I'm extremely unhappy nowadays.

So I've been dating this girl right? A lot of people at my school are happy that we're dating, since she wasn't very happy for along time, after her last boyfriend had cheated on her, which was around July. I'm not talking about serious depression unhappy, but more of, just not happy.

Anyways, we've been dating for just under 2 months. She tells me that now that since she started dating me, she's really happy, and her life is good.

Well the problem is, I'm becoming progressively more unhappy. In fact, at times I wish I never started dating her, because of the emotional toll this relationship has taken me. I really do like her, you know the phrase "love on first sight"? Well, I may love this girl. She's perfect, cute, great personality, all except for one thing, she flirts with other guys, constantly. I doubt she means too, she is just kind of a flirty person, but it bugs the shit out of me. I'm a really jealous guy, and it really hurts when she starts texting my best friend more than she texts me. Or when she comments on another guys photo saying, "you look really sexy in this picture". She is also one of those girls who only hangs out with guys, because they claim that girls are too bitchy and mean to hang out with. All of that, just makes me really unhappy. I don't want to say anything about it, either, because then I'll just sound like a control freak, and me telling her would probably end in a fight, and I hate fighting. The whole thing would probably end really badly.

What should I do? I've had thoughts about just ending the whole relationship, but then she'd be really unhappy, and I'd probably even more unhappy till I finally get over her. Currently, I plan to just keep going, and hope maybe things will get better, but I'm afraid I might spiral into a state of depression, since nothing actually makes me happy, besides spending time with her.

 

tell her how you feel and see who she responds. If she loves you she doesnt want to hurt you and will amend the situation. Just don't take it to the point where you think every guy friend is flirting with her just ebcause they are guys.

And most notably, she'll probably forget the guys eventually.

 

Bring it up with her and tell her that it makes you feel uncomfortable. I'm sure she out of anyone would understand if she's been cheated on in the past.

 

When she comments on other guys photos saying things like "you look sexy" or whatever, doesn't she realize how wrong that it? She's meant to be dating you, she shouldn't be thinking about other men that way.

I can only suggest telling her how you feel about the flirting, she's bound to understand where you're coming from, especially from the picture comment thing. I hope you cheer up man, really.

 

Ask one of your friend to test her loyalty, whatever comes out - you know your position.

 

You gotta talk to her about these things. I know it will be hard to do but you gotta do it. It will bring you guys closer as well.

 

TELL HER THE TRUTH ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS.

Sorry but this is probably the most important advice of any relationship.

 

show her this thread? it will show her exactly how you feel.

 

I'm just seriously not sure. Maybe I overreacted. I've never been in a relationship that's made me like this.

 

The thing you are lacking in this relationship is trust, which plays a huge role in a relationship. Talk to her about these issues, you need to express your feelings about the situations to her, she may not even realize that it hurts you! You have only been in the relationship for 2 months im assuming you are quite young, i wouldn't get caught up with these things, let her go if talking to her doesn't work its better then leading her on. Hope this helps OP

 

Thanks for the advice. I've been talking to her now, and things are starting to improve. Somewhat.

 

If she's commenting dudes photos and you dont really wanna be with her, break it off.

All girls are whores, if you don't think this is true you haven't learned yet, but you will. it's not a bad thing, its actually a good thing. haaa

 

Guys, I need a bit more advice. You've all said break it off (for the record, it was on only one guys photo). I'm thinking of doing just that now.

See, last year, she went to some place in British Columbia (a province of Canada) and had sex with some guy after getting wasted at a party.

Well this year she's there right now, and she said she got wasted then passed out in a bed with 2 other guys. What the fuck. I honestly just want to break up with her and hurt her as bad as possible.

How are some ways to do this? I feel like being a giant dick.

 

The easiest thing to do is talk to her. Exactly what you have said in this thread. The rest will take care of it self.

 

LMFAOOOOOOOOOOO

Just talk to her about it and if she is becoming too bitchy, leave the conversation, rofl.

 

Well considering what you just said. END IT

 

Ok heres what you should do...and trust me. Ive helped quite a few guys with their problems on this forum :] haha:

Sit her down and talk to her. Just say: Hey babe, we need to talk. Dont worry, nothing bad. That should get her attention your serious, but be sure to add in "nothing bad" or she might try to avoid you. Make sure you two are alone, and just tell her how you feel. If she tries to interrupt, gently shush her by putting your finger on her lips, and smile so she knows you want to be heard and your not trying to be rude about it. Explain everything in detail, except the depression stuff. That will only make her unhappy because shes making YOU unhappy. But, make sure that you tell her that it frustrates you, her talking to other guys. Remember, just talk in a low soft voice, but sound kinda serious so she KNOWS your serious. Look her in the eye and smile sometimes so she knows your not trying to hurt her. She will do either one of two things: Apologize, and say shes sorry for it, she hadnt realized it hurt you; or she'll say: sorry, but I think we should break up if your going to try and control me. Though if you do it EXACTLY LIKE I SAID, I think that you'll DEFINETLY get the first one. :]! Hope I helped!

 

Ok lmao I just read what you said about breaking it off. PPRROOBBAABBLLYY shoulda read that sooner. Well, if you want to be rreeaallyy mean, call her a skanky fat ass whore, and that while she was doing it with strangers, you were doing it with her sister/mom/best friend, and you caught it on camera and its going on your MySpace/FaceBook, which she is deleted from. ! lol that way she'll be mad and start a fight with her sister/mom/best friend. NOOW I hope I helped lmao

 

What she is doing is typical. Girls who got steady bfs flirt alot. You have to be steady at the same time be easy on the relationship. If you keep going at her, then she will think she is 'prized' and will also try to attract others (not necessarily she likes them but rather a primitive behavior)

Give her space. Surprise her at the same time take the whole relationship as a game. It will be mentally easy on you (just in case

 

Well she doesn't have a sister, the thought of sex with her mother is fucking gross, and I'd probably have a chance with her ex-bestfriend, but I'd never do it, cause she's kind of gross.