I think I was born backwards-Some rants inside my head

Some few things I'd like to get off my head

A bunch of disorganized thoughts that probably link to the same problem, but what is the problem

Feel free to comment
Just don't troll
Doesn't phase me
And is quite boring

Will start here


Every relationship I have ever been in I get bored easily

I feel like after I have sex with a girl all the feelings for her are gone but then later on that day they come back, and if we have sex again they are gone

I have a current girlfriend of over 1 year

But I often think about what it would be like with another girl


Although I can't think of a particular girl I'd like to be with

I don't find any girl I meet interesting

I can't keep a conversation going with my girlfriend

Better yet with any girl anymore

Sometimes I feel like i'm different and don't belong in the crowd

I have alot of friends and im pretty popular, yet i'm antisocial

I'm really self-conscious lately

Some things I hear in a song or a movie make me really sad and I can't explain why..Not like just sad, but like depressed and distraught. it only lasts for an hour or so

I watched Donny Darko for the first time and the movie had a huge impact on me, but I don't know what about.

I get mad when getting asked questions.

I get irritated and embarrassed when my parents bring up anything about sexuality

I'm not gay though



I think I was born backwards

 

Weird, I feel the same way, but pretty depressed all of the time.

The skins quote really connected with me:
Sometimes I think I was born backwards, you know, come out my mum the wrong way. I hear words come pass me backwards. The people I should love, I hate. And the people I hate...

I think you're just growing up though, man. Everyone goes through something like this, even the people you don't think would. You say the depression only lasts for an hour or so? That's a good thing, for some people it's there forever.

And about the Donnie Darko thing, I totally get what you mean. I had to watch it well over thirty times for some media coursework at school, we looked at it in great detail, yet every time we watched it (and every time I watch it now) I still get that feeling. I think it's what a good film is supposed to do.

If you ever go through one of those depressed periods then shoot me a PM or add my MSN, talking to some people about it has been an awesome help and I hope it can be for you too.

edit: Also I seem to remember you having a bit of a rough patch with your girlfriend? You said it lost the "spark"? Do you think this could be causing it? Maybe you just haven't met the right person yet. My longest relationship is THREE fucking weeks, and I've been with some really nice girls. I think we just haven't met the right person yet.

 

Yea exactly. Like My longest relationship before her was 3 weeks too. But I think I've just been with her this long because I don't want to get used to anything else. There's been those girls that I fel like I was deeply in love with but the relationships never lasted.

You're probably right, maybe i'm just transitioning into adulthood and slowly realizing that all the things I use to know are going to have to change.

 

Being in a relationship when you're not fully committed isn't the best thing, you can easily get irritable with your partner, which you'll probably be bottling up and trying to ignore. You may not even realise you're doing it, but it can cause you to feel pretty low on yourself.

Is there anything else that you can think of that could cause you to feel depressed? It seems to me from your posts that your relationship is on your mind a lot, that must be pretty tiring.

I'm not trying to convince you to end it, I think it's normal to go through a stage like this in any relationship. Give it time, I'm sure the answer will come to you.

 

It is pretty tiring. There is a few things but mostly family related. I can't make strong relationships with any women, I've heard that can be tied to mother abandonment. Which happened when i was younger, along with abuse. I'm sure that could the undelying cause of trust issues I have with women.

 

Sounds to me like you've identified what's troubling you. Honestly, if it's on your mind that much then I'd consider counselling. I know it sounds so cliché, but I've recently started and although it's a very slow process I think it will really help.

Not growing up with a stable mother figure can be pretty traumatic for a child, abuse even more-so. I do think one day though you'll meet someone who you can open up to about these problems, and you'll develop a strong relationship.

Sorry to keep posting, I'll leave room for other peoples opinion.

 

These are kind of similar to the things i have experienced and still experiencing. When i listen to Soul music or anything with deep lyrics for some weird reason my mood changes i dunno if its because im so into the song or what. Or maybe its because i can relate to it in some ways, the emotional feelings im guessing that maybe your situation as well.

Yeah sometimes i get mad, but only at family members? i get annoyed when my mum or my brother asks me a question sometimes.

Also the popular/antisocial thing that was me for a little while, i was to addicted to gaming which is what caused it although i still went out with my friends alot in the summer i did alot of gaming to. i wouldn't know whats causing you to be a bit anti social maybe your just with the wrong group of people?

Anyways hoped i helped a little.

 

How old are you?

 

Lol no i think you read that part wrong, he has feelings for his girlfriend but just after the intimacy its gone for a moment untill next time. =s

 

"I feel like after I have sex with a girl all the feelings for her are gone but then later on that day they come back, and if we have sex again they are gone"

This is extremely normal lol, in college I randomly hook up with girls all the time and then want nothing to do with them. Welcome to manhood.

 

True that but hes does say he is not gay, im certain if you were unsure you would question it.

Oh by the way about you're family problems, there could be some explanation to as why you are so emotional. Im just taking a stab but it could be because you never really had a strong family relationship and never really received the loving care a kid should have such as a hug or the words i love you son which can be a cause of problems .You may not have had anyone to really rely on or look upto, so really you are forced to become more independent at a younger age.

Just guessing but hope that helps you figure some things out in your head.

 

I'm very materialistic, and constantly self conscious about myself. And have a few passions for things most guys don't. But I don't think I am.

18 man

Yea same here. But Is it normal to not even want to be around my gf after we have sex?

You're probably correct to an extent. Thanks for the replies.

 

interesting man

 

The thing about sex is the same with everyone....I can be sitting wishing to do all kinds of things with girls...and when ever I'm "done with my thing" I can sit and think, :" how in the name of god, could I think that...eeeewwwww".

Just human nature...

 

Exactly.

Maybe everyone just feels like there problem only happens to them.

 

you might be experiencing depression or possibly a minor bipolar or mood disorder. maybe see a psychologist or psychiatrist?

 

No matter what problem you have you're almost guaranteed to feel like the only person who has it, especially when it comes to something like depression.

The amount of people who I have found out have depression around me is shocking, but I still feel like I'm the only person.

 

Yeah dude, that's still normal although its a bad relationship I might add.

What works best for me is to hang out with girls that I am truly interested in for about a month WITHOUT SEX, then go for it. So you build a foundation of interest with the person not including the best part of it so you know you'll like this girl.

 

Ditto, except I know I was born backwards xD