There's this girl...and she's breaking my heart. What can I do?

So...I just recently met this girl, introduced by a friend of mine. She's funny (witty, rude, laugh-out-loud), smart (she helped me solve a maths equation easily, is very on-the-ball), DROP DEAD GORGEOUS (could easily be a model), and great to talk to.

Even after a week of talking to her, I can see she is the perfect girl for me. I would marry her in a heartbeat if she asked me.

But there's a problem. She has a boyfriend...and she's so perfect that she wouldn't cheat on him, and she loves him a lot (just hit 6 months in their relationship).

I haven't hung out with her yet (hopefully soon), but when we don't talk or text for a day, I get really, really lonely, like she's slipping out of my reach..

It breaks my heart that she could possibly never break up with her boyfriend (bad thought, I know), and any advances I make to her are stopped short, and she pleads with me not to go further.

What do I do, Sythe? It's breaking my heart, and deep down inside, I can feel that she is honestly the perfect girl for me, hands down.

I need advice..

 

Well,shit happens man,that happened to me once.
My advice is,don't focus 100% on her(but i see you already did)if your not 100%right u know ull be with her

 

Let's assume this issue is ongoing, and you want to rectify it.

There are only 2 ways you can go about it.

1: Try and win/steal her from her boyfriend; entice her into thinking you are a much better choice for her.

2: Have her reject you, or forget her completely.


Clearly #2 is not the way to go about it, as it doesn't bring about your desired outcome, and forgetting someone virtually impossible unless you cease contact and replace her with something/one else.

Therefore that leaves #1.

Hanging out with her, being friends being a portion, especially pivotal part of her life will eventually lead her to evaluate you sooner rather than later; it is also contributory to #1.

This would be my advice, unless of course you want to roll over in submission, which encompasses #2.



Just try and be friends with her, and be an intricate part of her life.

 

I had a similar situation, i would say just give her time, just keep chatting too her, just chill with her and be good friends for a while. That way if she does leave her boyfriend you have already started making an impression on her, just help her get through the 2 of them breaking up and you will be as close as ever. It might seem like there relationship is going strong at the moment but its not set in stone, it only takes one mistake from him and she will walk..Just hang in there man

 

How old are you?

If you're younger than 24, I'm sure her and her boyfriend will break up

 

Thanks for the replies guys. It means so much to me that you guys took the time to write this out.

Right now, I just feeling like crawling into a corner and crying my eyes out.

I'll stick at it, I guess. Keep my head high. I just feel as though she's out of my league (she totally is), but I want to be with her so bad. :|

 

Dude, honestly, the truth is if you like her this much she'll be worth waiting for. Wait it out, and if another girl comes along don't be in the mind set of "Oh I'm waiting for the one" because that girl who comes along might be the one who got away. There's actually mental methods to get over a girl.. Well like their appearance not their personality but it worked for me so drop me a PM if you want