Life change..

This is kind of a rant, if your not going to give advice, i kindly ask you to fuck off.


My grandparents live someone far away from us ( 18 hours by plane )
My grandad has a back problem and cant lift stuff. My grandma has arthritis and is basically useless. she cant walk, she has a metal rod in one foot, her fingers are useless. We had a live-in maid there for a couple years but then she left.

Now my grandparents are there by themselves. We found a part-time maid, but she comes at 10am and my grandmom wants to take a bath at 9:30, and the maid doesnt come that early, so she refuses to have the maid. I think thats a big dumb because 30 minutes doesnt make a difference, why does she have to be to hard headed?

Anyways, now my mother wants to move there to take care of my parents. Were going to leave our house..our previous life..everything. since its just me, my mom and my sister, im wondering what kind of job will my mom have since shes going to look after her grandparents full time..?

And eventually, when they die what then? Are we going to move back? If we do my mothers going to be too old to do anything. What then? Shes going to do manual labour or I have to support everyone including ( if i get ) a wife and stuff?

When we move there im supposed to go to a private hostel. Im going to live there for 3-4 years until im 18 and then who knows what?


All this is happening because my grandmother cant wait for 30 minutes.
Thoughts/advice?

 

This is a very unique situation, I wish I had more to say. But could moving down there be that bad? You can start fresh. Moving to uni was the best thing that ever happened to me, and yeah I was pretty terrified at first, but everything has worked out perfectly.

A lot of the questions you're asking are ones that only your mum can really answer, we can't tell you what job she can get or what's going to happen after - she's the head of the household and ultimately it's her decision, but I'm sure she'd take you and your sisters opinion into great consideration.

Good luck.

 

so pretty much your moving just so your mum can give your grandma 30 minutes of her time back. No disrespect but thats abit selfish on your grandmas part, i get that your meant to respect your elderly and all but thats abit far taking away your life for 3-4 years just to have that 30 minutes earlier bath.

I would seriously try convince your mum that it is worth it, unless the place your moving to has more opportunities then where you live now i would seriously say its pointless. If your mum doesn't buy it then i guess you will just have to look at it positively thats all you can do really..

 

I would try to talk with your grandma, and explain that its kinda selfish...
But at the end of the day, she maybe deserves to be a bit selfish after everything she has done for you and your family ((maybe)).

 

The best thing you could do is reason with your mum and come up with alternate solutions eg. You could go to a boarding school.

I do empathize for you though your stuck in a life changing situation out of your control.