Love, Life And The Military...

Hey guys, I haven't been posting lately because I've been going through a lot... So I decided to turn to the forums for this;

In the past couple weeks, after getting out of an almost 1 year relationship with a girl I cared about, I've been jumping in and out of relationships (3 of them). I kept getting used for sex and well, they were VERY manipulating. I didn't know them at all at the time, so I decided to just go ahead and see where the relationship went. They seemed nice, but it was all lies to get into my pants.

Then a few days ago, I started talking to this girl that I've known for about 8-9 months. She's really caring, understanding and everything. Turns out, she liked me back when I was with my ex (the one I was with for almost a year). We hit it off for a while and we're pretty much together. The problem is, she's my ex's friend. They're very close and we both feel bad because me and her have just broken up about a month ago...

To complicate things even more, I'm about to enter the Canadian Reserve's until I hit 17 (in LESS than 2 months) and join the regulars to serve for 20 years (To get a pension). I really feel for this girl because I know I can treat her right. Unlike all her ex's that just manipulated her and used her for sex... I feel like I can make her feel special... Even when I just talk to her when she's down, just by simply talking to her about everyday stuff, she gets happy in five minutes.

Please guys, I don't know what to do... This is really killing me...:'(

 

Can't you not choose not to go to the military if you really care about her?
To tell you the truth i'm 15, i'm trying to decide wether to go military or not, thats what i wanted to do my hole life, and which is probably what i'm gonna do, i'm not going for the money i'm going there for fun, and i know they might treat you bad in the army but thats my passion, thats what i always wanted to do from the age of 7.
I never gave up this dream, and when i'm gonna turn 17 i'm gonna leave, cause i love it.

Now for you, its your choice if you love some one and have deep feelings i'd say to stay with her and care for her, you will manage without the pansion, get a job, start out small you will get better rank in your job that you would be in even its a crappy job, you'd earn more money each rank, to the highest(manager, i think)

 

The thing is, I've wanted this since I was very young :/ I'm not going for cash or anything... It's been a dream of mine... She said she's willing to stay with me and try, despite the fact I'll be gone all the time, apart from 20 days a year... But I know it wouldn't work. *sigh*... Deagon, are you joining the Canadian Forces?

 

If you really like this girl, and you it's a dream of your to go into the military then just do your best with keeping a long distance relationship. I know that it may be hard at first, but it should be able to get easier after a while. If she can't take the fact that you will be gone for long periods of time, but i'm sorry to say it but if that happens just let her go. If going into the military is your dream, then you should not give up on it because of a girl.

Also about your ex girlfriend. To be honest really don't see it as a big deal. If i'm not mistaken you are still 16 years old, and things like this happen all of the time (Breaking up, getting back together with someone, breaking up, etc). If she really has a problem with it, then just try and sit down and talk with her to try and work things out. If she's a real friend of the girl that you like, then she will understand that she really likes him and probably just let it go.

I hope this helps, and I wish you the best of luck!

 

Thanks... I talked to her a few nights ago about my dream and she said she was willing to try (which every girl I was with before flat out told me they won't let me join). Because she knows it's my dream and she doesn't want to interfere. She talked to my ex girlfriend a few minutes ago and apparently she's telling her to choose between their friendship or our relationship... *sigh* I find a girl that doesn't turn out to be a bitch and this happens :/... I'm just going to tell her there's no point if her friend makes her choose between that AND I'm joining the military...

 

If you're going to pursue a career in the military, I would advise you to stay away from the love life until you get settled. At the beginning of your career there is lots of training that involves lots of travelling.

 

Yep... Not what I wanted to hear, but it's what I knew I should do... *sigh*... Oh well, I'll find someone else later on in life anyways. :noworry:

Thanks guys, if anyone else has anything to say, don't hesitate... I like hearing your responses...