Really scared..

Hello, I'm really scared right now.. When i was younger (Around 6-7) My mom and dad split up, this was because my mom cheated on my dad.. (Please don't come on here calling my mom names, i know she was in the wrong and i've told her that face to face) My dad never forgave her.. After awhile it started to die down, however we started to have to live at other family's house's..

As we had no where to live, Firstly we went to live with my Nan, about a month after that i got woke up at around 4AM, my Dad was at my Nan's house trying to hit my mom, i was in tears.. I was so young, i didn't know what to do, he got arrested.. Then we went to live with my auntie, this is where it got MUCH worse.

After my dad got released he came straight back, this time with a knife.. he slashed my Stepdad's car wheels, he was shouting, he broke into the house, I was in tears once again, begging him to stop.. Luckily my mom was locked in a room and the police came again.. After everything died down i wanted to see my dad again, so i went to his house and had a few hours with him, he seemed a changed man, he was so happy.. Wanted to spend time with me, i was over the moon at this, but night came, he was walking me back to my aunties, i thought everything will be fine! until i seen he had a knife in his pocket again, he promised me he wasnt going to do anything, he was standing on the path, i was right beside him on the floor crying my eyes out (at this point i was around 9-10 i can't remember) *THIS IS ALL I CAN REMEMBER AT THIS POINT*

Okay, so now i'm coming 15, everything is/was okay my dad and mom are okay with each other, i see my dad and stuff.. around two hours ago he came to the house AGAIN! :'( since we last saw him like this we've had a new house, new car everything, life was becoming great, i always had a smile on my face.. He wanted more revenge, he didn't have a knife but he wanted dean (My stepdad), Dean went outside, they started fighting, i think he had enough of it, however my mom got scared started crying and as usual called the police, in the past i was so confused i put a knife to my chest.. Dont flame me for this i didn't have a clue what was going on at the time, I dont want this to happen again.. It ruined my life, i've only just gotten okay, i've got a girlfriend who i love and is always there for me, if it wasn't for her i think i'd have no one.. can someone help me please?

Word of notice: Please do not say anything bad about my dad, i understand he is a total fucking prick for this, but i still love him he's always been there for me. I just want support, or how things could get better..

 

Im sorry to say this, no offence to you, neither to your parnets but both your parents need some counseling/psychiatrists, and they need to split up(Divorce). They are not compatible with eachother. Im sorry dude, its the only thing that is to be done. If the are fighting that much, then divorce is evident. Hope this advice helps. Hopefully if they do divorce things will be better and you can see both of them without confrontation( parents share time of kid).

Hope this helps.

Thanks

 

It's divorces.
It's what happens.
when my parents got theirs, I failed all my Highschool classes.
They fought everyday.
My dad moved out.
They fought some more.
And still.. do this day (6 years later) they are still fighting.

EDIT: I'm 21, and I live with my fiancee. About 4 years ago I moved out of my mom's house, as I could not stand it.

 

I Know your only 15 but i think you should step up and tell them both straight and say its hurting you badly and tell them your feelings. tell them how its tearing you apart just as much it is them.

My Family is the same except it happened when i was 1 or 2 so i dont remember much but my dad used to beat on me and my mum and damage our property.
I will get him one day ( Never seen him my whole life in person ) i know what he looks like and what car he drive's..

beating on me is one thing but my mum is another, shes my only parent and im a single child So he's fucked

Good luck with your troubles anyway

 

Thank you all for the fast replies, This may shock you but my mom and dad was together for 10 years, and was never married so i don't see divorce as an option, My mom and stepdad are engaged however and have a baby, who i call my own sister, and have another one on the way. I don't feel my mom needs this at all when she's pregnant, It's not healthy for her or the baby, I feel i shouldn't hate my dad because he's the reason i'm here today, so i will never do that.

 

Wow im sorry to hear this maybe you should go talk to your dad for why he is doing al this shit

 

@Zerker, I know why my dad is doing this, because he hates my mom basically.

 

Just keep your head up get a restraining order on your dad so he cant hurt you or your family.

 

Wow man this is very sad Have you already tried stepping up and telling them you don't like this? If not, then that is a must.

 

Of course i've told them, I've cried infront of my dad begging him to stop as he was doing it, I dont want this to start again, I cant believe he came back after my life went OK..

 

I feel for you. My parents are divorced and it was a nasty one. I wish I knew any way to help you besides to tell you that it will all be better soon. I always HATED when people told me that. "It will all be over soon just don't worry" especially at church and stuff... But to be honest, it will... And after a while... IDK, you just block it out. Your mind doesn't remember things it doesn't want to.

 

its really hard to read, break it down?

 

His parents got divorced, and his dad kept wanting to hurt his mom, basically.

All I can say is, don't worry buddy. It must have hurt when you were a child, and I know how it feels. You are much more emotional when you are young, and it's sad that most of the activity happened then. Your father should not be fighting with your step dad, unless he said or did some things, that got under your dad's skin. But what it looks like to me is that your dad still has feelings for your mother. I feel you should call your dad or next time you see him, sit down with him for lunch or a nice secluded place, and truly ask him how he feels and how he's been. It could drastically change him, and it would only make you feel better.

Also, as you get older it tends not to effect you much, but if he has a knife and is acting physical against your mother, I can see how it could. It will get better, and you can take my words or leave them, but I promise you this, He'll get over it and become a better man.

 

Your dad probably loved your mom alot before this, that's why he is so bent on revenge. He is unable to let go of your mom and accept the fact that your mom has fallen for another man.

Given he has already attempted assault time and time again, it's evident he will not change his mindset unless he gets some help from a professional.

Like you said, you have already pleaded him to let go of it and stop already but he won't, his too fixated on revenge and thinks that your mom has ruined his life.

Sadly, you can't do much to help solve this issue. What you can do is to try to prevent it from affecting you too much and getting help for your Dad.

Stay strong!

 

if you get a restraining order your problems will be over your dad will realize you are not afraid and he will back away..

 

Thanks for all the support, much appriciated. Hoping nothing happens tonight.

 

What a bad story, but a story where I can find myself in.
A friend of mine had almost the same story then this one.
He had a contact person to talk with. Do you have talked
about this with a contact person or someone else?
U need to clean ur mind.

 

I truly feel bad for you, but you do seem very strong.
You've been dealing with your parents for this long, you can keep dealing with them, although it might be VERY hard. I'm just worried, if you and your gf break up, what might happen. :/ Don't do anything dumb, there's more to life then that bro.

 

I don't mean to scare you but your mom needs to carry a weapon.

Concealed carry

Maybe take a class and learn the basics of operating a pistol