Girl Help Please.

Alright, as of right now I feel like this girl maybe toying with my heart. I really don't know I can't seem to figure it out, anyways here it goes, warning, this is kind of a long story, you have been warned.

So I've known this girl since I was very little, her mom use to be my aunts best friend up until a few years ago. I've always kind of liked her, and I use to have this sense that she liked me.

Well we would only really hang out a few times a year when we were younger, maybe 2 or 3 times a year, we use to always kind of get along, and she was always very pretty.

Anyways I hadn't seen or talked to her in about 2 years before last year, I added her on Facebook, and asked her how are things going, stuff like that. Soon after she asked me for my A.I.M screen name, I gave it to her, we talked on there, started texting and talking on the Phone, and stuff. Than one day she came over, and she asked me if I could help her with her Ipod, I said I'd try and I did, we talked listened to music while we did it, she asked me for money for something to eat I gave her $20, and she left afterwords.

I'll be honest I felt kind of used, I mean once I was done putting music on her Ipod she wanted to leave, and asked me for money, and so I did. After talking to her for a while, another couple of months, she would always ask me to help her with her ipod, I kept saying no I had felt used (didn't tell her that..) but she was okay with that. I still liked her however, I don't know it's like a spell she casted over me lmao.

I than made a really stupid move, I was talking, and I was just like "Fuck other dudes, (not literally lmao) you should be my girl, and she was like aww and started asking me questions, I answered, them and she was like, I think your awesome and stuff, I just don't like you like that right now.. I said okay that's fine, and forgot about it.

A few weeks later on AIM I remember she asked me, why hadn't I asked her out yet? I was really confused, and I said, it's not like you would of said yes anyways right? She goes yea true. So I was like, and see that is why I didn't ask you out, why waste my time. So once again I kept talking to her, and she wanted to come over again, and she cracked a joke that maybe she'll help me with my "virgin problem " (Yes she knew I was a virgin she asked I said yea, I didn't really care neither did she.)

So I said fine, you can come over and a few days later I texted her asking if shes still coming over for me to put songs on her ipod, she said why what else did I think she was coming over for, I joked and said Bunz, (Sex) she said hell no your like a cousin to me, I said aww come on, and so on and so forth.

I didn't text her for a while and a few days later she asked is it okay if she still comes over? I said naw, I made up some excuse, and she FLIPPED OUT she wanted to come over extremely badly, I mean really badly, seemed kind of odd to me, I still said no, and she said fine don't talk to me, and I said fine, deleted her number, and blocked her facebook.

A little more than a year later, I re-added her on facebook, said what's up, she said nothing, and to her give her my number. We did and I've been talking to her often again, for a while. She asked if she can come hang over again, I said I don't know how to put songs on ipods anymore, she said that's fine. So today she said her Birthdays coming up soon, what am I going to get her, I said I guess I'll get you something nice, any dude can just give you money right? She was in aww over this and said so true.

I said to her, what if when the weathers nice, and I get my license I take you out to eat and do whatever you want? She got extremely excited over this, and said aww, and asked if I was BSing her or will I really do it, I said I would, she didn't respond, so after 30 minutes I asked if she was having second thoughts, she said no, I said good, are you excited ? She said yesss and she sent me a text of the kiss sign, and has been texting me a lot ever since slightly more than normal. She told me her life has changed in the last year, and she wants it to change for the better.

This girls playing with my emotions, do you think she said okay to the birthday idea just as a Friend thing? Or do you think she may like me, and might consider this a date? My emotions are very confused.

 

Girls are very emotional, at least all the ones I've dated and talked to. I think she may be trying to use you however, I may be wrong. What doesn't make sense to me is she keep asking to come over to put songs on her iPod. It seems like every time she is over with you, you are fixing her iPod. If I were you, I'd take her out for lunch and let this be the deciding factor. If she is still superficial like she used to be, then you don't need her. However, try to talk about how she changed over the past year and get to know her better than you already know her. If all you do is keep repairing her iPod, I know for a fact that you won't go far with her. Hope this helped and good luck.

P.S: I wouldn't try anything like kissing right away with her. You haven't seen her in 1 year. If she leans in and wants it then by all means go for it. But sometimes its strange to see someone again for the first time in months/years.

 

If I was you, I would get back with her because it looks like you got used by her before. The story you gave me looks like shes changing for the better. I say go for it.

 

To be completely honest, you kinda missed your chance with that one. Sounded like a normal awkward teenage romance, and then you did this. I know you didn't want to seem like a sucker/being used whatever, but man cmon.

She does seem pretty emotionally confused, and it seems like you're just going to get hurt. In my personal opinion, OP, I think you should steer clear of her.

 

Bumps, thanks for the advice so far guys. Keep it coming please?

 

She's definitely using you. She seriously straight out asks you for food money, and to get you something for her birthday when your not even dating her?.. Bring her back to reality; she's not that special.

 

I think you should walk away and forget her .

 

dont suck up to girls, be a dick, they love it.. coming from personal experience

 

i hate to say it, but its true. i just cant get myself to be a dick lol. I try to be nice to girls and usually get pushed to friend zone. ontopic- so just try seeing her and if you like her, tell her dont really wait

 

Just be yourself man, if she changed she changed, if she didn't well theres more fish in the ocean

 

You have what so many other guys have.... Oneitis. You focus solely on one girl and forget that there are so many others just like her, or even better. Don't just date one girl, take out a few and see which one you feel most comfortable with, and then move on to a monogamous relationship. Think about it, would a girl want someone she KNOWS she can get, or the guy with options that is a challenge. Be that challenge!