Girl help?

Ok, so I started dating this girl 3 months ago. I could tell from the very start that she was pretty shy, but it wasn't a problem. We eventually started dating and stuff. She never really texts me/calls me, and I asked why. Her answer was, " I don't like to text," so I was just like oh okay. Well about a week or two into the relationship we never really seen each other, and I ask why. Her response is, there is nothing to do. But yet she can hang out with her girl-friends? She later says that she is not fully comfortable around me, which is fine. Well eventually about a week later I dump her because I was tired of this barely texting, seeing her for 30 minutes once a week stuff. She begs for me back, and says she will see me more. Another week passes, she rides over for about 20 minutes and we just sit in my front yard and talk about dumb shit. I ask her if she wants to go out to eat, and she says, "I'm not comfortable enough to eat around you yet," so I am like, wow. She never seems to wanna do anything, but yet she hangs out with her friends ALL weekend long. I always call her, yet she never answers, and I text her and ask why, and she will give me some BS excuse, so then I ask, why can't you call back now? Then she will say something like, 'ughhhhh.' This is pretty annoying, and was wondering your thoughts about it. What would you do in this situation?

 

It sounds to me like she is using you for attention. It's obvious that this girl is too immature to handle a real relationship anyways if she is unwilling to compromise to meet your needs as well. A relationship is a two way street that requires reciprocation of fulfilling the needs of the other partner. While you have seemingly done your part and given her space, she has not done her part, in being more social with you.

It is clear to me that you are already having issues and you haven't even had a serious relationship with this person, so perhaps it is best to leave this potential relationship alone until both sides are mature enough to handle this (I'm not trying to say you're immature, just to clarify).

My advice: let her go, because its causing you unneeded drama and perhaps she isn't ready for a relationship, despite her claims to want you back.

 

she sounds immature, i had a girl like this she wouldnt do anything she was all ways mardy so in the end told her to fuck of.... plenty more fish in the sea mate just gotta cast your road far enuf, and watch out for the sharkes lol

 

I'd just drop her. She's not ready for you. I agree with 'R33l' she seems like she is dating you for attention from her other friends. Her friends are probably in a relationship and she just doesn't feel like being left out. I'm sure you can do better.

 

Just leave her mate, couples aren't "ready" or "comfortable" to do things like kissing or having sex, which is fine. But, no couple should feel uncomfortable in hanging out with each other or going to eat.

 

I sense a kind of personality clash because of the lack of communication and shyness your ex had. Do you think that, if you take her back, things will be different? Or the same? If the partner isn't willing to make an effort to go outside of her comfort zone for her boyfriend than I don't think that is that kind of girl you would want to be dating. 3 months is a very long time and if nothing has really happened then, I would move on. I hope you figure things out :s

 

Explain to her exactly how you feel, and if she can't help to make it work for the both of you, it may be time to move on mate.

 

She is treating you like a pair of shoes, tell her to either act like a girlfriend or push off.

 

Is she fat? Is that why she isn't comfortable eating a bucket of chicken in front of you? I suggest you find yourself a new lady friend, this one is a joke. Or at least wait until you can get more mature women on your plate.