A Girl

So I recently (couple of months ago) met this girl. She's so amazing, and I really like her. Another one of my female friends (friends with the girl I'm having trouble with) told me to tell her that I liked her. After a while, I was convinced that I may as well tell her. I said that I liked her but completely understand where we're at as friends and that she isn't in to me. Of course she already knew I liked her, so she didn't take it bad at all. She said something along the lines of "It's not that I'm not interested in you," so I asked her what it was, and she said "I have a boyfriend."

I wasn't upset because she had a boyfriend. We were practically best friends, and I didn't mind that for the time being. What bothered me was that I had known her for months and she knew I liked her, yet she never mentioned having a boyfriend. At the same time, her friend who told me to tell her also knew she had a boyfriend. I can't be mad at her, because she's the only person that will talk to me. So now the one that I like won't say a word to me. How do you fix a relationship when there's no way for you to communicate with a person?

 

Im sorry but if after school special was what you were aiming for It wont work. I know what we imagine before we go to sleep seems amazing but chances are they will never happen. What you did here seemed like a good idea, seemed that it would be nice for her but honestly there is NEVER a time to tell a girl you like her before she admits to having feelings for you. All this does is add complications and basically pushes you off a cliff into nothing but heart ache and despair. Her knowing you like her and you telling her you like are are two completely different things.

There is nothing you can do to salvage your relationship.

 

There are 3 things you can do:
1. Go find another girlfriend.
2. Feel EMO about this all.
3. Simply don't care about this and act as if nothing happened.

Though, I think she lied to you about having a boyfriend, because she didn't want to reject you, so the easiest choice here was to make something that you can't really blame her for. Therefore I'd suggest you just being good friend and maybe one day she'll start liking you more than a friend. Relationships are hard to understand as they always have lots of emotions in them which I'm not very good at explaining, but just be a nice guy and that'll probably come in handy one day.

 

Are you positive she has a boyfriend? From your story, it seems a little unbelievable that she just all of a sudden had a boyfriend. The fact that her friend told you to tell her you like her says that she either doesn't have a one and lied about it, or her friend was just trying to screw you over. I would definitely find out for sure before you make an attempt at anything else.

If everything she said was true, then just tell her that you don't want anything to change between you two and you're okay with being just friends. She didn't say she wasn't interested, so it's not like you won't eventually have another chance. Use this time to strengthen your relationship with her so when she's single, you'll be there for her.

 

Girls hide things from guys all the time.
Guys hide things from girls all the time.

This is natural, don't lose sleep over it.


The problem that happens with most people when they're confronted with a situation like this, is that they act completely different. Don't. Just act as if nothing happened. It's not like she rejected you directly.

My advice would simply be to act as if nothing happened.

 

I'm positive she has a boyfriend. 100% positive. He didn't pop up out of nowhere. She said she doesn't tell people unless they ask because then they don't act straight up with her. I'm just gonna go with what seems to be the general opinion and act like nothing ever happened. Thanks guys

 

Sounds like she doesn't want to get in trouble with current boyfriend, AND it got awkward since now you know that she has a boyfriend. I would say let this one go. Like much of these posts it's called a "crush". Relationships like these are a dime a dozen. Like you said yourself it was only a couple of months old (the relationship). There are so many more out there. It hurts me to hear when people dwell on these situations for so long. You beat yourself up about it and it's sad