Hello, Sythe I have a question

Boys from Sythe, i really need some feedback. What do you guys do to take your mind off that one almost amazing girl that is perfect to you.
But for some reason the law of the universe declares i can never be with her.

Love isn't finding a perfect person. It's seeing an imperfect person perfectly

Been thinking about her non-stop everyday, i barely see her once or twice a week. We chat once in awhile, and also i think im friend-zoned.

So what now Sythe?

Also anything on the lines of Shes the only one for me, because that way i wont get rejected by other girls will be reported as spam.

 

Talk to her, Tell her this. Maybe she has mutual feelings. Also, do you think its actually love or lust? As many teenagers get confused with this, myself included.


I myself would go play sports, lift or hang out with guy friends.

 

If your in the friend zone your fucked. Do you know if she likes you? Have you tired to ask her out? If she's not into you i'd say forget about her before you get more attached to her. I was in the exact same situation, there was a girl I met, we started talking then ended up texting each other 18 hours a day. Then we because too good of friends and the whole "I can't date you because it would ruin our relationship" deal and then I really just stopped talking to her, I see her every so often and we don't say much to each other.

 

First off, not all the boys on Sythe are into girls
But emotions are pretty much the same when it comes to this...

The best thing you can do is tell her how you feel, forbiden or not.
If she doesn't dig you like you dig her, I suggest finding a hobby or moving on.
When you are young a significant other may seem like the most important thing in the world to you, but as you grow in age you come to realize that out of the billions of people inthe world, there will always be someone out there that can replace your "one and only true love".

 

Well just do something that requires you to focus such as reading or playing games or what ever i dont know what your into but just hobbies i guess.

 

Honestly just ask her out.
A simple hey wana go to the movies together depending on your age isnt a bad place to start if she asks to invite other people then that tells you something.

 

Ask her and if no luck then forget about it. No point thinking and worrying if nothing is going to happen.

 

i know this girl for 5 years after 5 years i had the guts to tell her i like her

she told me i see u only as a friend didn't talk to her for a while now we are back friends still it's not the same


but u know what
i feel fucking proud of myself of what i did it wasn't easy at all and even thought she said no i feel better that i got it out of my chest

so no matter of the results u should do it...

 

I agree with everyone else.
Tell her your true feelings.

And in the future, you might want to ward away from the friend-zone.
If you stay in that friend-zone for too long, she may gain feelings or still view you as a friend.

(Note this is before you hit friend-zone): One thing that works is giving less attention. Basically acting like an asshole, but not too big. Girls tend to love attention and when they don't get it, they will go out of their way to get it.

 

I don't think you should. If you're getting the vibe that she isn't into you, then telling her you like her isn't going to go down too well.

If I were you I'd just move on, man. Trust me, I thought I couldn't move on but I have.

 

An infatuation with a woman(or girl) is hardly love. It's how all relationships start. You're either gonna get shut down and learn that not every girl is meant for you like everyone does when they're teenagers or you are going to find a girlfriend.

What were you actually asking, or were you just writing for the sake of writing?

 

What I usually do is ask her to go out with me.
If the answer is yes, win.
If the answer is no, who cares? The girl was a whore anyways. Move on.

 

Well when me and my ex broke up to be honest the best way I dealt with forgetting about her was a dumb decision. I'd go to the bar, and when I'd be getting a drink somone would be like sup and I'd just say me and my ex broke and this is to her. It was bad and alcohol was not the choice I needed, but then I met another girl and she took my mind off everything.

 

I'm having practically the same problem, I wish I'd know what to do:/

 

just maybe try to start moving out of the friend zone. perhaps invite her to do something with just the 2 of you to set a more intimate atmosphere. good luck m8

 

I was really asking because i honestly am stump'd what to do.

Im okay with not being with her, but i cant keep my mind off her. I would be playing RS, and i'll think of her. I'll hang out with my guy friends, i'll wonder what shes doing. I don't think this is infatuation because i've been infatuated before and i know how that feels.

I could deal with not seeing her often, i could deal with it if she has a boyfriend(currently does not). But she just happens to pop by into my thoughts.

Its easier taking other people's advice than to look into myself and use my own advice. Im currently 19 and i just feel shes currently occupies 50% of my brain.
And thanks guys i've been reading everyone else's advice too, i've tried getting closer but she always happens to brush me off. I feel like im friend-zoned.

 

It's always easier to listen and do something mindless than to think on your own though silly. It's the fact that it won't get you where you want to be is what's going to be your issue in the long-run.

If I tell you what to do, then you will be happy if I were you. That doesn't make any sense, you are not me therefore only I would be happy in that situation and not you.

What I have to tell you to do is do what YOU want to do. If you're 19 and don't understand this you're going to run into some trouble in your life. You can't do what other people want you to do by this age, only what you yourself want you to do when it comes to a relationship such as this.

I can advise you that you do what you want to do. What do you want to do when you're with your guy friends, playing RS, etc? You want to know what she's doing? Find out and it'll lead you somewhere good....

 

I just want to seek what others thoughts will be. I will base my decisions logically off what positive and intuitive advice i can find. I'm here to compile everything, i'm not just asking you guys "what to do" but asking "what you guys are doing" and "what you guys suggest"
I also want to hear what others are doing now after being in a similar decision.
I mean right now all i want to is just keep living my life, but she just keeps appearing in my head, and i'm not sure when it'll stop. It could be days, weeks months i don't know.

Im thinking of her right now. And i dont want to freak her out thinking im obsessed with her. Despite feeling i may be obsessed but i dont know. I have a dependency disorder, maybe that could be a main reason why she keeps flipping in my mind?

 

For psychological advice I'd seek a psychiatrist. I am just a freshman psychology major and not a professional, do not seek psychological advice online period.

If you are thinking about her, talk to her. If you don't she will go away

 

Man you just described my junior and senior year of high school. During that time I liked my best friend like crazy and she knew it. She would tease me and everything however we could never really date. Not sure where you are at in your life but you need to tell her this and then except to give a ton of space after it. The worse thing you can do at this point is be clingly and keep pushing the issue. Tried this first hand and you can't make her date you, no matter how much you explain it would be perfect if she doesnt think so it won't matter.

I know you asked for advice, I did this in highschool and it worked pretty well. Get another female friend you know and explain how you feel about said girl to them, and maybe they will start pretending to date you. Now it might seem mean but you if she likes you as a friend this will bug her that you moved on and she will try and get you to break up.

The most important thing is too do exactly as you were asking and keep your mind off it. Don't text her all the time. If you must vent to us or your friends I'll always listen. However acting on it will never be smart be cool and think about what your going to say for a few days before you say it.

Some great tips for not thinking of her is too play video games, chat with other friends. Have a friends night to movies and stuff and live your life. Trust me girls don't like it when you make it all about them, they like too feel important but not the only thing in your life.

Edit: I'm now a college sophomore, and still have dinner with my best friend/(girl I used to love) even though we both have to drive an hour to see each other. We both really do love each other but sometimes there are different forms of love and lust. Hopefully you can figure out what it is you really have. Maybe I said something helpfull, I'll be checking this thread to see an update from you mate.