Hitting of children as punishment

This has been on the Australian news recently and I thought I'd give my two cents here. I believe hitting of children as punishment (ie. spanking) should only be given once the child has done something life threatening (ie. play with a sharp knife). Your not your childs friend your their parent and they need to have discipline more than just being seated in an empty room.

 

I think discipline is somewhat necessary, but not to the point where it becomes child abuse.

 

I don't see any problem with spanking as a punishment. I got spanked a couple times, and it did the trick. But going along with Billetes, there's a fine line between a disciplinary spank, and abuse.

 

I say hit em. If you did something that deserves a spank or a slap then by god, do it.

Parents need to stop treating their kids so softly. Its not child abuse, its a punishment.


(i would much rather be hit with a belt 10 times then go to my room for 3 hours)

 

Honestly. I think parents in general are too soft on kids..
I'm not saying that just straight out hitting the kid is good but when they deserve a spanking then they should get it.

 

Your right, usual punishment here is just a timeout or a yelling, when you say spanking you must be specific on how hard I mean if your just giving a pat on the backside your doing nothing.

 

My Little girl puts everything in her mouth I find the only way to stop it is A little slap and take it of her, there is nothing wrong with that and people who think smacking there kids is a bad thing, Then there not going to learn...

She is only 14 Months so its still a bit hard to "Punish" her but 2 - 5 will be that main period...

 

Disciplinary actions never seem to work if they are not harsh enough. Yet, when it becomes to harsh, it will be regarded as child abuse.

A few strokes of the cane or hits, in my opinion, only makes the child more defiant and instills more anger within him.

Furthermore, the children will get used to the pain and punishment and will not fear of the punishment anymore when he or she does something wrong.

Therefore, i think that hitting of children as a punishment is a bad way of disciplining children and will not work.

 

In New Zealand its against the law to smack a child to some certain level, been like this for 2 years i think now? If you get caught like smacking your child overboardly in public and some 1 reports you can get kids taken away from you and face fines.

 

I say it should not be allowed, I know from firsthand experience what punishment can turn into.

My parents used to hit me as a child when I would do something wrong. Over time they started drinking and it went from a simple punishment to a game of who can hurt me the most. I say take away their kids and put them in jail if they are going to hit a child. A child is just so helpless and these punishments lead down a very bad road.

 

Your parents were alcoholics, I'm sorry to say but that isn't every other parent in the world.

 

No that is not how it started out samryan720, first they started hitting me as punishment. Soon I couldn't really even feel the pain of getting hit and they could see that. So they kept upping the ante on my punishments. It became child abuse way before they became alcoholics. But once they became alcoholics it got much worse, but that is not to say that before they started drinking it wasn't child abuse.

 

That's not how you put it earlier.

 

Sorry I wasn't clearer I just didn't feel like typing out an extremely elaborate response the first time. Basically I just wanted to show the progression of punishment to child abuse, alcohol did make it much worse though.

There are better methods to having a child behave than physical abuse, that is what modern psychology is for.

 

I'm not arguing with anyone about their opinion.

 

Personally, I will most likely use "spankings" as a punishment venue when I have children. But as it has already been stated, there's a difference between spanking and child abuse. Rule number one, its not a spank if its in the face. I was spanked when i was a child and it surely did do the trick, but not for the reason most people think physical punishments are used. Most of the time the belt didn't even hurt me at all, but when your parents have a long talk with you first about WHY your getting the belt, instead of just yanking there belt off and whipping you with it, then you will really think about it next time because you realize what you did was wrong. I think the *disappointing looks* was worse than the actual punishment itself, but this is how it should be, you don't want your kids to fear you, you want them to respect you and understand why you do the things you do.

 

Well, I was slapped when I was younger and I behaved for a week after that.

Kids don't react to shouting, a good slap makes them come to their senses.

 

Totally agree,

if it is given for good reason I don't see a problem.

 

physical discipline is never necessary. its called a negative reinforcer which actually supports the behavior contrary to popular belief. old fashioned sitting still doing nothing is actually infinitely more efficient to a child than any sort of physical punishment. take a psychology class then come back and try to tell me physical punishment is necessary (even on rare occasions).

 

ABUSE is the cause of what you talk of in the first quote. Anger is temporary when hit. Ofcourse the child is going to get angry. But are they going to do it again knowing they are going to get smacked? There is a chance, and if the child is going to rebel then it means one thing. The child wasnt disciplined at early enough of an age.

Used to the pain and punishment? LOL.