Help please

Ill keep it short

I am 20 years old i been with my girlfriend for 4 years...i seen a picture of a guy in her room. the picture is dated for 3 months back she claims all they did was kiss and she only seen him once. of course she lied for 4 hours before i cracked the truth out i am wondering what should i do? should i leave her she cheated on her ex 2 times but she claims im different and when i mean by cheat she fucked those guys me being one.


also she says she bought him boxers for his b day and she saw him in it...but claims nothing happened.


I don't know if i should leave her or not...we live together.

 

in all honesty it just sounds like she is not ready to settle down with one man and be in a serious/committed relationship. as bad as it sounds, i truthfully think you would benefit most from leaving her. no sense in wasting time in a relationship that will backfire down the road...

 

Yeah.. you should leave her. Once a cheater, always a cheater... she cheated on you twice and then bought a guy boxers for his bday or xmas and saw him in them? most likely they probably "fucked". as the post above me, leave her you can find someone better than her i guess. she probably still has feelings for her. or what you could do is cheat on her if yur planning on ending the relationship

 

Chances are, she might cheat on you. Though if you've been in a healthy happy relationship, you never know. If I were you, tell her that her doing that really hurt (even if it didn't), and she'll never do anything like that to do again, if she really does care about you.

I hope she doesn't cheat on you bro.

 

Dump her, sounds like a cheating bitch imo.
She already has all these "shady" things and its obvious she does not seem to be one to settle with 1 man for the rest of her life.
I mean buying another boy boxers? i I would bitchslap her

 

Consider that you've been with her for four years, that's a pretty long time. My gut instinct always tells me once a cheater always a cheater, but people do change, so before you make a decision remember the investment you've made in this relationship and whether or not its worth the last four years of your life to just give up on it now rather than try and repair the damage she caused. Usually when someone cheats it's because of something their significant other has done or can't do, so maybe find out why she did what she did and see if you can amend to that.

 

Tell her to break her relationships with these guys (I mean no talk, no b-day presents, nothing) and give your gf a LAST chance, you're young enough to find cool: ) young meat nuts: ) if you have to start again

 

To the guys above she did all that in 1 setting the present/kiss

She sounded like she ment it and said she would do whatever it takes to repair the damage done if that helps the situation.

 

Then I restate what I said, you should follow your heart. If you can still love her stay with her. IMO:love:

 

She actually did fuck the guy..

edit: to avoid double posting and spam

She understands the pain she has caused, She also understands what she has done was incorrect and ops to fix it. I have decided to give her another chance not everyone is a saint the first time around, Furthermore thank you for the responses and input i haven't fully recovered from the impact this had and i shall work it out.

 

no one is perfect bro

but you should do a little test after few months from now...

you get one of ur attractive male friends and tell her to talk to her on the street or somehwere she will be there and see what happens

that if u still want to stay with her

i know it might sound stupid but it might work u never know..

 

Once a whore nothing more. I'd suggest to break up immediately, she's not cheated on you once but twice and she also lied to you. Like I said, I say break up with her and never look back on it. It might take a while to recover from the break up but you'll be much happier afterwards.

 

Doesn't soun like a very stable relationship to me, you can hve et another chance but you will never trust her again, without trust a relationship is just a pile of shit.

 

If she can prove that she won't do it again, and you can believe her, why not stay with her? Everybody makes mistakes, don't let a couple ruin something that might be great. Don't hold it over her head forever either. If you truly care about her, and you know you have to have her in your life then make her realize she can't do that kind of stuff to you.

 

Interesting you are right ill never know

That's not very fair i suppose but you do have a point. it was once all of that was in 1 setting she just broke it up into parts in fear i would hit her or something.

I don't understand how she can prove that at all. But yes i understand to move forward you can't dwell on the past but also let her know that really hurt my feelings.

 

I don't guess I really meant prove, just more convince. Ultimately it's your decision. I've been in same situation with a girl pretty much, I gave her another chance, and she cheated on me again, but I'd still do it all over again, just cause I love her.

 

That's so F*ckin' Real.....

 

Reading this makes me very sad, one thing I cannot stand is a cheater. First don't let it get to your ego, you maybe devastated that she was unfaithful but its not your fault, if she was unhappy she would should of broken it up with you. She didn't cheat because you were not good enough she cheated because she had made the decision to do the wrong thing. What she did to you says that she has no respect for you , your feeling and the relationship. But even if you decide to forgive her make sure she knows that what she did was hurtful and out of line. Good luck bro.