they broke up and we came foward..
but if its been a while since the broke up and hes had that time to move on from her, should be fine.
The kid though would have a major inpact to how he takes it though.

 

The first time anything sexual happened you should of stopped...

You're fucked, either tell him straight up what happened or keep on going behind his back and lose the friendship but keep the girl.

 

i think im just goin to tell him and hopefully he will understand

 

Hmmm, your 15. You seem a bit to young for all of this drama.

 

I don't see how having sex someone who he loves is being a "complete ass hole with no morals". Granted, you probably should have asked him first, but they've broken up and if the love is mutual, why not? Don't be too hard on yourself man, although I do agree you should probably tell your best friend about your feelings towards her. He'll probably find out sooner or later anyhow.