Just found out a secret..

Solved, no need to keep posting.

 

find a free clinic, they'll test you for your "problem" and will give you medication for it. thats your best bet and its all hush hush your parents wont be notified.

 

I think I know what you are talking about... sucks man :S

 

Talk to someone who only you are in contact with.

I suggest a counselor of some sort. If it means that much to you, the $40 for a session shouldn't be a big deal.

 

I'll throw it out there, lets say...she was raped a few months ago by someone we knew, but he left to go back to another state he lived in.

 

oh wow I was WAY off, ok heres what you do... imo you should go to your parents, they'll help you make the right decision bro... don't keep secrets, they could potentially find the solution to help you sleep at night DO NOT TELL THEM WHICH FRIEND YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT

 

They will know who I'm talking about..its a long story. That's why i need someone else.

 

Wow this is very serious, but isn't it up to your friend to make the decision.

Try advising her to report this matter to the police. This is very serious , and you should not let the rapist go scot-free.

Try to convince her that getting raped isn't anything shameful to be about. The rapist is the shameful, downright despicable one.

 

I have talk to her plenty of times. I just need to talk to someone about this other than her, then i will sit down with her and talk to her. Who would i go to?

 

That's very true my friend.

You can talk to us on sythe, i'm more than willing to help you although im not professional.

but if you seek professional help, perhaps you can go to the local clinic and ask for references?

Or you can try the internet. Certain websites offer professional help.

Can you tell me how you feel now?

 

Report it to authorities. Thats not something to mess around with.

If he did it to her, and he just left without consequences he probably going to do it again.

Whether she wants to or not, you NEED to report it to authorities. Dont be stupid. Look at it as letting a rapist get away.

 

I've known a few girls that have been raped and it blew my mind as well when all of them told me. The best thing for you to try to do is let it go, the past is the past, you can't do anything about it besides forget about it. If it is really bothering you that much, I suggest going and seeing a professional and talking to him/her about it.

 

Yeah, but she doesn't even want to tell her parents. I think she gets the feeling she will look trashy or bad in front of her parents, friends and me. It's not her fault, besides..she is a very great person. She is pretty, has good grades and plays 3 sports.

 

Would you want to tell your parents? It would be in her best interest too, but it's humiliating to her, and she is embarrassed and ashamed of it, even though she probably couldn't have prevented it, my friends were the same way.

 

If she isn't lying than convince her to get help by the law enforcement or her parents. This is a serious issue and has nothing to do with you. Rape is really embarrassing and she told you probably because you're the only one she can trust. If she needs help she'll get it but honestly it takes time. Don't run around telling everyone or you'll probably just end up losing her.

 

Meh, what I'd do in this situation is probably ask her to go to church (if you're religious) and talk to your Priest about it. He's usually a good person to go to. Otherwise I'd also call the police because it's not right. My ex-girlfriend was raped while I was dating her. It literally made me not sleep at night, so to make yourself you should do this.

 

i think, that the only way you can let this matter stop disturbing you is to report it to the police.

When the rapist is caught, you and her will probably feel much better.

 

Stay with her. Be there for her. It's the only thing you can do. In time she will be willing to open up. She has to eventually. It's a very embarrassing and degrading moment in her life. Just be her comfort zone for now. She will eventually come through.

 

I like you man..thanks the the post..what you said is what I did and came home to see your post.

Just talked to her today and settled everything out. This thread can be closed or deleted now.
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Thank you everyone else also who told me what to do.

 

School counselor, tell them not to repeat it.

Or if you want, you can talk to me about it.

I am not a 100% professional, but I can help. I use skype: Jace.Grabowsky

Add me if you would like to talk.