Hello, Sythe I have a question

This is a really good read. However i want to make it clear that i dont text her 24/7, and we peak maybe once or twice a week. When we can see each other. Im also a college sophmore, however keeping her off my mind is harder to do than i thought it would be.

Sometimes i would lapse into moments where i'll pretend we have a convo and i would decided what she says to me and vice versa. All in my head.

It hasnt been 2 years yet but barely one, and its really confusing not knowing what to do.

 

I didn't read through the posts, so I don't know if you said anything else about the subject; But I'm essentially in the same position as you, kind of. I'm just trying to forget about it and move on. The best thing you can do is try and find something to distract yourself. I play an instrument and work out, so that seems to get my mind off of reality.

You'll be alright man, believe me... If you ever need someone to talk to about this subject in greater detail, I'd be happy to be there for you, man. Just shoot me up a PM.

 

Try and become friends with all her friends and let them know you kinda like her. then you can find out if she likes you back or whatever you wanna do from there. She'll approve of you easier if her friends approve of you

 

Glad you enjoy reading my reply. I would have to completely agree with you about the having conversions in my head. This saved me a ton of pointless convos with her. I would have to agree it ain't an easy thing to do but very possible. Just hang out with your bros and other girls man don't show dependency even if you love her. She probably already knows you really like her.

 

Reported, post-hunt somewhere else. If you can offer no good advice please stay out. This inst the place to be funny.

And Josh Well, it hurts and im glad alot of us are feeling the same way. Well i gotta let her go and set her free from my mind. But its caging her in . But i'll do my best, im actually hoping she finds a boyfriend. maybe that'll settle my mind that shes gone.

 

Trust me your not alone there, I still think about this damn girl every day of my life. I learned to stop showing it and controlling it as it seem you have as well. As for the boyfriend comment, you think that would be the case but you will most likely find yourself hating her new boyfriend and thinking to yourself that you could be so much better than him. And wondering why the fuck she won't give you a try.

My question is what would change to her if ya'll started dating? I mean i'm pretty sure she knows you have her back in pretty much any situation. So like what would be new in her eyes ya know?

 

Good on ya mate, not many people actually have the guts, including me.
my ex gf was my best friend for over 7 yrs before we hooked up. we stayed together for 5 yrs then split cause of personal reasons, but if i didnt get the courage ( Mr Jack Daniels Helped me with that part) to tell her how i felt, i never would have experienced life with her, i also wouldnt have my current partner and my 18 month old son.


@Hey guys,

mate, the best advice i can give you is, try to speak to her more often and spend more time with her if you get the chance, even if its just as friends, be yourself, try to show her in little ways your interested, eg. take her out to a " Friendly dinner/movie" get to know her, let her get to know you, once you feel comfortable with her, and she seems happy to see you, tell her how you feel. dont just come out and say, i wanna be with you or anything like that. tell her, that you cant stop thinking about her, when she is away from you, that you are constantly wishing to see her again, let her know that you dont expect it to go anyfurther then just friends, you just have no one else to talk to about it, you feel comfortable talking to her, as she is a friend she deserves to know and you needed to get it off your chest because its really bottled up inside.


Hmm, maybe dont take my advice, after all im only 23 lol...
but i am good with the girls, i hope this helps you.

 

Thanks for Posting TheAussie, i've actually read it,but i just havent considered bumping this thread.. Well i've done all i can, and i'll just have to see the results. I also dont want to make it look like im super obsessed with her and scare her off. The little dinner sounds like a good plan tho.

And i think this is all the advice i the world on this thread for me and everyone else in my situation. Thanks guys!.

 

Usually people who are this obssesed about a girl will never get her. Keep talking to her and make your move. If she likes you good if she doesn't get over it. Seriously, get over it she may seem like the only girl but she isn't.