I hate girls.

Heres the story, it may be lengthy...

I fell in love with a girl in fifth grade, we started off being best friends because I was unatractive, that never did for me and I would be soo desperate to have her. I finnaly took a tip from a friend and got popular and became "attractive" she then started to notice me, I obviously had a love for her that was greater than anything, I found this love to be lasting so in around seventh grade we decided we should date it lasted a year and a half and then she cheated on me and we broke up. I cried, i never cry but I cried. We are still best friends and I still love her the same. We went through a period shortly ago that she was feeling suicidal I helped her for weeks, phone conversations for hours talks for hours hugs for hours. This all brang her back to her normal self after that I was still crazy in love with her and she loved me as a best friend. she started dating some kid and has been for two years. I am still in love with her and she tells me every day she is in love with me but cannot break up with her boyfriend. Over the past years I have ddated many girls and hurt many people for her I have extreme commitment issues and just as I think i finnaly found one I suddenly almost impulsivley break up with them like my recent girlfriend who was amazingly pretty and after two months i just randomly broke up with her. So that was that and now I go to school with the girl I was talking about earlier I see her every day and she flirts with me all the time I still love her the same way I always have. She still loves me (so she says) and I cannot stand the hurt of being away from her. This was so hard and then it happened, I was in our chappel (we go to a private school) getting ready for a test on the things at mass we were paired with the second religion class. I was paired with her. it was one of the best times i have had we laughed and she told me everything about her love for me. Now she stall has the boyfriend of two years and wont break up with him she loves me i think and she also loveeesss him. It hurts so bad I cant talk to a girl seriously all i can do is hook up with them
My past relation ships have gone accordingly
See on Facebook/ in person/ get number
think i can never date the person because they are too good for me
end up dating them for a week
dump them because I finnaly feel accomplished dating them and I cant commit to them :/


So what I need from you all is a way to a. get her or b. get over her and commit to another girl. There is a girl who I think may be able to do that we met while dating eachothers best friends and I love her and helped her through suicide and such her boyfriend dumped her almost the same day i dumped mine. We haven't been able to talk for over three weeks as she is grounded I want to be able to commit to her if she likes me I think she might we talked 24 hours in the first two days we met. Now I need desperate help on how to commit to her or my best friend?A?FS?DF?ASD BLAHHHHHHHHHHHH

 

If I were you, I'd commit to the second girl, because in my opinion, if you wait too long for the first girl, she might never break up with her boyfriend and at the same time you might lose the 2nd girl. So basically what I'm suggesting is give the 2nd on a try if you really feel that close to her and the 1st one isn't showing any sign of wanting to dump her boyfriend.

 

That's a good idea but other hand, I feel like I would hurt her so bad if I left her for girl #1

 

That seriously sucks for you to be in that kind of situation, but does dating all these other girls and dumping them later make you feel better about yourself? Try to think about the certain impression it gives to your friend after you constantly fall in and out of relationships. I suggest that you seriously have a talk with your friend that you love and tell them exactly how you feel like what you told us here.

If she really can't let go then you should try to move on as hard as it sounds. I hope you manage to figure things out! PM me if you want to talk privately.

 

She cheated on you before, who's to say she wouldn't do it again if you two were a couple again?
I say go with another girl, I don't know how you still want her even though she cheated on you.

 

B. Get another girl, get over her. Shell cheat on you again, if shes allready done it once...Ive been in the same kind of situation.

 

Ohh, that's right, forgot you said she cheated on you... In that case, if it were me, I'd definitely go with Girl #2

 

But It's so hard to just give up her. I've tried before and it doesn't work.

 

You've got to remember she cheated on you, just think of that to help you try and get over her.

 

Ok this is probably going to be hard for you to hear but, in my opinion I think she is using you.
She has cheated on you, which is a no no, I would recommend not seeing because of this, but some people (like you) just dismiss the fact that she has betrayed you. But now that she is with her boyfriend but she is still flirting with you and telling you she loves you, I think she is just using you. Keeping you there ready for when she breaks up with the guy she is with now. She will go to you, but I'm guessing that she'll just find another boyfriend after being with you and most likely cheat on you again.

Just tell her straight, if she loves you so much she would dump her boyfriend and get with you, tell her to dump him and if she doesn't then I'd say move on and get away from her.
It's happened to me before and I get frustrated just typing this because I know what girls like her are like. (I am judging her on what you have said and I do not like her)

 

You have waited far too long for that girl. You need to make her want you if there will ever be anything between you. Try to date some other girls, and don't let your confidence undermine you. When you are with the right girl, things will work naturally.