Weird Relationship .. Need ADVICE ASAP

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That relationship or what ever you want to call it, is never ever going to work out. I suggest leaving her when ever you can.

Just say you don't like the way things are, you want a relationship for the world to see.
You can also "accidently see her phone", when she wakes up pick up her phone and then "accidently" press what ever you need to see what you saw, while your doing it just be like aaahh wtf, then look and be like who the hell is such and such.

Personally I wouldn't do any of that, if my relationship was as ba as yours I'd just say "yeh this isn't working out, there are tones of girls out there that appreciate me and obviously your not one of them, cya later."
The just cut all contact off with her.

 

Thanks for your reply , that was exactly what I've been wanting to say.

 

Move on. You're only going to get hurt, when you find out she has fucked some other guy. Find another girl for the time being, just to occupy your thoughts and help get over her, as well as you'll have a girl to spend time with and get some action from. It's better her getting hurt if she's doing that shit behind your back than you getting hurt.

 

Your in the Zone called, "friend-zone". Its a secret trap laid out by cunning girls. Shes always going to be just out of reach. And depending on how old you guys are, she'll be fucking a another guy pretty soon.

The only way to combat the "friend-zone" is to be a badass and move on.

 

He's not really friendzoned, as the friendzone is more of when a guy tries to get with a girl, and she just says that she'd rather be friends.

In Bear in the Rum Bottle's dilemma, he got with her multiple times and now they've just broken up and agreed on not doing anything with anyone else, or someshit.

 

So um, they going to stay single forever?
Excellent!

 

Its a disguise. The "friend-zone" can happen when a couple breaks up. The girl will be interested in another guy, but still wants the special attention her ex-bf will always give.
Which is whats happening.
And a girl sticking to a promise like that? No thanks. If she wants to be with him there shouldn't be a problem with both of them dating.

 

Can't you see that she's using you? She wants you around just in case things don't work out with her other guys (why else would she make you promise not to flirt with other girls?) She's being a hyprocrite for asking you not to flirt with other girls when she's obviously talking with other guys. She doesn't love you. Anyone who loves you wouldn't break up with you and keep the relationship a secret. Everyone knew you two were seeing each other before, so why the sudden secrecy? Because she doesn't want the other guys to know.. so she has a chance with them. They probably wouldn't be talking to her if they knew she was seeing you.

She's a lier.
She's hypocrite.
She doesn't love you.
She's probably a cheater.

Dump her.

 

Just do what she's doing, start looking for a new gf, start talking\text other girls, flirt with other girls. One day she'll come to you saying you broke the promise and you'll tell her that she broke the promise before you.

 

Thanks for the advice much appreciated. <3 ..So far no one has said anything positive. ~.^ I guess the only smart and healthy thing for me to do is move on.

 

Yeah man just move on... she holding you back. If she tells you that she'd be hurt if you fell in love with someone else you told that same thing to her... yet shes flirting with her old ex's and new guys? Thats not the type of girl you want in life man. Its hard to accept but it's the truth. Not trying to get to private but, if your still having sex with her and she's flirting with about 5 other guys whats that say about her?

 

Thanks for the advice Bro. I'm surely taking the last thing you said in consideration. A lot of my IRL friends said close to the same thing.

 

There's nothing positive to it. She's using you as a fall back.

 

Try to renew your relationship, so she would spend more time with you and (maybe) forget other guys, but if you find her doing it again just leave her.

 

No offence, but that isn't too smart Unless you wanna end up getting hurt. He has to face that his relationship sank. There's nothing left to do but move on.

 

I think he still loves that girl, so he should give her a chance.

 

It's not going to work out hombre, if she's always calling other guys, but unless you really love her then dump her.

 

Thanks guys.

 

You have two options...

1) Let it all out. Sit her down one on one and make her listen to you. Be sincere about everything you say. Let it all out. Tell her you're sorry for looking (because you are..) but tell her what you found. Give her a chance to try to explain herself. I'm confused as to what she'll say because of the situation..I'm suspecting

a) oh, i wasn't flirting. it was just casual conversation

or

b) well, we aren't together anymore. I'll talk to who I want.

then you have a few ways to go about it..if you really love her just pour your heart out and tell her you meant it when you said it would hurt if you fell in love with another guy. Tell her you understand people change, but you still love her. Tell her you want her back.

or, option 2..

2) Just drop her. If she's going to go behind your back and betray you like that, you could always just give up on her.


Personally, unless you're very young or this is your first girlfriend, you probably know how hard it is to find a girl you love. So, personally...I'd go with option 1. Don't let a girl like that go.

I'll check back here later on, but if you need me here's my MSN: [email protected]

Good luck