My mom won't let me do anything!

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Try to reassure your mom about the things you do. She may be worried that you would be hurt or taken.

 

From personal experience - just stop fighting. Let them win for awhile. You'll notice an intense release on protectiveness.

 

Just become a bad boy, and do what you choose. Lmao.

 

I'm already bad, no point in your conclusion.

 

May I ask what happened to your father?

 

Divorced. I don't live with him, he has another family.

 

Same scenario with my friend. His mum didn't let him out and he was 16. He just didn't listen to her and completely ignored what she said and eventually she just stopped worrying. Im not saying its going to work for you, but its worth a try. Anyway when your 18 you can do whatever you want in some countries.

 

Don't join the army "just to get away from your mother." It has to be something you personally want to do or you will really regret it.

You are almost an adult.. can't you just wait it out another year? You would be able to move out and start your own life. Your mom is just trying to be protective because you care about her, but still tell her how you feel.

 

I was thinking of getting a therapist for this shit, I can't go through this anymore.

 

You don't understand? From what i read your mom has a HUGE problem of letting go of her kids and needs serious help if she has people pick up her children and lives next door to the school. Have a 1 on 1 talk with your mom and tell her you're getting older and she needs to know that, Pretty soon you will be an adult who has to provide for himself and she ain't helping by sheltering you so much. If the talk doesn't work just stop listening to her. If she doesn't want you to ride a bike, ride a bike. If she doesn't want you to go to the movies, go to the movies. It's your life and you only live once and it is stupid how she is pretty much stealing your childhood from you, i mean i heard of over protective parents but this is a serious problem your mom has.

 

Perhaps the best advice.

Remember that the reason she does all this is because she loves and cares about you, but some parents take this too far as they think that if they don't provide protection, they will lose their children and face extreme grief. Responsibility is something that should be given to every child so that they can experience the hardship of life. Try to see that from her perspective too. If nothing works, you can just wait until you can move out and live by yourself, no matter how hard it may be to bear.

 

Just tell your mom, how would you feel in my situation, say;
I love you care about me so much, i really appreciate it, but sometimes its better to get to the background, you know what i mean?
I eventually will grow up, get my own kids, and i cant expect of them either to do everything i say.


You also said you'r living with your mum, and 3 kids, i wont ask you where your father is, cause thats personal stuff, but maybe your mom needs something to take care of, or she just needs company.
Also, maybe you could mention yourself in her situation, maybe you understand better then how she feels, and also ask how she feels.
Just tell 1 to 1 both your stories, when you guys know the others feeling better, your probably going to have a solution faster, which is for both of you good.

Hope this helped

 

She's just too afraid to lose you guys... Since your dad and her broke up, she's probably now wants you guys to be safe and wants to do whatever she can to keep and protect you and your siblings

It's very hard for her to give you guys freedom, as she is afraid you guys will get hurt.

Maybe try telling her that caring for a child is something like flying a kite? Pull the string too tightly, it'll snap, let it go too freely it will go astray. Try to talk her out of her 'protective shell' ideology.

It will be really difficult for your mother to change since for the past 17 years, things has been like that. Sigh, there's nothing much you can actually do now... :/

You really need someone who can talk to her, connect with her, make her THINK hard, make her realise her parenting ways although good in intentions, are actually doing you guys more harm.

Tell her we all will fall in life, be it while riding a bicycle, or losing a job, suffering from a break up... Tell her that she can't be protecting you guys 24/7 and sooner or later, when you guys experience the fall, it will be much harsher, since you guys never experienced falling alone.

Also, tell her that you love her ( if you do ) , and tell her you know she does care and love you a lot. But try to list down the things that you've missed out because of her parenting ways.

I'm asian too. And our mommies all think alike don't they? Haha screw it!

 

after few years you will go to uni and you will be free

trust me you will miss having ur mother "family" around you you will miss her taking care of you...

 

Honestly it's out of love. She wants the best for you, she doesn't want anything to go wrong with her kids. Just try talking to her, tell her that everyone, sooner or later, must face the world and cannot be trapped in the life you're living now.

 

ehh , my friends mom used ta be exactly like that . he just said fuck it one day and started getting in trouble with his mom and he would get grounded and stuff but shit after about a month or so he could do whatever he wants now , he made his mom back the fuck down ha

 

Start working and go live alone in a small apartment. Your realtionship with your mom will get better, you have to giver her a wake up call to let her know you aren't as vulnerable as he says

 

Light a joint in front of her and see what she says.

 

lol just wait till your 18 and do what you want.

but seriously, you should be grateful for what you have. Its better than having a dysfunctional family and i bet you have a lot of study time which is affecting your grades for the best.