Premature Ejaculation and Gay thoughts

Hey everyone

For some reason which i am trying to find out i have been ejaculating really quickly which i find confusing. A little background i am 18 i have had sex quite a few times and only recently with a new girl i met i find myself coming up short with the length. I don't take any anti depressants at the moment, but i have been known to be depressed but just not right now or when i was having sex before, i am quite fit and go to the gym two days a week. I have recently swapped to naked condoms by four seasons so maybe that is the cause because i used to use regular so maybe that is the issue? i also now do pills which i didnt do back then

Next questions was regarding my thoughts of being gay. I'm pretty certain that im not but recently i have been really defending the rights of gays to my father and wearing some pretty metro sexual kind of clothes which im sure doesn't mean much i guess, i have been looking at guys differently i guess thinking "he's hot" or "he has a nice body" this has only started since i have started body building has begun for me so maybe that is normal to check other guys physiques out. I dont see anything sexual about it and would never do anything like that. I just wanted to ask if its normal to think that as a straight guy

 

If your coming up short distract yourself?
I sometimes read labels or think of something else.

Ive also noticed that the harder I concentrate on not ejaculating I actually do. But when I want to hurey it up it rakes forever?

As for the gay thing when a guy sees an attractive guy they know his attractive
Just like how you know some dudes are ugly.

You admitting a guy is attractive dosnt mean that you also want rto gargle his marbles

 

nah i doubt your gay
if you couldnt tell if another guy was good looking then you wouldnt be a human being its perfectly normal man its all just in your head most guys i know are pretty much the same and believe me theyre far from gay

 

I think It's just human nature to think someone is attractive regardless of their sex.

And about the premature ejaculation do you masturbate a lot because that really affects your timing...

 

nah i really don't, i work quite a bit and dont really have the time. maybe a few times a week. I'm thinking it is the condoms i am using its never used to happen to me

 

You have said some of the things that could be causing your premature ejaculation so why not just go back to the old way and see if stops happening.

As the for gay thing, there really isn't nothing wrong, your just comfortable with your sexuality.

 

For premature ejaculation, In your case, It's the condoms. I had the same problem when I switched to thinner condoms, I ejaculated faster than those "SAFE" thick condoms but I didn't wanna take the risk so I chose the "safe condoms".

For the gay thoughts, If you're bodybuilding, Please don't do that.
Most bodybuilders hate people like that because it's annoying and it shows how insecure you are about your own size if you feel intimidated to look at their physics.

Especially when I was talking to this one guy and he kept looking at my chest and arms instead of my face and that fucking pissed me off. You should stop it now before it becomes a habit and you can't control it anymore. That guy started off like this too and soon it became a habit for him. 2-3 years of working out and he's still a tiny twat, staring at other fit / muscular boys all day long.

 

From what I know, this is what a premature ejaculation is:
Hump 1, hump 2, hump 3, squirt
or just
Hump 1, squirt.

As for the gay thoughts, I would just say that you're "curious" at the moment.
You're not gay just "yet," it'll slowly come to you if that's what you really want.

 

Whenever we look at someone, male or female, we judge them mentally right away.

 

Firstly, I doubt your gay. Metrosexual dressing?
Metrosexual, a portmanteau of metropolitan and sexual, is a neologism of the 2000s that refers to a man that has a strong concern for his appearance or a lifestyle that displays attributes stereotypically associated with homosexuals.
Please don't fall for the sterotypes. Secondly, judging is a instinctive behaviour. Animals judges animals, we as humans judge others. Nothing wrong with it.

 

Even if you are dressing metrosexual, there's nothing wrong with that. Most metrosexual men are much more clean looking than other men and girls tend to like that more. Now regarding your thoughts, it's nothing to worry about. I've talked to two of my close friend girls and they've both said that they think the same way with girls. I sometimes see a guy and think the same way as you have described, it's nothing to worry about.

 

^ This. We say, "Don't judge a book by its cover" but we all do. It's human nature to judge no matter how hard we try not to.

I wouldn't say you're gay. Quite a few people have said this and I agree will all of them. Nothing wrong with comparing/contrasting yourself with others. Hell, fighters do it all the time, right?

 

I wouldn't know about guys, but as a girl, we always critique each other so I don't see why that would be different for a guy. The only thing keeping a guy from saying anything about his thoughts like that is that he doesn't want to risk sounding feminine or gay or whatever.

On the clothes thing, I personally like the way most gay guys dress more than straight guys xD

 

i have the same thing when im watchin porn i check the guys cock out and there allways bigger then mine and i get jelouse.. but blive me its nomal

 

probly because you like a guy in black suspenders lol

 

that isnt gay its called looking up to them like your jealous of their looks physique etc and its most likely the pills or lack of sleep brother.

 

Yeah that's what I was thinking to, ur maybe a bisexual?
And maybe go to a doctor to talk about ur ejaculation? There are some tricks that I had readed, but I think I can sent this better in a pm. So if u want this.
Just pm me

 

My two cents :

Gay thoughts don't make you gay. And even if you want to act on those thoughts, if you're attracted to women, you're bisexual. It's not wrong to be bisexual or homosexual, and it's nothing you can "fix" or change. You are who you are, be proud of that, and anyone who tries to tell you differently is just ignorant.

Premature ejaculation is just a hard one to conquer. Does she really get you aroused? Try explaining to her just how hot she is (or use it as an excuse if you need to). Also, try "pregaming" your sex life by rubbing the easy one out 30 minutes earlier. That'll give you much more stamina. (That one is from experience. In the porn industry they rub out the easy one so that porn stars last for 30 or so minutes longer). You can also try more foreplay with her to draw out the sex longer if that doesn't help. If you can make her satisfied with your hands/mouth, she won't care what your dick can or can't do (as long as it is doing something).

 

I can't offer advice about the premature ejaculation since I've had no experience with that, but with the gay thoughts thing, dude it's completely normal once you start benching / weights to think damn, that guy looks fucking ripped. I'm completely straight and often think about how ripped some guys are at the gym but I always think about how fucking sexy I'll look when I'm that ripped.